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# The Phoenix Spirit

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- [A Spiritual Awakening](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2026/06/a-spiritual-awakening/) - "Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these Steps" — these are the opening words of Step 12 of the 12 Steps. The creators of the Steps believed that working the previous eleven Steps would lead people to experience a spiritual awakening, encouraging them to share what they had learned with others. So,
- [When Someone You Love Has a Personality Disorder](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2026/05/when-someone-you-love-has-a-personality-disorder/) - Jack, God bless him, has been a faithful provider, an attentive usher at our church, and a great banjo player for the past 20 years. What more could a girl ask for, right? Well, let me tell you. I've been lonely for all those 20 years. Not a night goes by without my wishing I
- [Many Small Steps Can Lead to a Giant Step](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2026/05/many-small-steps-can-lead-to-a-giant-step/) - Small steps! As I watched the recent journey of the astronauts to the moon and back, I was reminded of where I was on July 20th, 1969, when Neil Armstrong, the first man to walk on the moon, uttered what have become immortal words for me: "one small step for a man, one giant leap
- [Chasing the Northern Lights: A Guide to the Aurora](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2026/05/aurora-chasing-basics/) - From safety tips to mental health benefits of “the chase”, discover why the Minnesota aurora is a powerful tool for recovery and peace.
- [Techless Wisephone Review: Take Back Your Life With the Dumb Smart Phone](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/07/techless-wisephone-review/) - If you are like most Americans, you own some type of smartphone. It might be in your hand right now as you read this article. Take a glance at it and consider how it has changed your life. It has been a tool to capture memories, stay informed, and keep in touch with friends and
- [Your Food, Your Sobriety](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/08/your-food-your-sobriety/) - It is common knowledge that people with addiction problems usually are considered to have more sensitive brain chemistry than those who don't. As a nutritionist, I believe that chemically-dependent people need to eat more carefully for biochemical balance and comfortable sobriety. It is surprising that most chemically-dependent people have never considered the impact of what
- [May I Have a Word?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2026/01/may-i-have-a-word/) - “I know nothing in the world that has as much power as a word. Sometimes I write one, and I look at it until it begins to shine.” Emily Dickinson Here we are again, another year. Maybe it’s my age, but it does seem that they roll around more quickly than in the past. “Wait!” I shout.
- [The Commons](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2026/03/the-commons/) - A nation is formed by the willingness of each of us to share in the responsibility for upholding the common good. ~ Barbara Jordan I recently visited the memorials for Renee Good and Alex Pretti. It was a Saturday afternoon, after the Department of Homeland Security announced the drawdown of ICE agents. The memorials were easy
- [Time to Retreat](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2026/05/time-to-retreat/) - “All of humanity’s problems, stem from man’s inability to sit quietly in a room alone.” Blaise Pascal Scattered. I feel scattered. It is spring and the earth is coming alive. I take on that spring energy. I cannot sit still. I want to be in the garden. I want to clean out closets, rearrange the
- [Safe Passage: Tips for Traveling While Sober](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2026/05/safe-passage-tips-for-traveling-while-sober/) - Early in his recovery, Stephen P. boarded a plane for a conference, flying from Portland, Ore. to London. As the only sober person in his traveling party, he struggled. On the flight over, he was surrounded by people indulging in, as he said, “adult beverages.” And, once in London, in the city of pubs and
- [Ask the Expert: Kari Kleven of Minneapolis Nature-Based Therapy](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2026/05/ask-the-expert-kari-kleven-of-minneapolis-nature-based-therapy/) - 1. Can you share a little bit about your background and what led you to nature-based therapy?I’m a licensed clinical social worker and the founder of Minneapolis Nature-Based Therapy. Early in my work in a community mental health clinic, I began noticing that when clients, especially those dealing with trauma, anxiety, or substance use, spent
- [In Memoriam: Nell Hurley](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2026/05/in-memoriam-nell-hurley/) - There is a particular kind of person who makes you feel, simply by being in the room with them that you matter. They make you feel that you have something to offer, and the world is better because you're in it. Nell Hurley was that person—and the recovery community in Minnesota, and far beyond, is
- [Who's In Control: You or Your Work?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2026/04/whos-in-control-you-or-your-work/) - Work used to be like walking the family dog—you did it out of a sense of duty, and it was good for your soul. Nowadays, work is more like walking a pit bull—you hang on for dear life as it drags you along. Too many of us are overworked, threatened by job insecurity through downsizing
- [A Father's Love](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/05/a-fathers-love/) - June is the month we celebrate fatherhood and fathers everywhere. It seems to me that Father Love is very strong---both love from fathers and love for fathers. Two brothers, ages 24 and 27, recently had a reunion with their dad. For the first time in a long time, the father flew into town and visited
- [The Greatest Challenges of Parenting](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2026/04/the-greatest-challenges-of-parenting/) - More than ever, parents need support and guidance to raise healthy children. But we can only expect caregivers to be as nurturing as they themselves are nurtured. Our telecommunications world is too often impersonal, overly complex, and destructive of quality family time. As we head into the next millennium, we'll need greater wisdom and courage
- [Ask the Expert: Rochelle Gredvig of Peacetree Family Institute](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/05/ask-the-expert-rochelle-gredvig-of-nystrom-and-associates/) - We feature an expert in the mental health and substance use disorder field to answer questions. This issue we talk to Dr. Rochelle Gredvig of Peacetree Family Institute about dissociative disorders. What is your current role at Peacetree Family Institute? What inspired you to do the work that you’re doing? I’m a clinical diagnostician and
- [Are You Getting Enough Sleep?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2026/04/are-you-getting-enough-sleep/) - To sleep: perchance to dream; ay, there's the rub. —William Shakespeare's Hamlet, Act III. You and I spend approximately one-third of our lives asleep. Although at time we may appear to be sleepwalking through life, perhaps due to occasional bouts of restless sleep, few of us would like to experience daily problems with sleep loss.
- [Getting Through the Dark Times: Two Stories of Hope](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/01/getting-through-the-dark-times-two-stories-of-hope/) - Living with an emotionally distant, rageful father left Deanna Broaddus hungry for attention and solace. Men – lots of men – were her first recourse, and then alcohol and drugs. Except for a suicide attempt at age 18, Broaddus did well, working and pursuing a master’s degree so that she could follow her passion to
- [Take a Mini-Retreat with Aromatherapy](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/05/take-a-mini-retreat-with-aromatherapy/) - Retreats are a vital part of healthy recovery and overall wellness. They come in all shapes and sizes; with varied costs, time commitments, and focus. Taking time for a retreat encourages rest, relaxation, and rejuvenation. Integrating a mini-retreat into your daily self-care routine is a simple way to manage stress and enhance your overall wellness.
- [Getting to the Heart of Retreats](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/05/getting-to-the-heart-of-retreats/) - “Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself and know that everything in this life has a purpose. There are no mistakes, no coincidences. All events are blessings given to us to learn from.” Elizabeth Kübler-Ross When I think of retreats, I imagine practicing early-morning yoga, living virtuously on a plant-based diet for
- [You've Got a Friend](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2026/03/youve-got-a-friend/) - Well, I've finally wised up. I used to think people were my enemies. I used to see everybody as strangers. Now, as I face death, I know differently. The only enemy I have is myself. The only stranger I meet is the friend I haven't yet made inside myself. You know, deep down, we're all
- [When Good-Hearted Men Marry Selfish Women](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/07/when-good-hearted-men-marry-selfish-women/) - “The Knife and the Wound Both Need Each Other.”— Sheldon Kopp, Psychoanalyst and Writer I’ve been married to Laura for 25 years and I’ve never been able to please her. We go for a period of time with things going well between us. Then out of the blue she gets bent out of shape over Are you giving everything in your marriage and getting nothing back? Learn to recognize the signs of a selfish partner — and what healthy relationships actually look like.
- [Chasing the Win: The Rapid Rise of Sports Gambling and Addiction](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2026/03/chasing-the-win-the-rapid-rise-of-sports-gambling-and-addiction/) - Later this month, the NCAA will host its annual March Madness men’s and women’s basketball tournaments at packed sports arenas around the country. While the Super Bowl remains the largest single-game wagering event, March Madness stands as a bigger and more widespread betting affair given its total number of participants, games and duration. Last year,
- [From Quarters to Quarterbacks](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2026/03/from-quarters-to-quarterbacks/) - I’m here to share a cautionary tale for anyone who still believes in the illusion that gambling is something they can do just for fun without it affecting them in negative ways. It took me a long time to remove the blinders and be honest with myself. For years, I didn’t know how to live
- [Write Off Your Car This Tax Season to Benefit Someone in Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2026/03/write-off-your-car-this-tax-season-to-benefit-someone-in-recovery/) - If you have an old car—or even a snowmobile—cluttering up your yard, you may have considered writing it off for good. But what if that “good” could benefit someone in recovery? Bruce Studer of Cars for Recovery explained more to me in a recent interview with The Phoenix Spirit. “We take cars, trucks, motorcycles, snowmobiles,
- [Traditional Healing for Native American Communities](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/07/traditional-healing-for-native-american-communities/) - Traditional healing is a relatively new program based on well-established “tried and tested” methods. The nature of traditional healing is based upon knowledge and sacred ceremonies passed through the generations, carefully taught, and intrinsically linked to the respect of the communities. The Minnesota Department of Human Services’ Traditional Healing for Native Communities program, which is
- [Ask the Expert: Dr Lia Nower of Rutgers University](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2026/03/ask-the-expert-dr-lia-nower-of-rutgers-university/) - Q: You've spent over two decades researching problem gambling. Please tell us a bit about yourself, your work, and what first drew you to this research? I used to be a criminal trial attorney. When I was training as a public defender, I struck up a work friendship with a court clerk. One day she disappeared,
- [Youth Gambling is More Than a Game—It’s a Growing Risk for Minnesota Families](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2026/03/youth-gambling-is-more-than-a-game-its-a-growing-risk-for-minnesota-families/) - As parents and guardians, we strive to protect our children from risks we understand—from unsafe driving and substance use to social pressures and mental health challenges. Yet one risk that’s often overlooked in family conversations is problem gambling. Gambling today looks very different than it did even a decade ago. It’s available on phones, in
- [When One Addiction Replaces Another: Understanding the Risk of Gambling in Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2026/02/when-one-addiction-replaces-another-understanding-the-risk-of-gambling-in-recovery/) - Recovery from alcohol and drug addiction is a life-changing journey. It often involves rebuilding health, relationships, purpose and identity. But recovery also brings a lesser-known risk: the possibility of “addiction switching,” when a person replaces one harmful behavior with another. For many people in recovery, gambling can become that substitute. Because gambling is legal, socially
- [When Envy Is a Problem](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2026/02/when-envy-is-a-problem/) - The Lord had regard for Abel but for Cain he had no regard. Cain was very angry and his countenance fell. Cain rose up against his brother, Abel, and killed him. Then the Lord said to Cain, "Where is Abel your brother?" Cain said, "I do not know; am I my brother's keeper?" - Book
- [Ask the Expert: Dr. Joseph Lee of Hazelden Betty Ford](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/01/ask-the-expert-dr-joseph-lee-of-hazelden-betty-ford/) - We'll feature an expert in the mental health and substance use disorder field to answer questions Q: In terms of addiction, how does the adolescent or young adult brain differ from an adult’s? The adolescent brain is still developing. Young people tend to have less physical effects from drug use (i.e. hangovers, withdrawal) but their
- [Ask the Expert: Mathew Meyers of Traverse Counseling and Consulting](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/03/ask-the-expert-mathew-meyers-of-traverse-counseling-and-consulting/) - Meyers answers questions about compulsive technology use
- [Ask the Expert: Jes Reyes of COMPAS](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/07/ask-expert-jes-reyes-of-avivo-artworks/) - Our Q&A with Jes Reyes of Avivo talking making art and recovery.
- [Ask the Expert: George Lewis of Motivational Consulting, Inc.](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/09/ask-the-expert-george-lewis-of-motivational-consulting-inc/) - We’ll feature an expert in the mental health and substance use disorder field to answer questions Q: What does "bami soro" mean, and how can it be helpful for people in recovery? In the Yoruba language of the West African ancestors of many Black Americans, bami soro means “talk to me,” in a way that’s
- [Ask the Expert: Jessica Nelson-Mitchell](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/03/jessica-nelson-mitchell-of-fairview-recovery-services/) - We feature an expert in the mental health and substance use disorder field to answer questions. This issue is Jessica Nelson-Mitchell of Fairview Recovery Services. We asked her questions about compulsive gambling. Q: What are some of the different ways that people gamble? Many people associate gambling with the casinos, but gambling is much broader
- [Ask the Expert: Heather Jeffrey of Acres for Life](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/05/ask-the-expert-heather-jeffrey-of-acres-for-life/) - We feature an expert in the mental health and substance use disorder field to answer questions. This issue we talk to Heather Jeffrey of Acres for Life, a stable that offers equine therapy for those in addiction and other mental health issues. Q: What is Equine Assisted Psychotherapy (EAP)? Equine Assisted Psychotherapy is an experiential
- [Ask the Expert: Drama Therapist Nadya Trytan](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/07/ask-the-expert-drama-therapist-nadya-trytan/) - We feature an expert in the mental health and substance use disorder field to answer questions. This issue we talk to Nadya Trytan about Drama Therapy and how it can assist those in recovery and those with mental health issues. Q: What is Drama Therapy? I am frequently asked this question, and there is so much
- [Ask the Expert: Dr. Lynsey Miron of Rogers Behavioral Health](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/09/ask-the-expert-dr-lynsey-miron-of-rogers-behavioral-health/) - We feature an expert in the mental health and substance use disorder field to answer questions. This issue we talk to Dr. Lynsey Miron of Rogers Behavioral Health about Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and how it relates to substance abuse disorders. Q: What is OCD? Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is characterized by obsessions, compulsions, or both, that
- [Ask the Expert: Michaelene Colestock of ANEW Chemical Health Services](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/11/ask-the-expert-michaelene-colestock-of-anew-chemical-health-services/) - We feature an expert in the mental health and substance use disorder field to answer questions. This issue we talk to Michaelene Colestock of ANEW Chemical Health Services and Spence Specialties LLC about women in recovery who have children. Q: What are some of the specific struggles that women have related to substance use disorder
- [Ask the Expert: Ed Treat from The Center of Addiction and Faith](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/01/ask-the-expert-ed-treat-from-the-center-of-addiction-and-faith/) - We feature an expert in the mental health and substance use disorder field to answer questions. This issue we talk to Ed Treat of The Center of Addiction and Faith about finding hope while in recovery / dealing with mental health issues. Q: How does having a sense of hope impact someone's overall mental health
- [Ask the Expert: Dietitian Nicki Zeidner](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/03/ask-the-expert-dietitian-nicki-zeidner/) - We feature an expert in the mental health and substance use disorder field to answer questions. This issue we talk to Dietitian Nicki Zeidner about eating better while in recovery and dealing with mental health disorders. Q: What is nutrition, and why is it important in recovery? Food and beverages provide the body with energy
- [Ask the Expert: Dr. Tanya K. Bailey of the University of Minnesota Boynton Health's PAWS (Pet Away Worry & Stress) Program](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/05/ask-the-expert-dr-tanya-k-bailey/) - We feature an expert in the mental health and substance use disorder field to answer questions. This issue we talk to Dr. Tanya K. Bailey of the University of Minnesota and her work studying the healing connection between humans, animals, and nature What is the nature of the relationship between people and animals? The lives
- [Ask the Expert: Michael Durchslag of P.E.A.S.E. Academy](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/07/ask-the-expert-michael-durchslag-of-pease-academy/) - We feature an expert in the mental health and substance use disorder field to answer questions. This issue we talk to Michael Durchslag of P.E.A.S.E. Academy about recovery high schools. Q: What is a recovery high school, and how is it different from a traditional high school? According to the Association of Recovery Schools, founded in
- [Ask the Expert: Dr. Derrick Stowell and Horticultural Therapy](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/11/ask-the-expert-dr-derrick-stowell-and-horticultural-therapy/) - We feature an expert in the mental health and substance use disorder field to answer questions. This issue we talk to Dr. Derrick Stowell of University of Tennessee Gardens about horticultural therapy and it's benefits for those with substance use disorder, mental health issues and traumatic brain injuries. Q: How would you describe the people-plant relationship?
