• NUWAY Annual Picnic 2018

What Have You Got to Lose?

Some gamblers lose everything, even their lives We all like to win. Some people, though, obsess about winning and sacrifice everything they care about to pursue the next big win. They typically go down hard and fast. Money losses are quick and massive. Friends and family react with horror and disdain when finding out they’re victims, too. Felony convictions and suicides are among the tragic results. The Big Win What changes a simple fun activity into a potential prison or death sentence? A big win early on is what often ignites the first magical thinking. Jack had always stuck with … Continue reading

The Push of Pain, The Pull of Hope – A Gambler’s Story

I grew up with alcoholics. There were aunts and uncles that gave me boozy hugs, a godmother that called and picked fights after a few cocktails, and a dad that died of cirrhosis. As a result, I have a favorite quote, “If you can’t be a good example, at least be a horrible warning.” My family tree is filled with horrible warnings. At a young age, I decided that I wanted no part of that life at all. While my high school and college friends experimented with alcohol, I was extra cautious, usually serving as the designated driver and babysitter. … Continue reading

Why Am I Depressed When Everything Is Going Great for Me?

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“I am so sick and tired of being sick and tired. I can’t even talk about it anymore. I go for long periods where life is good and I’m fairly happy. I have a great job as an engineer, a reasonably good relationship with my wife and all of our three kids are in college. How could anybody be unhappy with that set up? But then for no reason at all I go into the dumps. I can’t get up when life is good. It’s always been that way in my life. I’ve never been continuously happy. It’s up and … Continue reading

Ending Your Life is Not the Answer to Your Situation

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You are at the end of your rope and you can’t take it any much longer. You are in pain and you are suffering and you feel there is no hope. The first step you need to do is to seek professional help. Do not make the decision to end your life when you are in these kinds of fearful situations. Here are six reasons why suicide and fear are not options regarding your problems. Things change over time. Regardless of your situation, things do not stay the same. You may feel very bad today, but it won’t last forever. … Continue reading

The Power of Love

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“We must discover the power of love, the redemptive power of love. And when we do that, we will make of this old world a new world, for love is the only way.” — Martin Luther King Did you attend the wedding? The May wedding in England…that moment of love that brushed politics, rancor and greed aside and let us all — the whole world — gaze into the power of love. While Megan and Harry were a beautiful couple, it was the beautiful sense of peace and wonder that took the stage. Our countries, once enemies, once competitors, once … Continue reading

Accelerated Resolution Therapy Gives Life Back to Recovering Gambler

Kathy had been doing well in her recovery from gambling addiction, having abstained for a dozen years with only occasional fleeting thoughts about gambling. But when a workplace assault created new trauma and awakened old feelings from previous traumatic experiences, she suddenly had unprecedented cravings to gamble, even devising a plan to travel far away to engage in a gambling spree. For nearly a year after the workplace incident, which left her with psychological damage, and torn ligaments and broken bones in both wrists, Kathy was unable to find relief. “I went through a lot of talk therapy to work … Continue reading

6 Tips to Beat Stress

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Stress affects everyone, damaging our health and relationships. Here are a few easy-to-consider tips for reducing stress in your life. Plan ahead and be flexible about your expectations. Think about your plans for vacations and family gatherings. Everyone else has expectations and sometimes they won’t match yours. Plan for spontaneity. If you allow the plans that others have to be a part of what brings you joy, you might find you have more fun. That way, everyone shares ideas and activities. Be aware of what your body needs.This includes healthy food, plenty of water, rest and exercise. Don’t throw your … Continue reading

In Al-Anon…

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There was a period in my life where I spent most of my time doing one of two things: I was either worrying to extremes, or praying about what I was worrying about. My prayers were desperate. I often prayed, “Please let him come home safely.” Sometimes I prayed for something to change. At other times, I would make bargains. I would plea for resolution, and make promises in exchange. My prayers all had one thing in common: I would pray with a specific outcome in mind. “Please make him stop drinking.” “Please help him to find a job.” “Please … Continue reading

What Are the Odds?

