By Christine Hassler
New World Library
Have you ever had things not turn out the way you though, planned, or wanted them to? We suffer when our reality doesn’t match the expectations we are attached to. Hassler states, “Expectation hangovers are doorways to tremendous opportunities to heal issues from our past, change how we are living in the present, and create a future based on who we truly are rather than who we are expected to be.” These may be situational, interpersonal, or self-imposed expectations. They are generally similar to what one experiences with a hangover from too much alcohol.
She offers readers a multi-dimensional approach to guide them out of suffering from expectation hangovers and into transforming disappointment. Using practical tools such as an Expectation Hangover Assessment and self-help techniques such as journal writing and roleplaying, readers are provided step-by-step guide for learning from disappointment.
When one understands the components of an expectation hangover and experiences disappointment, Hassler states, “You will know how to move through it in a faster, more uplifting way.” And the timespan between expectation hangovers will increase. She includes stories of individuals who have experienced expectation hangovers and how they managed afterwards. So, the next time your expectations aren’t met, ask yourself, “What am I learning?”
There are guided visualizations available on Hassler’s website which readers may find helpful.
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