- [Ask the Expert: Rebecca Bjorklund](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/09/ask-the-expert-rebecca-bjorklund-of-meridian-behavioral-health/) - We feature an expert in the mental health and substance use disorder field to answer questions. This issue we talk to Rebecca "Becky" Bjorklund of Meridian Behavioral Health about the process of entering treatment. Q: Would you be able to provide some insights into your professional background, your present role, and the aspects of your
- [Ask the Expert: Dr. Jody Friesen Grande](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/11/ask-the-expert-dr-jody-friesen-grande-of-hopeallianz/) - We feature an expert in the mental health and substance use disorder field to answer questions. This issue we talk to Dr. Jody Friesen Grande of HopeAllianze about thriving and coping with holiday stress. Q: Could you please share a little bit about your background and what led you to working as a holistic therapist/counselor,
- [Ask the Expert: Patti Miller of Midwest Center for EMDR Training](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/01/ask-the-expert-patti-miller-of-midwest-center-for-emdr-training/) - We feature an expert in the mental health and substance use disorder field to answer questions. This issue we talk to Patti Miller, MA, Co-Owner & Director, Midwest Center for EMDR Training about Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR). Please share about your background and what led you to work with people who experienced trauma and
- [Ask the Expert: Rachel Kennedy of Rachel Kennedy Mediation](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/03/ask-the-expert-rachel-kennedy-mediation/) - We feature an expert in the mental health and substance use disorder field to answer questions. This issue we talk to Rachel Kennedy of Rachel Kennedy Mediation about using mediation as a tool in recovery. What is mediation? Broadly, mediation is a way to resolve conflict, often after harm has already occurred. There are many
- [Ask the Expert: Jeff Willert of Vinland National Center](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/11/ask-the-expert-jeff-willert-of-vinland-national-center/) - We’ll feature an expert in the mental health and substance use disorder field to answer questions Q: How important is fitness/wellness in the recovery process? It is very important! I always say, “If you feel better physically, you feel better mentally. And if you feel better physically and mentally, you are more likely to stay
- [Ask the Expert: Katie Richard of Vinland National Center](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/03/katie-richard-of-vinland-national-center/) - We feature an expert in the mental health and substance use disorder field to answer questions. This issue we talk to Katie Richard of Vinland National Center about helping those with problem gambling. What is your role at Vinland National Center and what inspired / led you to work with compulsive gamblers? Currently I am Vinland’s
- [The Wisdom to Know The Difference](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2026/02/the-wisdom-to-know-the-difference/) - The title of this article is probably a phrase you have said and heard many times as it comes from one of my favorite prayers – the Serenity Prayer. The Serenity Prayer is often a stable of many 12 Step groups either as a way to begin a meeting and/or to end a meeting. I
- [How to Not Take Things So Personally](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/04/how-to-not-take-things-so-personally/) - "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt, This Is My Story I had an eye-opening experience at church last week. A bunch of ladies at our coffee hour were all talking about their adult kids and how well they were adjusting to the challenges of college life. Being that my
- [Shunning Emotional Closeness: A Modern Tragedy](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2026/01/shunning-emotional-closeness-a-modern-tragedy/) - "Sometimes I wish I had never met you. Because then I could go to sleep at night not knowing there was someone like you out there." From Good Will Hunting The most important human need is the need to attach. You'd never know that living in today's world. So many of us are constantly chattering
- [Doing a Disappearing Act](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/10/doing-a-disappearing-act/) - "Where was I? I'm here. At least I think I'm here. Wasn't I?" —Josh, multiple tour Marine Veteran, Iraq War Most of us grasp that people exposed to overwhelming horrors may feel that life is just not nailed down for them. A part of them lives in a seemingly rewarding present world while another part
- [Why Am I Depressed When Everything Is Going Great for Me?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/07/why-am-i-depressed-when-everything-is-going-great-for-me/) - “I am so sick and tired of being sick and tired. I can’t even talk about it anymore. I go for long periods where life is good and I’m fairly happy. I have a great job as an engineer, a reasonably good relationship with my wife and all of our three kids are in college.
- [The Ties That Bind - Marriage As a Team](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/08/the-ties-that-bind-marriage-as-a-team/) - If you ever have been part of a winning team, you know what synergy means. It is like magic, When a couple becomes committed to each other, they become a team. It means they leave their respective families and join together to make a new family that is the first family and the roots of
- [People Incorporated Announces Free Accessible Artability Workshops](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2026/01/people-incorporated-announces-free-accessible-artability-workshops/) - People Incorporated Mental Health Services is pleased to announce its 2026 Artability Workshop Series, offering free, accessible creative workshops for adults throughout the year as a tool for self-expression, connection, and personal growth. Artability provides a welcoming, inclusive space where participants can explore creativity regardless of artistic experience or ability. Artability is open to anyone
- [What's Your Purpose?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2026/01/whats-your-purpose/) - The question that I raise for this article has been on my mind since reading the book The Power of Purpose: To Grow and Give for Life by Richard Leider and David Shapiro. This is the 4th edition of the book (Oakland CA: Berrett-Koehler Publishers, 2025). The authors raise questions for everyone as life purpose is such
- [From the Publisher](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/07/from-the-publisher-2/) - Someone asked me recently who my favorite teacher was. Ok, truth be told, it was one of those password questions on a website for Delta. But it got me thinking nonetheless - despite the lack of face-to-face contact. I thought of Sister Brown at Sacred Heart School. She taught me not to laugh at the
- [Amber's Story](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/03/ambers-story/) - I haven’t always been known as a person in recovery, as a matter of fact a label that many knew me as is would be addict, meth-head, felon, thief, liar, and many more. I spent 14 long years loyal to a drug that should have killed me. Yet, I stand. My Life Then By the
- [Putting Faces to Hope: How Anoka County Is Addressing the Opioid Crisis](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2026/01/putting-faces-to-hope-how-anoka-county-are-addressing-the-opioid-crisis/) - The faces behind opioid addiction are not always what you might expect. “People were saying ‘Opioids aren’t an issue here. That’s something that happens over there. That happens down in the city. That happens to those people,” Patti Constant, Senior Program Manager of the Anoka County Opioid Solutions Initiative (ACOSI) told me in a recent
- [Walking the Recovery Road: His Sobriety Drives Him to Help Others](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2026/01/walking-the-recovery-road-his-sobriety-drives-him-to-help-others/) - Photo by Tracy Walsh Jason Lennox and his fundraising efforts on behalf of mental health and addiction treatment programs were well documented last fall by several local news outlets. The Southern Minnesota native, who now lives in Hopkins, walked 15 to 25 miles every day, starting in late September and continuing through October. His 307-mile
- [Mud Pies](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2026/01/mud-pies/) - While dad was working, Martha, my mother, took my brother Sam and I from our Kansas City home to visit my grandparents in Detroit. Martha told us that Billy Lee would follow along to meet us, but he did not. Once at Charles’ and Bella’s Scottish household, my ardent unraveling began. It disoriented me and
- [Money Woes](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/10/money-woes/) - “Money makes the world go ‘round” may be a great song title, but all it seems to do in your household is make things come to a screeching halt. Let’s say it’s the holidays, and you can’t believe you and your wife/girlfriend/husband/boyfriend are fighting about money-again. She goes out and buys a ridiculous set of
- [Naivete: Believing Someone Cares About You...When They Really Don’t](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/11/naivete-believing-someone-care-about-you-when-they-really-dont/) - Oh, who among us can forget the wonderful world of childhood innocence?! The world was our oyster. Good overcame evil. We were protected and safe. Life was simple. At least that’s what we thought at the time. Obviously not all of us had such experiences. However those of us who were well protected undoubtedly went
- [In a World Without Empathy](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/12/in-a-world-without-empathy/) - Imagine living in a world where no one is capable of understanding anybody else’s feelings. In such a world, someone could grasp how you feel only if he or she had exactly the same experiences you’ve had. If they hadn’t had those experiences they would have no idea what you are talking about. Consequently, you’d
- [Ask the Expert: Sadie Broekemeier of Recovering Hope](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/07/sadie-broekemeier-of-recovering-hope/) - We feature an expert in the mental health and substance use disorder field to answer questions. This issue we talk to Sadie Broekemeier of Recovering Hope about attending school for addiction studies. Q: Could you please share a little bit about your background and what led you to pursue a career in alcohol and drug
- [The Rewards of Returning to School as an Adult](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/07/the-rewards-of-returning-to-school-as-an-adult/) - Returning to school as an adult posed a serious threat to my mental health. Balancing a full-time career, full-time university, and full-time recovery was a significant challenge. For five years, I focused primarily on surviving the process of obtaining my master's degree. Late nights, lack of sleep, and excessive procrastination all made the road to
- [Minnesota North College: Meeting a Need, Transforming Lives](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/07/meeting-a-need-transforming-lives/) - Minnesota North College nets funding for training counselors, changing lives of students in recovery The shortage of mental health professionals in Minnesota, including those working as licensed alcohol and drug counselors (LADCs), has been well documented. One in four jobs in the field is currently vacant, according to an April Minnesota legislative report. At the
- [Is a Career in Addiction Studies Right for You?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/07/is-a-career-in-addiction-studies-right-for-you/) - Perhaps you’ve wondered whether a career in addiction counseling would be a good fit for you. You’re sober, or have recovered from an eating disorder, gambling addiction, or substance abuse. You’ve cleaned up your life, helped a few others change theirs, and now you feel you could do more. You’d like a job that supports
- [One Step at a Time](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/01/one-step-at-a-time/) - I stood at the edge of a parking lot near the zoo in Duluth, Minn., waiting for the sun to come up and for the mosquitos to quit biting. They were merciless that July morning, and I had not thought to bring insect repellent. I paced and swatted, hoping my constant movement would make me
- [Managing Cross Addiction](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/05/managing-cross-addiction/) - One of my favorite analogies that I have heard while in recovery is that working through a recovery program is like playing a game of whack-a-mole – the minute one addictive behavior is pushed down (or quelled for the time being), another one pops up to be dealt with. I heard this analogy while sitting
- [What Are Addiction Trusts?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/03/addiction-trusts/) - Twin Cities lawyer, Rachel Schromen writes about addiction trusts and how they may protect assets from being misused or protect addicted persons.
- [Ask the Expert: Danielle Baker on Nutrition in Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2026/01/ask-the-expert-danielle-baker-on-nutrition-in-recovery/) - This issue we talk to Danielle Baker, LMFT, of D. Baker Therapy to discussion nutrition in recovery. Q: What first drew you to combine nutrition and mental health in your work? I started out in a college undergraduate program as a dietetics and nutritional science major with a heavier focus/interest initially in nutrition. I grew up
- [A Moral Compass: What Is It? How Is It Built? Why Do We Need It?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/07/a-moral-compass-what-is-it-how-is-it-built-why-do-we-need-it/) - You know, about thirty years ago I had a big decision to make while dating my wife-to-be. I could either hide the fact that I had a son that I had never seen before or else tell her the whole truth and risk losing her by paying back child support that I owed my son
- [Unspeakable: When Our Adult Children Want Nothing to Do With Us](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/01/unspeakable-when-our-adult-children-want-nothing-to-do-with-us/) - You know, every holiday and birthday is like a dagger in my back. Sometimes I just lie on my bed and cry my eyes out. I adopted Maria when she was two-years-old as I couldn’t have children of my own and had no husband. Her mom died of a drug overdose. She was the cutest
- [Ken Barlow's Story: I Have a Mental Illness (Making It Public)](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/01/ken-barlows-story-i-have-a-mental-illness-making-it-public/) - Sometimes you just have to blurt out the truth. That’s what happened in 2012 to Ken Barlow, chief meteorologist at KSTP-TV. He was standing before thousands of walkers gathered in support of the Minnesota chapter of the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). Barlow had agreed to host this annual benefit walk, and as he
- [Waste, Fraud and Abuse in Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/02/waste-fraud-and-abuse-in-recovery/) - Dante once said, “The hottest places in Hell are reserved for those who in time of moral crisis preserve their neutrality.” It's time for us in recovery to speak out about the avarice and greed that has permeated our recovery community. What I'm talking about is the alarming indictments that have been announced about two
- [Self-deception: When Who You Are Is Not Who You Really Are](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/12/self-deception/) - Most of us are more easily fooled than we think we are. If a stranded motorist knocks on our door and asks us to use our phone, we generally let them in. If an attractive person compliments us on our new appearance, we generally believe him or her. If someone offers to help us do
- [Ask the Expert: Yussuf Shafie of Alliance Wellness Center](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/09/ask-the-expert-yussuf-shafie-of-alliance-wellness-center/) - We feature an expert in the mental health and substance use disorder field to answer questions. This issue we talk to Yussuf Shafie of Alliance Wellness Center in Bloomington, Minnesota about providing treatment to the East African population. Q: Please share with our readers a bit about yourself. I’m Yussuf Shafie, owner and director of Alliance
- [The Hidden World of Video Gaming Addiction](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/03/hidden-world-of-video-gaming-addiction/) - In 2020, as in-person activities were shuttered for months, our online lives took on much more significance and that included increased exposure to video games. Although there has been much handwringing about screen time and the addictive dangers of video games, hard facts have been difficult for both parents and clinicians to come by. I
- [Offering Love to People Who Are Dying](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/03/offering-love-to-people-who-are-dying/) - In the past few days, since news was shared that a beloved friend is dying, several people have come to me to ask what they can do. This friend is such an exquisite human; it is no surprise that so many people want to help and that there has been such a beautiful outpouring of
- [My Recovery Story](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/09/my-recovery-story/) - Hi, my name is John Tolo. Here is my recovery story. I grew up in the toughest ghetto in New England outside of New York City. My family was the only white family in a neighborhood that was mostly Black and Hispanic. We moved there in 1972, at a time when racial tensions were high.
