We all know that Happily Ever After doesn’t always pan out. Tinderella and Prince Match.com don’t always ride off into the sunset, and well, that doesn’t mean it was a complete failure after all.
Many times people come into our lives for a moment of time to help us grow and expand; then their duty is done.
Unfortunately we often get so caught up in obsessive future planning of the “what if’s” and the “might be’s”, that we miss the magic of the moment. Which essentially is all that really exists.
What about this…Happily Ever Now.
Being present with your partner.
Dropping all of the wondering and worrying about if this relationship will or will not last, and instead appreciating the fact that the person is actually here, now, standing right smack in front of us.
The art of being in love in the present moment, takes a bit of cultivation, a slowing down, and it takes mindfulness.
Here are 4 powerful ways to get your relationship back to the here and now:
- Pinch Yourself: Be grateful that in this moment you are together, notice who they are and how they contribute to your life. Take time to appreciate their strengths, their flaws, their attractive qualities, and their shortcomings.
- Let it Happen: If you have just met, allow your love story to organically tell itself. Stop trying to force the relationship into the next level without enjoying the stage you are in together now.
- Avoid Social Media: When you partner is trying to connect with you…limit your attention to social media. Leave the phone in the car during date night; shut the computer down when the sun goes down so that you can be present and available for some evening magic!
- Be Authentic: Take time to authentically communicate with your partner about how you feel, especially when something is on your mind. Take a risk and allow yourself to be venerable by communicating without blame or judgment, your true needs and wants.
Happily Ever Now is a quite a magical place to be by simply being present and learning to relax about the future. Fairytales can and do come true, but who wants to get to “The End” that fast anyway!
Jennifer Grace is the author and coach of Creative Insight Journey
Last Updated on January 10, 2021