I sometimes get asked this question, usually in reference to drug addiction. “What are the odds that my son or daughter will become a drug addict when they grow up? My husband is a “normie” and I’m an recovering alcoholic,” the query begins. “It depends,” is the response, “on so many things. And even with all factors being favorable — genetics, social and home environments, school systems, mental health — there is still no guarantee.” And then I witness a nearly imperceptible shift signaling disappointment. Eyes cast downward, heads nod oh-so-slightly as the parent digests the understanding that they’ve been … Continue reading

When You Are Parented With Shame

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“I’m sorry but I have to cancel our dinner date. I have the flu. I know this is the second time I’ve done this and I wouldn’t blame you one bit if you gave up on me. Or, maybe if you let me pay for dinner next time, we can still be friends. I can’t thank you enough for wanting to get together with me. I’m lucky to have you as a friend. Love ya.” Shame definitely has a place in our lives when we’ve done something wrong or hurt someone else. But it has no place in our lives … Continue reading

Take a Mini-Retreat with Aromatherapy

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Retreats are a vital part of healthy recovery and overall wellness. They come in all shapes and sizes; with varied costs, time commitments, and focus. Taking time for a retreat encourages rest, relaxation, and rejuvenation. Integrating a mini-retreat into your daily self-care routine is a simple way to manage stress and enhance your overall wellness. Aromatherapy is an effective and accessible wellness tool that can be easily incorporated into your lifestyle. So let’s explore aromatherapy, essential oils and how they work, and how you can start to use them right away to take that much needed retreat. What is Aromatherapy? … Continue reading

A Woman’s Way Through the Twelve Steps

By Stephanie S. Covington Hazelden Publishing Although written over 20 years ago, this book still provides a valid message to readers today. Covington is nationally recognized for her work with women in private treatment and correctional institutions. Using the 12-Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, she provides a “gender-responsive approach” to addiction and recovery, relationships, sexuality, and spirituality. In the introduction, Covington describes the history of Alcoholics Anonymous and explains why she thinks women may benefit from a more focused approach to recovery, one that is specific for women. Readers will find thoughtful and inspiring stories from women who worked the 12- … Continue reading

How to Survive Your Childhood Now That You’re an Adult

By Ira Israel Skyhorse Publishing, Inc. Israel acknowledges that he wrote this book as a way to share what he learned from studying psychology, philosophy, sociology and spirituality. As a psychotherapist, he teaches his clients how to learn to be present and embrace every moment of life. He describes how to be authentic and live at the higher end of the happiness spectrum. Meditation and yoga are two of his recommendations to accomplish that goal. Folks in the rooms of recovery have heard that the characteristics developed in order to get their emotional and psychological needs met as children may … Continue reading

Forty Things I Wish I’d Told My Kids

By John Allcock Morgan James Publishing Allcock says, “Ninety percent of your worries are wrong.” He maintains, “What we do is not as important as how we are.” And he thinks that most of what we fear is imaginary. These are some of the topics in emails he sent to his daughters, who are now grown, to demonstrate his care and concern for them. He states the information was what he wishes he’d known to teach his kids when they were young. Readers benefit from those emails. For example, the one stating that ninety percent of your worries are wrong … Continue reading

Memo From God

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I arrived at St. Paul of the Cross Retreat Center in Detroit, Michigan on a warm, sunny weekend in the late spring of 1991. My sponsor hinted strongly that I should attend the weekend gathering. Now that I was no longer suggestion-proof, I was discovering what he meant by going to any lengths. His timing was perfect, as usual. It felt like everything was caving in on me again. I needed some help. I sobered up and was divorced almost simultaneously early in 1987, one of the most difficult periods of my life. Now, four years later, disappointment and sadness … Continue reading