- [How Culture is Turning Us All Into Unhappy Fools](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/01/how-culture-is-turning-us-all-into-unhappy-fools/) - Those of us in the field of addiction recovery understand all too well the concept of euphoric recall. We chase things outside ourselves to make us happy based on a thrilling memory of how they once did, albeit temporarily. Our pulse rate increases, we get arousing physical sensations and we can't stop thinking about the
- [Pat Samples Memoriam](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/02/pat-samples-memoriam/) - With a heavy heart, we regret to share with our readers that beloved writer Pat Samples passed away while vacationing in Mexico in early January of this year. Many of you will know Pat through her writing with The Phoenix Spirit. She had such a way with words that made the people and places that
- [REMastered Sleep (Now REMplenish) Water Bottle Review](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/05/remastered-sleep-water-bottle-review/) - While visiting a physical therapist with my wife, the conversation turned to my snoring. "He snores bad." my wife unapologetically said. The therapist began citing reasons for snoring and ways to improve it. One of them is to start trying to breath more through the nose. Most snorers are mouth breathers (like myself). She also
- [The Pharmacist Review: How One Man Turned His Grief Into Advocacy](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/02/the-pharmacist-how-one-man-turned-his-grief-into-advocacy/) - Netflix's The Pharmacists is reviewed by The Phoenix Spirit staff. A stunning tale about the lengths one man will go to affect change in the opioid crisis.
- [The News of My Demise Has Been Greatly Exaggerated](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/10/the-news-of-my-demise-has-been-greatly-exaggerated/) - Some of you may have learned that I had a terrible head accident in July 2024 and was forced to retire from my private practice and license of 44 years. Although I am partially competent to practice, I was unable to walk and hear properly, sit for long periods of time and concentrate on what
- [Why Can't We All Get Along With Each Other?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/05/can-we-learn-to-forgive/) - Most of us pick fights with others to cover up the wars we have with ourselves.—Anonymous Our country and the world really are in trouble. These days there are almost daily shootings in the news. School board meetings, public health discussions and state budget debates, and inexplicable road rage incidents occur daily and can be
- [Ask the Expert: Nell Hurley of Hurley Health](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/01/ask-the-expert-nell-hurley-of-hurley-health/) - We feature an expert in the mental health and substance use disorder field to answer questions. This issue we talk to Nell Hurley of Hurley Health on the benefits of fitness and nutrition in recovery. Q: Please tell us a little bit about yourself and how you became involved with fitness and life coaching. Fitness has
- [Vitamins, Minerals, Hormones: How to Find your Spiritual Adrenaline](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/02/vitamins-minerals-hormones-how-to-find-your-spiritual-adrenaline/) - How many of you paid attention to what you were eating in active addiction? Not many I bet. I certainly didn’t. When you’re in active addiction, the only thing that matters is chasing the next high. As soon as it wears off, it’s right back at it. The vicious cycle keeps repeating itself and everything
- [Shelter-in-Place Self-Care](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/05/shelter-in-place-self-care/) - Even if you did not fully listen to the pre-flight safety presentation the last time you were on an airplane, I am willing to bet you can recall the flight attendant’s advice to put your mask on before helping others. The reason is simple: You cannot help anyone else if you are in danger of
- [Ask the Expert: Patricia Rogers of Body to Brain](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/01/ask-the-expert-patricia-rogers-of-body-to-brain/) - We'll feature an expert in the mental health and substance use disorder field to answer questions Q: How can body awareness impact recovery? Many approaches to addiction recovery incorporate a variety of practices that improve body awareness, including yoga, meditation, mindfulness-based interventions and CranioSacral therapy. These practices foster awareness of inner bodily sensations, which may
- [Forgiveness: Especially Self-Forgiveness](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/11/forgiveness-especially-self-forgiveness/) - Many, many years ago, the English poet, Alexander Pope, wrote lines that have become classic: “To err is human, to forgive is divine.” What comes to me in this is that being a human being involves making mistakes, hurting others and ourselves, and accepting that we are imperfect. He also indicates that the ability to
- [Seeking Happier Holidays? Managing Expectations Can Help](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/11/seeking-happier-holidays-managing-expectations/) - Don’t look now, but the holidays are nearly here. And while it can often be a joyful time, those in recovery find that the season can also bring challenges, even threats to one’s sobriety, making the holidays especially tricky. Triggers are everywhere, a recovery center blog post recently pointed out. Holiday gatherings, family parties, frequent
- [So Just How Important Is a Simple Act of Kindness?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/02/so-just-how-important-is-a-simple-act-of-kindness/) - Love is something if you give it away, Give it away, give it away. Love is something if you give it away, You end up having more. It's just like a magic penny, Hold it tight and you won't have any. Lend it, spend it, and you'll have so many They'll roll all over the
- [Chat With a Helper: Carolyn Kinzel of Brighter Days Family Grief Center](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/11/carolyn-kinzel-of-brighter-days-family-grief-center/) - Q: What led you to found Brighter Days Family Grief Center, and how did your own family's experience with loss shape your mission? The vision for Brighter Days Family Grief Center began in 2010, sparked by the deaths of my colleague's wife and son. As I searched for resources to support him and his daughter,
- [Healing in the Woods: How One Woman Turned Sobriety into Statewide Hope](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/11/healing-in-the-woods-how-one-woman-turned-sobriety-into-statewide-hope/) - Jode Freyholtz-London, founder of Wellness in the Woods, a Recovery Community Organization (RCO), shares her recovery journey and career path. Her story begins in a small town with good intentions and unspoken pain. “I’m from rural Todd County, in central Minnesota,” Jode recalls. “Alcohol wasn’t really part of my family life—maybe a beer when it
- [Commentary From Minnesota’s First Addiction and Recovery Director](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/11/addiction-and-recovery-director-commentary/) - This past year has been eventful in the addiction and recovery space. Program integrity concerns, a new legislature, and the transition in the federal government brought a significant amount of change and disruption. At the federal level the change in priorities, staff and funding cuts in federal agencies, and inconsistent guidance to states created additional
- [Building a Stronger Foundation for Recovery Housing in Minnesota](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/11/building-a-stronger-foundation-for-recovery-housing-in-minnesota/) - Stable housing is one of the most important building blocks for recovery from substance use disorder. That’s especially true for people who are exiting treatment and entering one of the most vulnerable times in their recovery journey. Without stable housing, people are at much greater risk of relapse, hospitalization, or incarceration. That’s why Minnesota is
- [Beginner's Mind](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/11/beginners-mind/) - "In the beginner's mind there are many possibilities, but in the expert’s there are few." Shunryu Suzuki The holidays of late fall and early winter are laden with tradition, memories, and expectations. As I enter this often fraught season, I consider the Buddhist teaching of beginner’s mind, the concept of meeting each moment with curiosity and wonder.
- [Holding Both: Grieving What's Been Lost While Choosing Hope in Families Facing Addiction](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/10/holding-both-grieving-whats-been-lost-while-choosing-hope-in-families-facing-addiction/) - He was wearing shorts and flip-flops in February. I stood by the door and watched him leave - my son, heading who knows where. The door closed behind him, and for a moment, my whole house snapped into color. I could hear everything again - the birds, the wind, the hum of the street outside.
- [Why Wait](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/09/why-wait/) - Procrastination is like a credit card: it's a lot of fun until you get the bill. —Christopher Parker Procrastination is a con. It tempts me into thinking it will be easier later, tomorrow, next week. It lets my fears expand and my resolution diminish. It holds me in suspension, like salt in the sea, ever
- [Empowerment: An Important Element of Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/09/empowerment-an-important-element-of-recovery/) - In this publication, over the past several years, I have not kept secret that I am an avid 12 Stepper and that I have been very grateful to have found the Steps. They have become a very important part of my recovery and life for over thirty years. I see the 12 Steps as not
- [New Sober House for Veterans With PTSD Offers 'A Chance to Heal'](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/09/bravo-zulu-helps-vets-with-recovery-ptsd/) - The numbers tell the story. In 2022, nearly 18 U.S. military veterans died by suicide each day, according to statistics from the Department of Veterans Affairs. Some sources say that number may likely be higher, closer to 22 a day, according to Tim Murray, executive director of Bravo Zulu House, a recently opened sober house
- [What Touring Sober Taught Me About Resilience](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/09/what-touring-sober-taught-me-about-resilience/) - The scene is a familiar one; I’m at an airport at 7am, waiting for a flight to Toronto, to begin a cross-country tour that heads west for 3 weeks. I’ve given myself ample time to comfortably check in, clear security, and grab myself a tea and pastry once I am through. I am showered, well-groomed,
- [Community-Made Vs Self-Made: Rethinking Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/09/community-made-vs-self-made-rethinking-recovery/) - As a faith leader in recovery, my life exists at the nexus of personal development and spiritual growth. If you read this column regularly, you’ll know that I am a recovering addict who lives well with bipolar I and that I became a pastor while in recovery. I have spent 2025 testing, deconstructing, and observing
- [A New Grassroot Recovery Organization Emerges to Meet Community-Specific Needs](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/09/a-new-grassroot-recovery-organization-emerges-to-meet-community-specific-needs/) - Substance use disorder (SUD) is something that isn’t talked about in a lot of communities, especially those of a culture-specific nature. Take, for example, the Hmong people. “Hmong people are known as survivalists and are really resilient. And to add that we have a SUD, it’s kind of like shaming,” Xianna Moua-Yang, co-founder of Koom
- [Three Reasons for Hope in Minnesota's Recovery Landscape](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/09/three-reasons-for-hope-in-minnesotas-recovery-landscape/) - September is National Recovery Month — a time to celebrate the millions of Americans in recovery from substance use disorders and to promote the evidence-based treatments, supports, and communities that make recovery possible. At the Minnesota Department of Human Services, we are privileged to work alongside providers, advocates, people in recovery, and families every day.
- [When Your Partner Has a Temper Problem](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/09/when-your-partner-has-a-temper-problem/) - "Anger is a symptom, a way of cloaking and expressing feelings too awful to experience directly—hurt, bitterness, grief, and, most of all, fear." Joan Rivers  My Frankie is like a split personality. Most of the time he is the sweetest guy. He'd give you the shirt off his back. But when he gets mad,
- [Sponsorship: Walking With Another in Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/08/sponsorship-walking-with-another-in-recovery/) - Before I became a member of a 12 Step group over 30 years ago, when I heard someone say “Sponsor,” I would think of the different companies that sponsor programs and advertise in magazines and newspapers. Since becoming a member of a 12 Step group, my ideas about sponsorship have dramatically changed. These days, I
- [The Sweet Tooth: Defeating the Little Rascal](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/08/the-sweet-tooth-defeating-the-little-rascal/) - By now you have probably read enough to understand that sugar and sweets should be crossed off your grocery list. But actually kicking sugar and eliminating cravings is a difficult feat, as its many fans know all too well. Battle of the sweets As monumental a feat as quitting tobacco is, giving up sugar can
- [Curosity: An Important Aspect of Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/07/curosity-an-important-aspect-of-recovery/) - The title of this article might surprise you as I suggest that curiosity is an important part of recovery. In this article, I can hopefully describe why I believe this, as well as where my curiosity has led me. I begin with a saying that probably you have heard of: “Curiosity killed the cat.” One
- [Exploring Food,  Culture, and Recovery: Interview With Andrew Zimmern](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/07/exploring-food-culture-and-recovery-interview-with-andrew-zimmern/) - Andrew Zimmern, celebrated chef, writer, and television personality, is an adventurous, passionate storyteller, a media producer, and a person devoted to long-term recovery. In this interview, edited for clarity and length, Zimmern shares insights into his early life, his work, and sobriety. “I had a childhood that anyone would envy. My father ran a big
- [Becoming the Okayest Version of Yourself](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/07/becoming-the-okayest-version-of-yourself/) - Hey, you! Yeah, you! What if I told you that in zero easy steps you could become a completely average version of yourself. Imagine if being more physically fit, eating better, reading more, learning more, being more organized, and meeting new people didn’t matter because you embraced being a completely unremarkable human being. What if
- [Chat With a Helper: Heather Gallivan of Melrose Center](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/07/chat-with-a-helper-heather-gallivan-of-melrose-center/) - This issue, we talk with Melrose Center's Heather Gallivan about her work helping those with eating disorders (EDs). Can you tell us a little about how you got involved in this kind of work? I had an interest in eating disorders since I was an undergrad when I did a shadowing experience at an eating
- [Food as Medicine: A Sacred Path to Healing in Native Communities](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/07/food-as-medicine-a-sacred-path-to-healing-in-native-communities/) - In many American Indian communities, food is much more than sustenance. It’s medicine. It’s ceremony. It’s connection to land, to ancestors, to spirit, and to each other. And today, in Minnesota, that sacred understanding of food is helping Native people on the path to recovery and wellness. At the Minnesota Department of Human Services (DHS),
- [Food for Thought](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/06/food-for-thought/) - “Let food be thy medicine and medicine be thy food.” Hippocrates It’s growing season in Minnesota. Farmer’s markets are bursting with vegetables that tease our tastebuds—radishes, scallions, arugula. Mint and dill transport lettuce into surprise spurts of flavor. The first snap peas pack a crunch when sautéed in a dash of olive oil. Rhubarb’s sweet-sour flavor
- [Why We Keep Repeating Self-defeating Behavior](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/06/why-we-keep-repeating-self-defeating-behavior/) - "We have met the enemy and it is us." —Winnie the Pooh We all know the routine. We promise ourselves to work out at the gym and later find reasons not to. We tell ourselves we've had it with being lonely on the weekends yet we don't join that dating service. We really miss our
- [Addicted Societies and Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/05/addicted-societies-and-recovery/) - Many years ago, I came upon a very interesting book. The book was entitled When Society Becomes an Addict (Harper Collins Publishers: New York, New York, 1987). The author was Ann Wilson Schaef, who was a clinical psychologist and died in 2020. I began thinking about this book a number of months ago and finally
- [Explore a State Park to Enhance Your Outlook](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/05/explore-a-state-park-to-enhance-your-outlook/) - A visit can help you slow down, enjoy nature. The cold and dark days of winter are mostly in the rearview mirror these days. As we move into longer days and warmer temps, Linda Radimecky, an interpretive naturalist for the Minnesota Department of Natural Resources (DNR) Parks and Trails, reminds us that spring and summer
- [Making a Podcast? Expect a Creative Crisis](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/05/making-a-podcast-expect-a-creative-crisis/) - On May 16th, 2024, I sent an email to a production company with an idea about a podcast exploring mental health stigma in a diverse variety of faith communities. Twelve months later I completed a six part limited documentary series streaming on all platforms. Sometimes the creative process was life giving. However, I am a
- [Refocus Recovery and the Complex Future of Peer Support in Minnesota](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/05/refocus-recovery-and-the-complex-future-of-peer-support-in-minnesota/) - A Personal Reflection on Ethics, Growth, and Hard Lessons In 2019, Minnesota faced a mounting public health crisis. Substance use was rising, overdose deaths were climbing, and the state’s treatment systems were overwhelmed. Traditional healthcare struggled to keep up. Amid this chaos, one solution began gaining momentum: Peer recovery support offering guidance and encouragement from
- [Chat With a Helper: Valerie Gustafson](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/05/chat-with-a-helper-valerie-gustafson/) - This issue, we talk with Hennepin Health's Valerie Gustafson, a Licensed Alcohol and Drug Counselor about her journey from Peer Recovery Coach to LADC. Views expressed are of Valerie's and not of her employer. Can you share a bit about yourself and your role at Hennepin Health? I’m a person in long-term recovery (since 2008)
- [Federal Behavioral Health Cuts Jeopardize Lives of Minnesotans](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/05/federal-behavioral-health-cuts-jeopardize-lives-of-minnesotans/) - The federal government’s decision to rescind up to $27.5 million in critical behavioral health funding from Minnesota is not just short-sighted — it’s dangerous. This action threatens to dismantle essential mental health and substance use disorder services that thousands of Minnesotans rely on every day. On March 25, the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services
- [Melody Beattie (1948-2025)](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/05/melody-beattie-1948-2025/) - "Letting go of our ideas about how life should go is a choice that sets life’s magic free.” Melody Beattie Melody Beattie, the woman who brought the term codependency into normal conversation, died on February 27, 2025, at the age of 76. Her story is grounded in Minnesota. She was born in Ramsey, went to
- [Loving Those We Hate](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/04/loving-those-we-hate/) - "We have met the enemy and he is us." Pogo, a comic strip character. Is it possible to have compassion for someone we totally hate? Do we play no part in the relationship with our arrogant boss who regularly puts us down? Can we ever forgive a parent who has virtually changed the course of
- [Mom's Big Shoulders](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/04/moms-big-shoulders/) - The other day I was chatting with my good friend Julie, the Julie I walk and pray with—I have many Julies in my life. I was explaining to her my shoulders are disproportionally large for my body. I apologized to her because my sizeable shoulders were atmospherically leaning over the table. Disagreeing, she said I
- [Recognition](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/03/recognition/) - He and my mom never married, but they were together for 35 years, and he was a welcome sober soul at boozy family gatherings. At one point, he had to stop drinking to save his liver, and for a while, he went to meetings. We had sobriety in common until he started to drink socially
- [Head to the Barn to Horse Around: Equine Therapy and Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/05/head-to-the-barn-to-horse-around-equine-therapy-and-recovery/) - The Phoenix · Head to the Barn to Horse Around Anne K. was having a bad day. An unpleasant experience while shopping set off massive feelings of anxiety. Her husband knew what would calm her. He pulled up on his phone a photo of one of Anne’s horses with a rainbow in view behind it.
