Category: Relationships

When Someone You Love Lacks Soul

“My life was going great until one day at the office this good looking guy, Sam, a computer consultant, came on our floor and I just couldn’t keep my eyes off of him. Co-workers said, “Marty, he’s a nerd. He’s not your type. Leave him alone.” Did I listen to them? No I didn’t. As …

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Being Nice May Not Be Very Nice

 Geez! Some people just don’t know how to be grateful. I told my ex-wife, Laurie, that I’d be over to light her furnace. Laurie’s a klutz with mechanical things and I thought she’d be blow her whole house up if she did it herself. When I came out of the basement with soot all …

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Our Villages and the Power of Affirmation

In the past eighteen months, everyone has been through an incredibly complex time as our usual ways of doing life and relating to others have changed – very often, radically! As I thought about and lived through these events and experiences, I found myself thinking about two realities – first, our need for places to …

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Why Is It So Hard to Have a Close Friend?

When all is said and done, it’s the time we spend with friends that gives life meaning. —Abraham Lincoln Finding and keeping an authentic friend is hard for all of us. Sometimes a true friend may feel impossible to find. In fact there are no perfect friends out there for us to have. Some people …

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Learning How and When to Trust Others

Hold fast to dreams, For if dreams die, Life is a broken-winged bird That cannot fly. —Langston Hughes, 1902-1967, poet Let’s talk about trusting others. We live in an age of massive distrust. Political leaders are frequently seen today as self-serving and lacking integrity even when many are honorable. Yet the betrayals of public trust …

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Becoming Community

The Phoenix · Becoming Community “The most daring thing is to create stable communities in which the terrible disease of loneliness can be cured.” – Kurt Vonnegut I miss people. I miss little people, big people, happy people, crabby people. I miss the spontaneity that a safe environment supports. I miss hugging friends and rubbing …

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What Does It Take to Make a Love Relationship Last?

Many people have experienced falling in love, committing to another person, and then later discovering that the relationship just isn’t working. Long-term relationships require time, energy and work. Some people don’t do the work it takes. Others are so vastly different that their lives are spent trying to convince the other person they are wrong. …

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