- [Upside App Review - After 1 Year](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/05/upside-app-review-after-1-year/) - With soaring gas and food prices today, we're all looking for ways to save more money. Some may advise against the "penny wise, pound foolish" adage, but I say, why not do both? While listening to the radio last year, I learned about a new app that offers cashback on everyday purchases simply by registering We offer our review (the good and bad) after one year of using the Upside app.
- [Having Had](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/04/having-had/) - Just after takeoff from Minneapolis-Saint Paul airport (MSP), a seatmate asked my destination. I was visiting a cousin in Germany. He was on his way home from an Oregon vacation. We were both relaxed and free of the scowls on the faces of business class passengers. Finding common ground with friendly people is a bonus
- [Accelerated Resolution Therapy Gives Life Back to Recovering Gambler](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/07/accelerated-resolution-therapy-gives-life-back-to-recovering-gambler/) - Kathy had been doing well in her recovery from gambling addiction, having abstained for a dozen years with only occasional fleeting thoughts about gambling. But when a workplace assault created new trauma and awakened old feelings from previous traumatic experiences, she suddenly had unprecedented cravings to gamble, even devising a plan to travel far away
- [What Have You Got to Lose?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/07/what-have-you-got-to-lose/) - Some gamblers lose everything, even their lives We all like to win. Some people, though, obsess about winning and sacrifice everything they care about to pursue the next big win. They typically go down hard and fast. Money losses are quick and massive. Friends and family react with horror and disdain when finding out they’re
- [How Gambling Disorder Distorts the Brain](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/07/how-gambling-disorder-distorts-the-brain/) - Addiction — of any kind — is often difficult for many people to understand. But gambling disorder, a compulsion in which no chemicals are actually ingested into the body, can be particularly confounding. Gambling disorder refers to the uncontrollable urge to gamble, despite serious personal consequences. In 2013, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual 5 grouped
- [More Help for Problem Gamblers in Minnesota](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/08/more-help-for-problem-gambling-in-minnesota/) - You don’t have a gambling problem. You don’t even know anyone who has a gambling problem. So just ignore this and go to the next article. After this one question: Did you know that of all addictions, problem gamblers have the highest suicide rate? Maybe you did. Yet, some people don’t even think it’s a
- [The Faces of Gambling Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/03/the-faces-of-gambling-recovery/) - Three stories of Minnesotans in recovery from gambling disorders.
- [Coping With Another Person’s Gambling Problem](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/03/coping-with-another-persons-gambling-problem/) - Maria suspected that something was going on with her husband but didn’t know what. He was taking a lot of phone calls behind closed doors. He often seemed frantic to intercept the mailman before the mail was delivered to their house. And his interest in the outcome of various sporting events seemed to intensify in
- [The Lure of Gambling, Online Gaming, and Sports Betting](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/03/the-lure-of-gambling-online-gaming-and-sports-betting/) - When kids turned eighteen in Minnesota, a favorite way to highlight the occasion, especially in the early 2000’s, was with a night out at a nearby casino. They celebrated their milestone birthdays with all the exuberance of youth who’ve reached the legal age to participate in an adult activity. Most adults continue to enjoy occasional
- [Alison Ashby: Grateful Recovering Alcoholic](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/03/alison-ashby-grateful-recovering-alcoholic/) - The year was 2017. I lay in a hospital bed, unsure of my surroundings. I could not walk, eat, remember my name, or correctly identify a lion on an aptitude test. I was informed that I’d had an alcohol withdrawal seizure so severe that my prognosis was uncertain. I had been in a medically induced
- [When You Were the Emotional Comforter of a Needy Parent](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/01/when-you-were-the-emotional-comforter-of-a-needy-parent/) - Some children grow up playing a special role in their families. They're expected to emotionally manage an unstable and selfish parent for the sake of the family. In return for such caretaking, they're given praise by the needy parent but are secretly hated by their siblings for getting extra attention. Often such children are chosen
- [River of Time](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/02/river-of-time/) - "We must learn to live together as brothers or perish together as fools.” Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. I left town mid-February, following the Mississippi as it twists and turns to New Orleans and the Gulf of Mexico. A life-long Minnesotan, I have stepped across that river over worn stones at its source in Itasca State
- [Gambling on Life, Love, and Family](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/03/gambling-on-life-love-and-family/) - Trigger Warning: Story contains accounts of domestic abuse and suicide attempts. Andy Gallie became a gambler at just nine years old when he won his first slot machine jackpot. What started out as a “harmless” game of Donkey Kong (a slot machine found in UK arcades back in the 80s and 90s) quickly became a
- [Screen Time in Bed: Everyone’s Secret](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/03/screen-time-in-bed-everyones-secret/) - On January 1st, 2025, I decided to make a major overhaul in my life. I wanted to change everything, from organization to exercise. My goal was to personally explore and evaluate personal development trends as someone living with a bipolar type 1 diagnosis. I’ll be honest; keeping up a high standard of spiritual, mental, physical,
- [You're Not Alone](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/03/youre-not-alone/) - “Fun” Beginnings At first, gambling was just ‘fun’—a night out with friends, a way to feel like I was ‘winning’ in a world where I didn’t always feel successful. "Wow, this is easy money!" I thought. Of course, that’s exactly what the casino wants you to believe. But what I didn’t realize was that the
- [Ask the Expert: Dr. Timothy Fong of UCLA Gambling Studies Program](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/03/ask-the-expert-dr-timothy-fong-of-ucla-gambling-studies-program/) - We feature an expert in the mental health and substance use disorder field to answer questions. This issue we talk to Dr. Timothy Fong of UCLA Gambling Studies Program. Q: What is your role at the UT Gambling Studies program and what inspired and led you to work on problem gambling? I'm a professor of
- [In the Shadows: How Gambling Addiction Impacts Loved Ones and Communities](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/03/in-the-shadows-how-gambling-addiction-impacts-loved-ones-and-communities/) - Imagine walking into a living room filled with overturned furniture, strewn belongings and piled-up bills. A close-up shot reveals shards of glass surrounding a family photo. You look up to see an elephant standing before you, looming amid the ruins. This scene isn’t the aftermath of a break-in or a tornado. It’s the premise of
- [Protecting Youth From Growing Influence of Gambling](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/03/protecting-youth-from-growing-influence-of-gambling/) - When we think about gambling, we often picture seasoned adults at casino blackjack tables or perhaps cheering on horses at the track. However, an alarming trend is emerging, as young people are becoming increasingly at risk of developing gambling problems. The intersection of technology, the normalization of gambling in the media, and peer pressure are
- [The 12 Steps: More Than a Recipe for Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/02/the-12-steps-more-than-a-recipe-for-recovery/) - Recently, I finished writing a book on the 12 Steps: Affirm & Nurture: A New Look at 12 Steps (Minneapolis, MN: Gasscann Publishers, 2024). In the book, I give a more positive tone to some of the Steps. As I have reflected upon the Steps, what has come up is that the Steps can provide a
- [Committing to Recovery in College](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/02/committing-to-recovery-in-college/) - Life moves fast – and in college, an accelerated time frame means things can change in the blink of an eye. It’s the final period before starting a “grown up” career, where adolescence is fading away and an occupational future is just around the corner. It’s also one that offers one more chance to just
- [How Serenity Kennel is Helping People and Pets of the Recovery Community](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/11/how-serenity-kennel-is-helping-people-and-pets-of-the-recovery-community/) - When Frank Schmidt met Evan Jandl at The Retreat Recovery Center (Wayzata, MN) in the spring of 2024, neither had any idea about the journey that they would begin together. A casual conversation about the difficulty in finding someone to care for their dogs while pursuing recovery treatment led to the founding of a project
- [Taking a Day Trip in Minnesota: Exploring for Relaxation and Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/05/taking-a-day-trip-in-minnesota/) - Are you looking for a unique destination to explore that's within easy reach? Consider taking a day trip to discover the hidden gems in your backyard. With Minnesota and our neighboring states brimming with a wealth of experiences and attractions, you're bound to find something that suits your interests. Embarking on day trips and experiencing
- [Conquer Compulsive Eating Through Nutrition](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/02/conquer-compulsive-eating-through-nutrition/) - No shortage of advice exists for those who are compulsive eaters. Even food manufacturers are getting into the business of helping people lose weight because of the "obesity crisis" in the United States, according to a recent newspaper article. Anyone who has struggled with addictive eating knows that these suggested "diet" menus are never going
- [The Echo of Our Lives](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/11/the-echo-of-our-lives/) - It can hit any time. Walking into a store, working at my desk, cooking dinner, I hear the bass crash into the piano keys, Eddie Van Halen's guitar kick in–suddenly I'm fourteen, a suburban kid running with the devil, passing joints at my first rock concert. Loosely rolled doobies drip ashes that dot holes in
- [Buried Treasure](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/01/buried-treasure/) - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fhH1LdDcJr4 That night­–fall of my senior year–was a Saturday night, so I headed to a party. A bonfire tucked in the woods off Hwy. 55, where we could drink underage to excess. I had a bottle of Seagram’s in my jacket along with a liter of Seven Up. Didn’t take long before I was smashed.
- [From Prison Boot Camp to Recovery Wellness Center Founder](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/01/interview-with-crystal-hill/) - Crystal Hill, founder of Twin Cities Wellness Center – Recovery Gym, remembers the exact moment she decided to get sober. She stood at the black line for boot camp during her second incarceration. Sergeants and CEOs were verbally in her face, “You think you're a pretty girl. You think you can change when you want
- [Cost-effective Solutions for Alcohol Use Disorder with Next Generation Technology](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/01/cost-effective-solutions-for-alcohol-use-disorder/) - Having founded several business start-ups in his life, David Gandini wanted to make a difference with his next one. “I really wanted to do something that would have more of a social impact or a long-lasting impact. So, when I am discussing what I did in my life with my grandchildren, I can point to
- [Looking for Hope](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/01/looking-for-hope/) - “The very least you can do in your life is figure out what you hope for. And the most you can do is live inside that hope.” Barbara Kingsolver We are halfway through the 2020s, 25% through the 21st century. Startling! This 20s decade has been off to a rough start. The COVID-19 virus that
- [12 Months to Change My Life… All Over Again](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/01/12-months-to-change-my-life-all-over-again/) - I always believed that self-help wasn’t suitable for people with bipolar disorder. This year, however, I am experimenting on myself. In 2010, when I embraced recovery, numerous doctors and counselors advised me to avoid the personal development industry. They said a severe mental health diagnosis comes with many limitations that popular self-help practices may not
- [Ask the Expert: Saul Selby of Minnesota Adult and Teen Challenge](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/01/ask-the-expert-saul-selby-of-minnesota-adult-and-teen-challenge/) - We feature an expert in the mental health and substance use disorder field to answer questions. This issue we talk to Saul Selby of Minnesota Adult and Teen Challenge about using cannabis in treatment. Q: How did you get into the behavioral health field? I received treatment for drug and alcohol addiction at the age of
- [Housing Resources Key to Stability for Many in Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/01/housing-resources-key-to-stability-for-many-in-recovery/) - Secure, stable housing is more than just a roof over one's head — it is the foundation upon which health, safety, and long-term success are built. Without access to stable housing, individuals struggling with substance use disorders face additional barriers to healing, reintegrating, and thriving in their communities. At the Minnesota Department of Human Services
- [How to Help Someone Who Struggles With Fear and Anxiety](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2025/01/how-to-help-someone-who-struggles-with-fear-and-anxiety/) - Do you know a friend or loved one who suffers from fear, anxiety, and depression and do not know what to do to help them? It can be frustrating to watch someone you know struggle with their mental health and not be able to do anything to relieve their suffering. With this in mind, here
- [When We Live Without an Observing Self](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/11/when-we-live-without-an-observing-self/) - The oblivion we once hid from danger has now become our invisible prison. — Anonymous Have you ever said “Why can’t he see what he is doing? Isn’t it obvious to everybody!” or “Gee I never saw it that way before. Maybe you’re right” Most of us have moment of cluelessness, especially in matters pertaining
- [A New Year Coming – Resolutions?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/12/a-new-year-coming-resolutions/) - As we move more deeply into December and prepare for the coming holidays — a delight for some, misery for others — we look ahead to a new year about to begin. This means that ’24 is rapidly coming to a conclusion. We are in a kind of in-between time, and this transition time means
- [Living a Meaningful Life](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/12/living-a-meaningful-life/) - “Being empty is a lot like knowing the words to a song but not knowing the music. Feeling full is just the opposite. You know both the words and the music to the song and are able to sing them aloud with your whole heart.” *** “I don’t know why I’m I so unhappy. I’m
- [Being Used is Different From Being Loved](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/12/being-used-is-different-from-being-loved/) - “It’s not the pretending, but the pretending that we are not pretending that hurts us.” — Sheldon Kopp, psychoanalyst and author Most of us at least intellectually understand that real love is different from exploitive caring. Caring for someone because of what they do for us is not the same as caring for someone because
- [Love Is Stronger Than Hate](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/11/love-is-stronger-than-hate/) - So many of us are afraid that this national election will not turn out right and that we will be stuck electing a leader who both promotes hate and decries democracy. With good reason, we endlessly obsess about national polls and the latest news regarding the election. We lose a lot of sleep over this
- [At the Heart of Recovery: Changing Habits](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/11/at-the-heart-of-recovery-changing-habits/) - Over the thirty or so years that I have been in recovery, I have learned many valuable lessons, for which I am grateful. Some of these are: isolation and disconnections fuel addictive thinking and behaving, while communities where we belong support recovery; triggers to act out – no matter how long we have been sober -
- [Autumn Leaves](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/11/autumn-leaves/) - "Autumn demands that I release what I think is important to do and returns me to the only thing which matters that I remember—to love and to allow love to sculpt me, even as it breaks my heart.” Christine Valters Paintner Autumn. The closing of a year. The last burst of color and abundance as
- [Beginning a New Chapter for Behavioral Health in Minnesota](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/11/beginning-a-new-chapter-for-behavioral-health-in-minnesota/) - Minnesota is facing several complex issues that affect Minnesotans’ ability to get timely, quality, and culturally relevant behavioral health services. Addressing those issues with compassion is the top priority of the Minnesota Department of Human Services (DHS). Now, for the first time in department history, there is an entire administration dedicated solely to behavioral health.
- [Holiday Mental Health Guide: Featuring Signal Award Winning Podcast Hosts Gabe Howard and Dr. Nicole Washington](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/11/holiday-mental-health-guide-featuring-signal-award-winning-podcast-hosts-gabe-howard-and-dr-nicole-washington/) - Every holiday season, you’ll find articles like this—designed to set you up for mental health success during the festivities. As you navigate this year’s celebrations, remember that one of the most important mental health relationships to maintain is the one between a medical professional and a client. This is why this holiday mental health guide
- [Recovering Parents Value Project CHILD’s Support](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/11/recovering-parents-value-project-childs-support/) - Project CHILD (Community Health, Intervention, Linkage and Development) has been helping Hennepin County residents make a healthier start with their babies since 1990. We asked Hennepin County behavioral health manager, Alexandra (Ali) Kraak to share more about the program. Can you tell us a bit about Project CHILD? Project CHILD is a voluntary, multidisciplinary case
- [Hidden Shame: A Curse and a Blessing](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/10/hidden-shame-a-curse-and-a-blessing/) - Hidden shame is a powerful emotional and physiological reaction. It fills our being in covert ways. It can cause us to become violent or withdrawn from life and it can prompt us to bring out the better parts of ourselves in ways we never expected. It is both a curse and a blessing. Typically we
- [The Man Behind the Medallion: Introducing the Other Bill W](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/10/the-man-behind-the-medallion/) - You know that bronze medallion you have tucked away somewhere - the one in safe keeping in your jewelry box, or at the bottom of your underwear drawer? Or perhaps you fondle it daily as it jingles and jangles against the heads of Washington and Franklin in your pant's pocket? Have you ever wondered about
- [Cultural Savvy, Staying Healthy in an Often Unhealthy Culture](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/10/cultural-savvy-staying-healthy-in-an-often-unhealthy-culture/) - Most of us don’t think about our circumstances. We are like fish swimming in a body of water that is getting ever more poisonous. We don’t see how sick we are becoming simply due to the toxicity of the water. We adapt to living with environmental hazards and minimize toxicity. After all, other fish swim
- [Retrain the Brain?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/01/retrain-the-brain/) - Many of us have heard of higher brain living — but what is it? Some brain researchers advocate energizing the pre-frontal lobes — the higher brain — to help us lessen the impact of unproductive “lower brain” stress responses. Directly or indirectly, medical researchers believe that up to 90 percent of all medical office visits
- [Helping People Achieve Recovery – However They Define It](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/09/helping-people-achieve-recovery/) - Recovery from substance use disorders is an incredibly challenging journey, but it’s also one of the most rewarding paths a person can take. Every individual in recovery deserves to be celebrated, no matter what their recovery looks like or how they define it. This September, during Recovery Month, the Minnesota Department of Human Services is
- [Forgiving Yourself When Your Children Suffer](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/09/forgiving-yourself-when-your-children-suffer/) - Imperfect as we are, parents today deserve all the credit in the world for raising children in challenging times. Many of us fret over how we’re doing as parents. Examining our part in our children’s pain can be the most painful thing we do in life. Seeing our kids suffer today due to our own
- [The Curse of Perfectionism](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/09/the-curse-of-perfectionism/) - For some time, I have been thinking about perfectionism – my own as well as the people I have met in almost thirty years of recovery. The image that comes to me about perfectionism led to the title of this article. Perfectionism can often be a curse! I see the drive to be perfect as
- [When Married Couples Drift Apart](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/07/when-married-couples-drift-apart/) - My best friend Nancy was recently blindsided by a big hit that is changing her life forever. I really feel for her. Her husband Stewart, who has been unemployed for the past five years, announced out of the blue that he is filing for a divorce. I was shocked and saddened beyond belief by her
- [Reclaiming Joy](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/09/reclaiming-joy/) - “Joy is the simplest form of gratitude.” Karl Barth I have been remembering joy—the exuberance of youth, the thrill of nature’s beauty, the energy of feeling connected. I have missed joy, her delight with both the spectacular and the ordinary. Anxiety, fear, and doom have permeated the last several years. They roll in like a
- [Founder Envisions Minnesota's First Recovery Ranch](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/09/founder-envisions-minnesotas-first-recovery-ranch/) - The Phoenix Spirit talked with John Magnuson, the visionary founder of Relevant Recovery, a new Recovery Community Organization (RCO), designed to train and mentor Family Life Recovery Coaches at Minnesota’s first Recovery Ranch – a space and place where individuals, families and organizations can “experience” recovery as they build greater wellbeing. John's life story, his national network
- [University of Minnesota Neurobiology Research in Support of Addiction Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/09/university-of-minnesota-neurobiology-research-in-support-of-addiction-recovery/) - The arguments surrounding the root cause of addiction have raged for decades. Addiction is often viewed as a societal or moral failing rather than a biological one. Many people believe that it is a choice to continue to drink or use vs. an illness. But is this really the situation? I recently sat down with
- [An Honest Test of Cadre: The Stigma Free Social Media That Will Surprise and Challenge You](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/09/an-honest-test-of-cadre/) - Living with a mental health diagnosis can put you at risk of getting tangled in a maze of social media apps. Persistent and practically addictive features such as “likes,” impressions, and notifications have defined the last two decades of online media. If you feel empty amidst all of this, you are certainly not alone. While
- [Higher Power, Higher Powers and the 12 Steps](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/07/higher-power-higher-powers-and-the-12-steps/) - I have been in recovery for almost thirty years and have been part of a 12 Step group for the same amount of time. In this article, I would like to share some struggles I have had with the idea of Higher Power – an important concept in recovery through the lenses of the 12
- [Seeking Grace in Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/07/seeking-grace-in-recovery/) - I learned a lesson about grace when I experienced its flipside a number of years ago, after I was laid off from a corporate communications job in health care. Seeking employment, I dutifully worked my network, including a breakfast meeting with a woman I had recently worked with. She had just started a new job
- [From Pain to Love with Paint and Canvas](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/07/from-pain-to-love-with-paint-and-canvas/) - Brushstrokes on Matt Moberg’s artwork reflect a kinetic energy. Addiction’s bared teeth show up in the fangs of the wolf, the jaws of the bear, the wild-eyed terror of the horse. The animals and people reveal intensity, edginess, tension. In one piece, his wife’s body bends taut with anxiety. In yet another, his grandpa’s eyes
- [Ask the Expert: Robyn Alliah of River Valley Behavioral Health and Wellness Center](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/07/ask-the-expert-robyn-alliah-of-river-valley-behavioral-health-and-wellness-center/) - We feature an expert in the mental health and substance use disorder field to answer questions. This issue we talk to Robyn Alliah of River Valley Behavioral Health and Wellness Center about using art therapy in recovery and mental health. What is art therapy? Art therapy uses art media, the creative process, and the resulting
- [Friends Forever](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/07/friends-forever/) - "Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom." Marcel Proust She looked interesting. Unconventional in dress, not afraid of dirty garden hands as she worked the soil of her urban terrain. She propped plants on imaginative metal sculptures. Her pure white hair was
- [Creativity: One Response to Addiction and Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/06/creativity-one-response-to-addiction-and-recovery/) - An on-going issue for all of us who are aware of our addictions is simply how to continue to live in recovery. This really is a life-long challenge, isn’t it? It is for me, as addictive triggers can burst upon my life at any moment. In this article, I am sharing the importance of expressing
- [Jay Pee Brings: A Glimmer of Hope for Those on the Streets](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/01/hope-for-those-on-the-streets/) - Jeff Powell, better known as Jay Pee, came from the hellish side of Chicago, broken. In his first 30 years, he did it all – drug dealing, gangs, crime, jail. “It was pretty much like a war zone out there,” he says. Yet the streets were the only place where Jay Pee felt he could
- [How Scent Can Aid in Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/09/how-scent-can-aid-in-recovery/) - Smell is the strongest of our human senses. That makes it both a gift and a curse. If you want to inhale the beautiful, soft scent of the newest rose in your garden, it’s a gift; but if you’re passing the sewage treatment center, well, think again! In the book, Perfume: The Story of a
- [Problem Gambling Prevention Efforts Always a Smart Play](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/03/problem-gambling-prevention-efforts-always-a-smart-play/) - About 22% of Minnesotans, regardless of their own participation in gambling, have been negatively affected by the gambling behaviors of others. Problem gambling is not simply a bad habit: It’s an addiction that isolates people and leaves them feeling despondent and hopeless. Problem gambling affects families and communities through unemployment, loss of housing, and more.
- [A Perspective on Substance Use Related Deaths](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/11/a-perspective-on-substance-use-related-deaths/) - Background In 2014 I authored an article for the Phoenix Spirit advocating for the passage of Steve’s Law. Steve’s Law, also known as the Good Samaritan Law, did pass in 2014, providing limited protections to people who call 911 and/or administer naloxone in response to a suspected or known drug overdose. The person calling 911,
- [Come Home to Where Recovery Began: 2218 Alano Society of Minneapolis](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/05/come-home-to-where-recovery-began-2218-alano-society-of-minneapolis/) - Let me introduce you to the Grande Dame of recovery in the upper Midwest. She is a beautiful, historic wood mansion built in 1887, bright cheery yellow trim on brown. She is beautiful not only for the structure but for what she holds. She IS 2218! She IS the world’s longest continuously running Alano and
- [What to Do When the Sky is Falling](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/05/what-to-do-when-the-sky-is-falling/) - Oh no! The sky is falling! Oh no! The sky is falling! — Chicken Little to the Little Red Hen So what happens to Chicken Little? He and his pal, the Little Red Hen, decide to fetch their friends—Henny Penny, Cocky Locky and Goosey Loosey—and go tell the King that the sky is falling. Along
- [The Skill of Vacation: Reclaiming Relaxation in Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/05/the-skill-of-vacation-reclaiming-relaxation-in-recovery/) - Taking a vacation should be easy. Many Americans struggle to truly get time away. A 2022 study by Qualtrics uncovered that nearly half of Americans polled still worked one hour a day while on vacation.1 That doesn’t sound like a real holiday. In fact, some Americans seem to avoid taking vacation in fear of falling
- [Healing Through Music](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/03/healing-through-music/) - Bob Ross, the infinitely relaxed host of The Joy of Painting famously said, “We don’t make mistakes, we have happy little accidents.” And I believe Bob. If you are a musician or performing artist and you live with crushing panic, anxiety, depression, and are paralyzed with fear and self-doubt, I hope you believe Bob too.
- [Dichotomy](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/04/dichotomy/) - I grew up in a world of Dichotomy, a world of beer cans and Bibles, I was expected to be nice to others, but treated not so nice in our home by my alcoholic father. I recited prayers but felt panicked. To me this was normal. When I was somewhere around thirteen years old, one
- [From Hopeless to Hope](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/01/from-hopeless-to-hope/) - A new year has begun, and I hear deep yearnings for hopefulness in the people I connect with in and out of the recovering communities. This has led me to reflect upon hope and what can help us both develop and maintain hope. Consider these three dimensions: Imaginative, cognitive, and supportive. My reflections upon hope
- [Currents of Change](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/09/currents-of-change/) - The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance. —Alan Watts I live seven blocks from the edge of a bluff that was left standing by a larger, older, and mightier Mississippi River than now flows along its banks. These sandstone bluffs continue
- [Losing David](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/09/losing-david/) - In January 2014, my son, David, 39, passed away following a 15-year addiction to heroin. We started out as an average suburban family: Father, mother, David, and Bill, an older brother. David’s father was a police officer, and I worked part-time as a secretary at the boys’ elementary school. Our lives centered on our community
- [Substance Use Disorder and Trauma](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/09/substance-use-disorder-and-trauma/) - As a woman in long-term recovery and a regular contributor to The Phoenix Spirit, I have written about my experience finding sobriety, struggling with and addressing cross-addiction, and being a part of a 12-step program. What I have not yet shared is that I am a trauma survivor, and how addressing my trauma has been
- [Healing Through the Canvas](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/07/healing-through-the-canvas/) - When my dad passed away I had no idea what to do with that level of grief and sadness. I had never experienced anything like that before. Although I had experienced the death of grandparents and a cousin, I had never lost anyone that close to me. My heart hurt. My dad wasn’t just a
- [Creating Your Food Philosophy](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/01/creating-your-food-philosophy/) - It’s the beginning of the year again. A time of snow days, hot chocolate and for many of us, resolutions. If you’re like millions of Americans, some of these resolutions revolve around healthier food choices. Media is full of recommendations to guide us in the right path. We are bombarded with articles about paleo diets,
- [What's Wrong With Me?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/09/whats-wrong-with-me/) - I grew up as a girl with so much potential. I was musically inclined and became a bit of a prodigy. What I may have lacked in academic achievement I made up for with people skills and likability. But by the time I hit puberty it became evident that something was wrong with me. I
- [Offering Hope to Hospitality Peers Wherever Possible](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/12/offering-hope-to-hospitality-peers-wherever-possible/) - By the time this story is published, over 5 years will have passed since I began my journey in recovery. Today I have solid friendships, a sense of purpose, satisfaction and a level of serenity in my life that I never dreamed possible. One of my pursuits is volunteering and being a vocal advocate for
- [Holidays Upended](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/11/holidays-upended/) - “You know this is our COVID year. Let’s accept it. It’s not like last year and it’s not, hopefully, going to be like next year.” — Michael Osterholm, University of Minnesota How will we enter holiday season this year? An unwanted guest is at the door—perhaps several. The villainous virus hangs in the air. The
- [How to Save Money While in Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/10/save-money-while-in-recovery/) - You've decided it is time to get help for your addiction and get back control of your life. You could be attending a 12-step group, a treatment program or accessing other avenues of recovery. Courageously, you've taken this important step in your life. But, life is going to keep moving forward and your responsibilities will
- [Connecting and Reconnecting](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/09/connecting-and-reconnecting/) - During the pandemic, it's more important than ever to connect with others.
- [How to Access Recovery Meetings During COVID-19](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/03/accessing-recovery-meetings-during-covid-19/) - Due to the ongoing COVID-19 outbreak, recovery meetings may have been canceled to keep communities from spreading the virus. Because of this, people in recovery are looking for alternative ways to connect. We've gathered a list of obtaining support online or by phone. We hope they will help in your recovery and please pass along
- [We Need to Take a Closer Look at Tobacco](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/01/we-need-to-take-a-closer-look-at-tobacco/) - Let’s talk tobacco. If you’re reading this article, it means recovery is important to you or someone you know. Maybe you’ve put in the work and made recovery a priority in your life. If so, honor yourself for that hard work. Maybe someone in your family is struggling and you just want to find some
- [4 Powerful Stories of Transformation - From Addiction to Agents of Change](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/01/addiction-to-agents-of-change/) - Recovery is one of the most painful yet transformative processes a person can go through. More often than not, the depths of despair is our catalyst for change: when the weight of being is more painful that the prospect of becoming. Like Rumi says, it is from the bough of our hearts that we find
- [The Little Black Book of Suicide Notes](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/03/the-little-black-book-of-suicide-notes/) - By Adele Paula Royce Live Your Light Publishing, Inc. A person dies by suicide approximately every 14 minutes in the U.S. alone. Royce hopes her semi-fictional book will help people considering suicide to reconsider it. She wants readers to know they are not alone in their aloneness. She reveals her own battle with suicide ideation,
- [Recovering the Joy of Giving](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/11/recovering-the-joy-of-giving/) - With the Holiday season drawing near, my thoughts are turning to Christmas gift-giving. Who should be on the list? What should I give? Do I have to give a gift to co-workers? Bosses? Mail delivery persons? In the midst of all this mind chatter I like to slow down, think and get clear about the
- [Where is My Special Someone?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/05/where-is-my-special-someone/) - Like no other time of the year; the Christmas holidays bring out our yearnings for love and prompts many of us to ask, "Where is my special someone?" Implied in our questions are feelings of discouragement and resignation since our particular special someone has simply not showed up. If you are in this fix, realize
- [Retreat Time](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/04/retreat-time/) - “Life can only be understood backwards but it must be lived forwards.” Soren Kierkegaard Here at The Phoenix Spirit, we take time each spring to reflect on and explore the practice of retreating. Retreats, like most rituals, come with a familiarity and a structure that can mask the magic of the experience. Whether you take a retreat
- [The Mistake of Choosing a Person Who Doesn’t Have a Conscience](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/05/the-mistake-of-choosing-a-person-who-doesnt-have-a-conscience/) - Some of us are not aware of people who lack a conscience—those who lack empathy for others and cannot tolerate differences between themselves and others. Our lack of awareness is sometimes prompted by a misguided fear of being judgmental of others and an over willingness to give others the benefit of the doubt. The fact
- [Hiking Her Way to Healing](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/05/hiking-her-way-to-healing/) - The entry point into our best selves, as addicts, starts with sobriety, but it doesn’t end there. The Phoenix Spirit interviewed Kara Frahm, Director of Business Development at Horowitz Health, to capture her story of how the Superior Hiking Trail healed her. In her words, “Hiking has given me back so much of myself. I've
- [Ask the Expert: Fran Bieganek and Guy Odishaw of Bhakti Brain Health Clinic](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/05/ask-the-expert-fran-bieganek-and-guy-odishaw-of-bhakti-brain-health-clinic/) - We feature an expert in the mental health and substance use disorder field to answer questions. This issue we talk to Fran Bieganek and Guy Odishaw of Bhakti Brain Health Clinic about using neurofeedback in recovery and mental health. Q: What is neurofeedback, and what specific changes occur in the brain as a result of
- [A Sober Retreat in the Minnesota North Woods](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/05/a-sober-retreat-in-the-minnesota-north-woods/) - Dennis Medved, aged 89, and his late wife Bev, had a vision. They wanted to provide a place of healing and renewal for those in care for chemical dependency. Both sober themselves – Dennis with 48 years sobriety and Bev with 42 years sobriety when she passed – they understood the challenges associated with becoming
- [The Impact of Stress On Recovery: Positive and Negative](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/04/the-impact-of-stress-on-recovery-positive-and-negative/) - As I prepared to write this article, I was seeking to find a word that speaks about how I see the impact that stress has upon us and our recovery. The word that came to me was “tricky.” There can be too much stress in our lives that can lead to distress, and there can
- [Addressing Problem Gambling Requires a Whole Person Approach](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/03/addressing-problem-gambling-requires-a-whole-person-approach/) - The impacts of problem gambling can be devastating. And the effects of a gambling disorder are not only economic – it can lead to damaged relationships and high rates of substance abuse, depression, and suicide. In fact, studies show problem gambling has the highest rate of suicide of any addiction. That’s why it’s essential for
- [Healing Parental Guilt](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/04/healing-parental-guilt/) - I've never been a woman who just couldn't live without having kids. In fact, when Bob approached me after two years of married life and said he wanted kids, I told him I wasn't sure I was ready. I said first he would have to save for a trust fund for all the therapy our
- [At the Heart of Recovery: Making Choices With Support](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/03/making-choices-with-support-in-recovery/) - There are many different ways to look at what helps us choose a way of recovery as well as maintaining sobriety — whatever be our addiction. As I continue to reflect upon what I have learned in my journey to recovery, it is the importance of others with whom I have been blessed to journey.
- [Lessons Learnt From My Mental Health Struggles](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/03/lessons-learnt-from-my-mental-health-struggles/) - I am Stan Popovich and I struggled with fear and anxiety for over 20 years. During these times, my anxieties and fears were so powerful that I had trouble getting through the week and there were times I felt like giving up. I learned numerous lessons from my struggles, which I will share in this
- [Blindsided: Problem Gambling's Addiction Next Wave, Yet Minnesota Isn't Ready](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/03/minnesota-problem-gamblings-addiction-next-wave/) - One of the challenges of addiction recovery is the risk of exchanging one dependence for another. Individuals in recovery from substance and alcohol abuse sometimes seek new highs in other activities, such as gambling. Providers and individuals within the recovery space stand to gain valuable insights by expanding their understanding of problem gambling — considering
- [Letting Other People Love You](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/03/letting-other-people-love-you/) - It might seem like the easiest thing in the world to accept hugs, kindness and caring from another person but in fact many of us have the hardest time doing that and we may shun people who are loving to us. Most of us actually need warmth and compassion from others especially when it is
- [First Person: I'm a Recovering Alcoholic / Addict](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/03/im-a-recovering-alcoholic-addict/) - I'm Ryan J, a recovering alcoholic/addict. Born and raised in Minnesota. Raised by both father and mother and with a younger sister. In the suburbs of the Twin Cities. My childhood was a loving, secure and supportive family. No disfunction to speak of. Supportive and given freedoms that a typical child should have. Breakfast, lunch
- [The Secret World of Online Gambling: Q & A With a Recovering Problem Gambler](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/03/the-secret-world-of-online-gambling-q-a-with-a-recovering-problem-gambler/) - The following is an exclusive interview with a problem gambler, now in active recovery from his addiction. We want to thank Tim for his candor and willingness to share. Can you share a little bit about yourself? I grew up in Eagan to loving parents with 2 siblings. Like most boys growing up, I was
- [Sweet Dreams: Analyzing Dreams](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/03/sweet-dreams-analyzing-dreams/) - “All dreams reflect inborn creativity and ability to face and solve life's problems.” —Jeremy Taylor Do dreams come true? Or are dreams true? What do our dreams tell us? We have all awakened with dreams that grabbed our attention. Some frighten us as when a beast pursues us or we careen down a mountain road
- [A 10th Step Reflection: Accountability is a Key to Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/02/accountability-is-a-key-to-recovery/) - I chose the image of a key as a way to describe accountability, which I see to be an important aspect of recovery — whichever addiction we are dealing with. As we begin this reflection, I would invite you to think about how important keys are in our lives. Keys help us to get around
- [From Newsstands to Life Savers: Our Mission to Combat Opioid Overdoses](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/01/from-newsstands-to-life-savers-our-mission-to-combat-opioid-overdoses/) - The familiar green boxes that once dotted Minneapolis streets, delivering daily news, are undergoing a transformation. In a fight against the opioid crisis, we are repurposing Star Tribune news boxes into Save a Life Stations. Since August 2023, Andrew Kamin-Lyndgaard and I have been on a mission to bridge the gap in readily available overdose
- [Recovery and Rituals](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/01/recovery-and-rituals/) - As the New Year has begun, I am sure we are all aware that we are living in a time of chaos – wars, divisions, homelessness, immigrants and polarization, to name a few realities. There don’t seem to be any simple ways to resolve these conflicts and differences. We also are looking ahead in this
- [Habit Change in the New Year: The Power of Exercise and Nutrition Towards a Healthier You and a Stronger Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/01/habit-change-in-the-new-year-the-power-of-exercise-and-nutrition-towards-a-healthier-you-and-a-stronger-recovery/) - People who reject the idea of making New Year’s resolutions recognize that you don’t have to wait until January to make a change. Yet, there’s just something about the feeling of a clean slate that comes with turning the calendar over into a new year. So here we are, standing squarely in the month of
- [New Safe Recovery Sites to Be Centers of Hope and Compassion](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/01/new-safe-recovery-sites-to-be-centers-of-hope-and-compassion/) - In many cases, substance use disorder is a disease suffered in isolation, as people often avoid treatment or health care due to stigma and other barriers. Preventing overdoses and providing paths to recovery requires resources – but perhaps the most important resource is human connection. This year, the Minnesota Legislature authorized the creation of Safe
- [Marking Time](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2024/01/marking-time/) - “One can waste years this way, systematically postponing precisely the things one cares about the most.” ― Oliver Burkeman Another year dawns. Here in the northern hemisphere, we begin the year in darkness—our earth’s fallow time, rest time, quiet time. Yet I hurry to make lists to accomplish, to acquire, to get somewhere rather than
- [My First Sober Holiday](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/11/my-first-sober-holiday/) - How three leading women in the recovery community handled their first holiday season sober. Holidays aren’t always picture perfect, with families sitting around the dinner table, laughing and joyful. This is especially true of families in recovery, as the effects of addiction weave throughout the family unit: Dysfunction, codependency, stress, and burnout are common themes
- [Perilous Thoughts That May Harm You in the Long Run](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/12/perilous-thoughts-that-may-harm-you-in-the-long-run/) - “Watch your thoughts, they become your words; watch your words, they become your actions; watch your actions, they become your habits; watch your habits, they become your character; watch your character, it becomes your destiny.” ― Lao Tzu It may strike you as odd that persistent thoughts can be dangerous for your well-being or the well-being of
- [Bridging Tech & Humanity: Amplifying Human Touch in Substance Use Disorder (SUD) Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/10/bridging-tech-humanity-in-sud-treatment/) - Kyros and an affiliated non-profit, Refocus Recovery have recently been investigated by KARE 11. To read more about this report. With the Biden Administration's recent $1.6B investment to tackle the SUD and opioid overdose crisis, SUD recovery is at an inflection point. Technology has revolutionized numerous sectors, but SUD recovery demands this innovation now more
- [First Person: Becoming Bipolar](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/12/becoming-bipolar/) - I didn’t just wake up with bipolar disorder type one. My mental health condition slowly revealed itself over the course of nine years. It is hard to pinpoint when the symptoms began; however, I am certain I noticed something lurking beneath the surface as a teenager. It was obvious to many who loved and cared
- [Importance of Resolutions](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/12/importance-of-resolutions/) - Yes, another year — 2023 — is in the books — a tough and challenging year for many of us. The calendar has now shifted us into a New Year — 2024. This shift into a New Year often raises the practice of making some resolutions for the New Year. Many times, if we make
- [Shallow Slogans or Deep Wisdom?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/11/shallow-slogans-or-deep-wisdom/) - A closer look at 10 common phrases used in recovery Addicts and alkies are often skeptical about the brief, pithy sayings we throw around in 12-step programs. The slogans seem to dilute the complicated issues of recovery down to stock, almost clichéd phrases. Yet, if you spend any time in Alano Club rooms, or even
- [Loneliness: Openings to Connection](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/11/loneliness-openings-to-connection/) - I read with great interest Mary Lou Logsdon’s recent article in the September-October issue of The Phoenix Spirit: “The Cost of Loneliness.” Mary Lou’s reflections resonate with what I have been thinking since I also read the Surgeon General’s Report – Vivek H Murthy – in which he describes loneliness as a major epidemic in
- [Recovery Begins With a Big Hairy Mess: Interview With Celeb Hairstylist Jason Schneidman](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/11/interview-with-celeb-hairstylist-jason-schneidman/) - When Jason Schneidman meets disheveled-looking people begging on street corners, he doesn’t hand them a couple bucks. He gives them haircuts. And then some. As a hairstylist for Hollywood celebrities, Schneidman is in the lookin’-good business big time. He’s well aware that a nice haircut can lead to feeling better about yourself and of course
- [Bellringing: How Jack Gives Back](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/11/bellringing-how-jack-gives-back/) - In mid-November, Salvation Army’s iconic red kettles and their bell-ringing attendants pop up around the Twin Cities and other metropolitan areas. One of those bellringers is Jack. He has rung bells for the past ten years. “It’s a lot of fun,” Jack said, “It’s a way to get outside of myself. I like doing it
- [Promoting Peace](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/11/promoting-peace/) - “It is not enough to win a war; it is more important to organize the peace.” ― Aristotle Peace. Holidays are supposed to be the season of peace—a time when we gather in gratitude with friends and family; when we celebrate love, goodness, abundance; when we make memories to savor for the inevitable dark times ahead.
- [Yes, It’s Time to Change Our Definition of Masculinity](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/10/changing-our-definition-of-masculinity/) - Trying to live up to an impossible code of traditional masculinity makes men more depressed, isolated, and suicidal.
- [First Person: Lizard Skin and the Warehouse](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/10/first-person-lizard-skin-and-the-warehouse/) - “No one will ever love you.” Mom jabbed her index finger into my bicep for emphasis, so I would not forget. I almost dropped a dish as I cleaned up the kitchen. “You think you’re better than us, smarter than us, but you’re too stupid to do anything,” she yelled. “Yeah,” chimed in my brother
- [Delayed Grief](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/09/delayed-grief/) - There are a multitude of reasons why people suppress their grief. At the time of death, we don’t have the skills to process complex emotions, we lack healthy role models for grieving, or we see ourselves as the strong one in the family, so we're stoic. We may have an acute or chronic medical illness
- [Why Detoxification is Important](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/09/why-detoxification-is-important/) - Gas fumes, paint, second-hand smoke, plastics, pharmaceutical drugs, pesticides, food additives, hair dyes, household cleansers, lawn chemicals—these are just some of the toxins our bodies are exposed to on a daily basis. In fact, our bodies process 14 pounds a year of food preservatives and additives, pesticides, and herbicides alone. Added to that, stress, fear,
- [How Do You Turn Troubled Teens Around?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/09/how-do-you-turn-troubled-teens-around/) - Imagine you are 14 years old. Your parents blast you with venomous comments when they are in a drug stupor, or they disappear for days. Or maybe they push you to go to school when you are so depressed and scared that you wish you could die. You only go because the fentanyl is there
- [Beautifully Broken](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/09/beautifully-broken/) - Perfectionist. Smart. Beautiful. These are a few of the many positive words that I was known by as a young teenager. On the outside, I was the girl who seemed like she had it all. The girl who had great friends, a boyfriend, was a cheerleader, and more. However, while the outward appearance and demeanor
- [Interview With Minnesota's Addiction and Recovery Director Jeremy Drucker](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/09/interview-with-minnesotas-addiction-and-recovery-director-jeremy-drucker/) - Addiction and Recovery Director Jeremy Drucker begins his tenure under the office of the governor. His goal is to make an impact on the state's efforts to stem the rising cases of overdoses and offer resources throughout Minnesota to help those in recovery. We wanted to know a little more about Drucker and what he
- [The Cost of Loneliness](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/09/the-cost-of-loneliness/) - "In the short term if I feel loneliness, it's like any other biological signals. It's like hunger or thirst. It's alerting me that something that's critical for my survival is missing. " —Vivek Murthy I suppose it was inevitable. I thought I was past the possibility. We were done with Covid—a story to tell our
- [A Sponsor: Don't Leave Home Without One](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/08/a-sponsor-dont-leave-home-without-one/) - Many years ago in the late 70s, American Express had an ad about their credit card and their hopes for people who had one of their cards – “Don’t leave home without it.” With their credit card, a person would never be in a situation where if the spirit moved them to make a purchase,
- [When We Pretend to Have an Identity](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/08/when-we-pretend-to-have-an-identity/) - "Oh yes, I'm the great pretender, Pretending that I'm doing well, My need is such I pretend too much, I'm lonely but no one can tell..." —From Buck Ram's "The Great Pretender" These days too many of us lack an identity. We may say we are our own persons and claim to be independent. Yet
- [The Promise of The Promises: Our Rewards for a Sober Life](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/07/our-rewards-for-a-sober-life/) - The reward for living a good, clean, and sober life is…a good, clean, and sober life. I read that in a recent article in the Grapevine, AA’s monthly magazine, and it really resonated with me. Simple yet wise. I don’t give myself enough credit—and I suspect many of my fellow recovering alkies and addicts don’t
- [Abstractly-Defined Artists Restore Humanity](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/03/abstractly-defined-artists-restore-humanity/) - Recently, I had the pleasure of speaking with both an old college professor and a local artist about the notion of healing through art. Comparing both conversations I found some striking similarities: Both people I interviewed came from backgrounds with troubled family dynamics that could easily be argued was — and still is — the
- [Recovery Is an Art](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/07/recovery-is-an-art/) - Opera singer Bryan Garcia and tattoo artist SaraEmma Regalado have something rare in common. Both use their creative skills to foster self-healing in the recovery community. Coming from harsh beginnings and troubled histories of substance abuse, they are each bursting with enthusiasm as they ramp up their efforts to share the healing power and joy
- [Moving](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/06/moving/) - “If we were meant to stay in one place, we would have roots instead of feet.” ― author Rachel Wolchin Moving. Moving on. Moving through. On the move. I’m moving. Moving from my home of 22 years. I’ve been here a generation. It is time for me to move on and pass the house to another
- [Guidance for Women: How to Meet the Love of Your Life](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/07/guidance-for-women-how-to-meet-the-love-of-your-life/) - Probably the most important decision that you will make in your life is who to have as a life mate and who to co-parent with in raising your children. This is a sacred passage in your life, often referred to as the Intimacy Phase of being emotionally close in a committed relationship to another human
- [Historic Investments Will Help Fight Addiction, Enhance Quality of Care](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/07/historic-investments-will-help-fight-addiction-enhance-quality-of-care/) - The Minnesota Legislature just had one of its most impactful sessions in memory, with a historic surplus leading to a wide variety of investments that will improve lives across the state. Among those investments is funding that will combat addiction through a variety of prevention, harm-reduction, and treatment-related initiatives. At the Minnesota Department of Human
- [Legalizing Marijuana: The Surprising Truths](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/07/legalizing-marijuana-the-surprising-truths/) - Marijuana legislation is sweeping across the United States at a rapid rate. Over twenty states have now fully legalized this once illegal drug, and more will most likely follow. Minnesota is just the latest state to have joined this growing trend. But is marijuana of the 60s and 70s the same drug which is being
- [3 Legs of Recovery: Taking Inventory, Remaining Conscious, and Service to Others](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/07/3-legs-of-recovery-taking-inventory-remaining-conscious-and-service-to-others/) - At times, I have come to see recovery – both discovering and maintaining – as a kind of a 3-legged table. If we lose one of the legs, the table topples. In this article, I want to reflect on the 3 legs that I see as important elements of recovery. I am not saying that
- [Better Forest Management Is Critical for Quality of Life](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/06/better-forest-management-is-critical-for-quality-of-life/) - In recent weeks you may have noticed, the sky is no longer blue, stars are harder to see at night, and landscapes are discolored by a grayish hue. Wildfires in Canada and northern Minnesota are worse than ever and it has real consequences for our jobs and health. As a farmer and educator, I notice
- [Loneliness and Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/05/loneliness-and-recovery/) - I believe an important report was recently issued by the Surgeon General of the United States, Dr. Vivek Murthy, at the beginning of May of this year. I see this report as having repercussions for all Americans of all ages as well as special ramifications for those of us wrestling with issues of addiction and
- [Minnesota Rural Detox Initiative Provides Relief for Critical Access to Hospitals for Substance Use Disorder Patients](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/05/minnesota-rural-detox-initiative-provides-relief-for-critical-access-to-hospitals-for-substance-use-disorder-patients/) - The Minnesota Rural Detox Initiative provides help to critical access hospitals across Minnesota to place SUD (substance use disorder) individuals at the closest, quickest, and most relevant level of care for addiction detox and treatment. The Minnesota Rural Detox Initiative (MNRDI) is a project of MARATP (Minnesota Alliance of Rural Addiction Treatment Programs) that will
- [First Person: A Broken Wing](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/05/first-person-a-broken-wing/) - It was May and I had just passed through the most painful period of my life. I was 51 years old and living alone in the same city I had lived with my family for the past twenty years. On warm evenings, I sat in a lawn chair and enjoyed the setting sun. One evening,
- [Words to the Wise for Men: How To Pick a Loving Life Mate](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/05/wisdom-for-men-how-to-pick-a-mate/) - Probably the most important decision you will ever make in your lifetime is who to choose as a loving mate. How much you will feel loved and are able to love, how well your children will be raised, how much meaning you find in life and how happy you are well into your later years
- [Medical Assistance, MinnesotaCare Enrollees: Be Prepared to Keep Your Coverage as Program Eligibility Checks Restart](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/05/medical-assistance-minnesotacare-enrollees-program-eligibility/) - Keeping health care coverage, a key for those in recovery — and those seeking it Recovery from substance use disorder requires a person to be able to focus on healing their whole self – mind, body and spirit. Having health care coverage is a critical resource that provides the help that you need to focus
- [Awaiting Awe](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/05/awaiting-awe/) - I know it’s retreat time when I skitter from one activity to the next, squeezing one more thing in the five minutes between my last activity and the next. My life moves at the pace of a rushing river rather than meandering stream. Yup, time to go offline for a while. I am reading the
- [Wendy Jones Leaves a Legacy at Minnesota Recovery Connection](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/05/wendy-jones-leaves-a-legacy-at-minnesota-recovery-connection/) - Minnesota Recovery Connection (MRC), a community-based organization, provides peer-to-peer support, public education, and advocacy for people seeking or sustaining recovery from substance use disorders. In this interview (edited for length), Wendy Jones, MRC’s executive director since 2018, shares highlights from her experience as she leaves her position. What attracted you to MRC in the first
- [Recovery Through the Power of We](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/04/recovery-through-the-power-of-we/) - As a veteran of the 12 Step groups, I continue to be amazed by the wisdom contained within the 12 Steps. I am struck by the new awarenesses that emerge in my Wednesday night group as we share reflections and experiences week after week. Such discussions never get old. Each Step is like a seed
- [Progress Not Perfection](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/03/progress-not-perfection-3/) - In the 4th Edition of Alcoholics Anonymous: The Story of How Many Thousands of Men and Women Have Recovered from Alcoholism– also known as The Big Book – there is a phrase which has captured both my interest and imagination around issues of recovery for many years: “We claim spiritual progress, not spiritual perfection.” Often
- [Progress, Not Perfection](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/02/progress-not-perfection-2/) - In my twenty-seven years in recovery and throughout my time in a 12 Step group, I have been struck by the number of different axioms I have heard. Axioms like: One day at a time Fake it till you make it The program works if you work it These statements have provided me with themes
- [The Birdsongs of Home](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/07/the-birdsongs-of-home/) - “The cawing of the crow, the lament of the quail, the coo of the dove – all of these songs remind me of ‘home.’” —Louise Elowen Nature has all sorts of beautiful music to offer. And I don’t just mean the sound that your noise machine produces, like the ocean, which helps to lull you
- [Trusting in My Gambling Recovery Journey Through Hope](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/03/trusting-in-my-gambling-recovery-journey-through-hope/) - My higher power (God) has shown me the meaning of hope, of trust, and through his love, his forgiveness, and mercy, all the work you have done within recovery, you begin to transform yourself, flourish into a new life from the ashes of gambling addiction, learn to break free from gambling and begin a new
- [Addiction is Addiction is Addiction](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/03/addiction-is-addiction-is-addiction/) - This article about gambling addiction was produced by the Minnesota Alliance on Problem Gambling. For more information about gambling addiction in Minnesota, visit mnpga.org. The term “addiction” is defined as the state of being compulsively committed to a habit or practice or to something that is psychologically or physically habit-forming, such as narcotics, to such
- [Whose Problem Is This?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/03/whose-problem-is-this/) - “Allowing others to suffer the consequences of their own actions, without enabling them, is the best motivation for them to undertake the difficult task of change.” ― Darlene Lancer I remember the freedom I felt when I considered the question: Whose problem is this? The problem wasn’t mine, though it felt like mine. I was the one
- [Three of My Most Important Life Lessons That May Help Your Personal Growth and Sobriety](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/02/most-important-life-lessons-that-may-help-your-personal-growth-and-sobriety/) - Occasionally in life there are those moments of unutterable fulfillment which cannot be explained by those symbols called words. Their meaning can only be articulated by the inaudible language of the heart. —Martin Luther King, Jr. As I reflect on my life, I realize there are critical life lessons that make me into the person
- [Is It Healthy to Live Only for Yourself?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/02/is-it-healthy-to-live-only-for-yourself/) - In all of our lives there certainly are those times when it is very healthy to live only for ourselves. If we are just about to give birth to a child, if our recovery in a hospital from a life-threatening illness like alcoholism is at stake, or if we are powerless over another family member’s
- [Living a Better Financial Story](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/11/living-a-better-financial-story/) - In his book, A Million Miles in a Thousand Years, Donald Miller tells a powerful story he calls, “How Jason Saved His Family.” After returning from Los Angeles, where he took part in a storytelling workshop, Don got together with his friend, Jason, and learned of some trouble Jason and his wife were having with
- [Just in Time for Awareness Month: New MN Study Reveals Just How Common Problem Gambling Is](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/03/new-mn-study-reveals-just-how-common-problem-gambling-is/) - The Minnesota Department of Human Services shares about a recent study they conducted on problem gambling.
- [It Takes a Village: Naloxone Training for Overdose Prevention](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/11/naloxone-training-for-overdose-prevention/) - “I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something; and because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do something that I can do.” Helen Keller The opioid crisis has affected me both personally and professionally. If you are reading this article, chances
- [Beyond 12 Steps: There Are Many Paths to Addiction and Many Roads to Treatment and Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/09/beyond-12-steps-there-are-many-paths-to-addiction-and-many-roads-to-treatment-and-recovery/) - When we think of recovery programs for substance use disorders or addictive behaviors, many of us automatically think of the Twelve Steps. No surprise, since millions of people throughout the world embrace this philosophy that sprung up in the 1930s when the first Twelve Step group, Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), was founded. Today there are Twelve
- [Putting a Face on Recovery: Recovery Month and Recovery Community Organizations](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/09/putting-a-face-on-recovery-recovery-month-and-recovery-community-organizations/) - I am a person in long-term recovery. What that means to me is that I have not used alcohol or drugs in 24 years. I have found great joy, love, success, and health in my recovery, and have also experienced profound loss, pain, and failure. But my recovery has given me the hope and stability
- [The Need to Be Supported and to Support](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/01/the-need-to-be-supported-and-to-support/) - As we begin a new year, things around us seem quite chaotic — close to home and far away from home. This situation can be very triggering to people like me who wrestle with addictive tendencies. It can be especially strong if you are experiencing — for whatever reason — isolation and disconnection. I am
- [Fighting Addiction Requires Strong Partnerships Across Systems](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/01/fighting-addiction-requires-strong-partnerships-across-systems/) - Substance use disorder is treatable, and recovery is possible. But it is rarely achieved alone. That’s why the Minnesota Department of Human Services (DHS) is committed to strengthening Minnesota’s treatment system – so that everyone has access to the right kind of support, when and where they need it. My name is Jen Sather and
- [The State of Minnesota's Problem Gambling, Culturally Specific Awareness Initiative](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/03/the-state-of-minnesotas-problem-gambling-culturally-specific-awareness-initiative/) - Problem gambling negatively affects individuals, families, and communities in Minnesota. The behavior patterns associated with problem gambling compromise activities of daily living such as relationships, education and vocational opportunities, personal and financial well-being, substance use, emotional stability, physical health, and housing. Problem gambling also impacts families and other loved ones. It contributes to chaos and
- [Enhancing Well-being](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2023/01/enhancing-well-being/) - Well-being is “a set of skills that can be learned and cultivated over time, just like learning to play a musical instrument or riding a bike.” The Center for Healthy Mind Here we are again, another new, fresh, unopened year ahead. Like a new baby, it arrives with its own temperament, its own spirit, its own
- [Tricks of the Trade: Practical Remedies That Lessen Depression and Anxiety](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/12/tricks-of-the-trade-practical-remedies-that-lessen-depression-and-anxiety/) - Facing and resolving the major impediments in our life will bring us to a better lot in our life, one that surpasses having no impediments at all. Assuredly what doesn’t destroy us will only make us stronger. That’s the point of all suffering. —Anonymous Numbers of depression and anxiety are skyrocketing. If you are someone
- [Being Hopeful Through the Eyes of 12 Steps](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/12/being-hopeful-through-the-eyes-of-12-steps/) - In seeking to address the topic of hope today, I feel especially challenged as there seems to be so much frustration, hopelessness and powerlessness swirling around these days. These feelings are related to the continuing effects of Covid and now the flu; the rising costs of everyday items such as food and gasoline along with
- [What Makes You Happy May Not Be What You Think](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/12/what-makes-you-happy-may-not-be-what-you-think/) - Serenity is not in things but in what we make of things. —Epictetus, Greek Stoic Philosopher (55-135 AD) Some of us are truly happy over the long haul. However, most of us don't know how to sustain authentic happiness. We may give ourselves some thrills in the short run but are unclear how to maintain
- [What if Rehab Doesn't Work?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/12/what-if-rehab-doesnt-work/) - If you knew nothing else about her, you knew she was an addict. A self-proclaimed train wreck whose talent was too often overshadowed by a tabloid-fueled persona that turned her public life into a frustrating spectacle. Amy Winehouse's addiction had become a pop culture punch line. According to media accounts, I was in good company
- [Benefits of a Prenuptial Agreement – An Attorney’s Personal Experience](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/11/benefits-of-a-prenuptial-agreement-an-attorneys-personal-experience/) - As part of my estate planning law practice, I work with clients in drafting and executing prenuptial agreements prior to marriage. This is something that I am particularly passionate about, largely due to what I have witnessed and experienced through the divorces of my parents, friends and family members. I have written and advised on
- [At the Heart of Recovery: Making Choices](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/11/at-the-heart-of-recovery-making-choices/) - As I continue to reflect upon the wisdom of the 12 Steps and listen to others share their reflections, I usually learn or hear something that I was unaware of before. The 12 Steps have a way of giving new insights and new perspectives. That is the beauty of the 12 Steps! I want to
- [Surviving Suicide](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/12/surviving-suicide/) - Part of human existence, and having the ability to reason, is seeking answers to the question, Why? As a child, when we become aware of our surroundings and start to learn the way of things, we begin to ask why questions. We are curious, we want to know how things work, why they are the
- [Ending Your Life is Not the Answer to Your Situation](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/07/ending-your-life-is-not-the-answer-to-your-situation/) - You are at the end of your rope and you can’t take it any much longer. You are in pain and you are suffering and you feel there is no hope. The first step you need to do is to seek professional help. Do not make the decision to end your life when you are
- [In Planning Summit on Drug Abuse, Community Voices Are Most Important](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/11/in-planning-summit-on-drug-abuse-community-voices-are-most-important/) - Substance use disorder and the rapid rise in overdose deaths are among the most urgent issues facing our state. To save more lives and help communities heal, we must work together. That is why I’m particularly excited about an upcoming summit here in Minnesota. In January, several partners will host the SUD Shared Solutions Summit,
- [Service in Recovery: What You Give, Gives Back to You](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/11/service-in-recovery/) - The word “service” doesn’t appear anywhere in the Twelve Steps. Yet, it is a highly respected hallmark of this widespread approach to recovery. Hang around where Twelve Steppers gather, and you’ll likely hear “Thank you for your service” buzzing in the air. Service looks different for each person in a Twelve Step program, ranging from
- [Augsburg University’s StepUP Program Marks 25 Years](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/11/augsburg-universitys-stepup-program-marks-25-years/) - This year marks the 25th anniversary of StepUP, Augsburg University’s Collegiate Recovery Program. Twenty-five years ago, it was 1997. It was a remarkable time in many ways. That year, Google.com became registered as a domain name, Princess Diana died, a gallon of gas was $1.22, Bill Clinton was President, and StepUP, one of the nation’s oldest
- [How to Sanely and Safely Relate to a Self-centered Person](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/11/how-to-sanely-and-safely-relate-to-a-self-centered-person/) - Trying to care for a selfish person is like traveling into a black hole looking for love. The more you do it, the more you lose yourself. Eventually you disappear and perish in agony. —Anonymous Nothing pains me more in my mental health practice than witnessing a well-intentioned person trying desperately to be loved by
- [Slow Down](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/01/slow-down/) - "Winter is a season of recovery and preparation." —Paul Theroux Winter is upon us. Daylight is sparse. Dark extends from late afternoon well into morning. The air is cold and houses warm. Long nights encourage long sleeps. It is slow-down-time, mid-winter’s gift. The rush, the energy, the holiday festivities have ended. The silent nights finally
- [Creating Closeness With Compassionate Communication: A Nonviolent Approach](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/07/creating-closeness-with-compassionate-communication-a-nonviolent-approach/) - Personal communication too often fails us. A conversation can go south in a second when a nasty feeling erupts in our gut. The other person did something that strikes us as wrong, and they’re going to pay. Blame and vengeance hijack the conversation. Or we duck out of the conversation ASAP and let this feeling
- [Bumpy Holidays](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/11/bumpy-holidays/) - "If civilization is to survive, we must cultivate the science of human relationships - the ability of all peoples, of all kinds, to live together, in the same world at peace." Franklin D. Roosevelt November and December bring a variety of holiday festivities featuring food laden tables shared with family and friends. Hallmark paints a
- [Eating Disorders and Substance Abuse: From Diagnosis to Treatment](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/11/eating-disorders-and-substance-abuse-from-diagnosis-to-treatment/) - Addiction. The definition and understanding of addiction has experienced an enormous metamorphosis in the past hundred years. In the first half of the 20th century, the concept of addiction was undoubtedly confined to those with an extreme affinity to "demon rum;" cigarettes were still viewed as an enjoyable pastime, never a deadly addiction. The 60s
- [When Rules Can't Be Broken](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/10/over-controlling-parents/) - Having too many rules is just another way of saying: "I don't trust anybody to love me." "I'll never forget my father's funeral. It was tragic beyond words. Several people came to our family church to say goodbye to Bill. He had been a dutiful member of our community and responsible breadwinner of our family.
- [Staying in Charge While You Honor Your Children's Identities](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/10/staying-in-charge-while-you-honor-your-childrens-identities/) - Are parents really in charge of their families today? Most parents would say, "Of course we are!" The more honest answer is, "Probably not." Popular media, peer culture and our very own beloved children themselves often run our families today. Don't get me wrong. We parents really do love our children. It's just that we
- [Our Environment: The Beauty of Bees](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/07/our-environment-the-beauty-of-bees/) - According to Becky Masterman, director of the Bee Squad Association Program at the University of Minnesota, there is both good and bad news when it comes to bees. “The good news is the media has done such a good job of letting the public know the bees are in trouble,” Becky says. The bad news
- [Alcoholic's Who Are Deaf Can Now Access A.A.'s Updated ASL Translation of "The Big Book"](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/11/alcoholics-who-are-deaf-can-now-access-a-a-s-updated-asl-translation-of-the-big-book/) - With over 35 million printed copies sold, the book Alcoholics Anonymous is now available in an updated abridged translation into American Sign Language. Commonly referred to as “The Big Book” this basic text of the worldwide Fellowship that bears its name is now available on DVD to the Deaf community, the Hard-of-Hearing community and the hearing community
- [Recovery Flourishes in Community](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/09/recovery-flourishes-in-community/) - In reflecting upon recovery from addiction(s) – whatever they might be – the title of this article speaks very strongly to me. And its flip side – Addiction Flourishes in Isolation - also speaks strongly to me. Why? Because these sayings capture my journey to recovery. When I was in the throes of my addiction,
- [Never Too Old to Get Sober](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/09/never-too-old-to-get-sober/) - Older people can find plenty of reasons to drink alcohol or use other addictive drugs to excess. Pain relief. Isolation and loneliness. Feelings of boredom and uselessness after retirement. Loss after loss after loss. For some, it’s simply a decades-old habit. What’s hard to do is to stop using addictive substances when they are ruining
- [My Story](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/09/my-story/) - My name is Tracy, and I am a 54-year-old single mom in Connecticut. I was in a car accident in 2000 that resulted in back surgery, and subsequently taking a prescription of opioids and Xanax which lasted 25 years. I took them as prescribed as I thought I needed them for pain and anxiety and
- [Q & A With Treatment Providers in the Twin Cities](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/09/q-a-with-treatment-providers-in-the-twin-cities/) - We reached out to several providers in the Twin Cities to check in about their successes and challenges. All of them are seeing an increase in utilization of their services. What types of substance use (SUD) / mental health (MH) disorders are you seeing more of? Jeremiah Gardner Hazelden Betty Ford We are seeing more
- [Co-Dependency: A Little Bit of Give and Take](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/09/co-dependency-a-little-bit-of-give-and-take/) - Co-dependency. A term that I was unfamiliar with until I actually fell into a co-dependent relationship. I didn’t even know that that was what it was until I emerged on the other side of it. I mean, how can you be co-dependent on another person and lose all parts of yourself? I was familiar with
- [The Importance of Humility and Step 7](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/08/the-importance-of-humility-and-step-7/) - Step 7 as part of the 12 Steps reads: Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings. At first glance, this seems to be a simple statement about what to do to remove the shortcomings we all have in one form or another. Why? Because none of us is perfect. Right? As I have been reflecting
- [Parenting for Prevention](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/08/parenting-for-prevention/) - A clear and committed message is essential to help our youth through the web of peer pressure and stress that is part of growing up in America. It's pretty basic, really. Kids drink to change the way they feel. They succumb to peer pressure. They're stressed out, and a few hits of pot or a
- [Open Letter From Major John Donovan of Recovery Community Network](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/08/open-letter-from-major-john-donovan-of-recovery-community-network/) - The following is a letter from Major John G. Donovan of Recovery Community Network. Over two decades ago "Big Pharma" introduced a new pain medication to the market. It was known as OxyContin. It was marketed as a breakthrough in pain management as it was highly effective in relieving pain and it was non-addictive. Doctors prescribed, drugstores supplied
- [Life in the Fast Lane: When You Don't Know What You're Missing](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/07/life-in-the-fast-lane-when-you-dont-know-what-youre-missing/) - When I was a boy, my sister and I always looked forward to jumping in the family car and going with our parents clear across the country for our annual vacation. We'd finally get time alone with them, a rarity in our house due to their busy teaching schedule. Actually, the trip was a bittersweet
- [Making Art: The Creative Path to Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/07/making-art-the-creative-path-to-recovery/) - Let’s say you’ve landed in treatment. For the first time. Or for the umpteenth time. You can’t believe you’ll be stuck here for weeks, maybe months, with all these annoying people around you. You can’t believe you landed here, period. Your brain is pure fuzz. Your body craves just one thing – and you can’t
- [Brain Health](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/07/brain-health/) - “The brain can be continuously and consistently enriched throughout your life no matter your age or access to resources.” ― Sanjay Gupta, Keep Sharp: Build a Better Brain at Any Age Where did I leave my keys? Why did I come into this room? What was it that I wanted at the grocery store? I have a
- [How to Present Your Employment History Through Your Resume With a Justice Involved History](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/07/when-you-have-gaps-in-your-resume/) - This article instructs and suggests styles and methods of creating a resume with gaps in employment due to a justice involved history, which then results in absence of employment/and educational history. This information has been collated and recorded through several years of working inside our state facilities, as well as in the community setting with
- [What We Can All Do to Lessen Gun Violence](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/07/what-we-can-all-do-to-lessen-gun-violence/) - "He who lives by the sword, dies by the sword."— Matthew 26:52 As you probably are aware, gun violence affects us all and is an epidemic in our society. It is a major problem in America much more than in other developed countries. However, most of us are overwhelmed by the daily violence, overnight murders,
- [Changes to Allow More Choice for Those Getting Treatment](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/07/changes-to-allow-more-choice-for-those-getting-treatment/) - Drug and alcohol addictions are life-altering conditions with severe ramifications. With over half a million Minnesotans battling a substance use disorder, timely access to effective treatment remains crucial. In 2021, less than half the people in the state with a substance use disorder received treatment. Reasons for not getting treatment vary from person to person,
- [Connections Between The Four Agreements and the Road to Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/06/connections-between-the-four-agreements-and-the-road-to-recovery/) - Recently I found myself returning to a book I had read many years ago – The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz (Amber and Allen Publishing, San Rafael, CA, 1997). As I reflected on his thoughts about these “Four Agreements,” I began to see connections with our efforts to
- [First Person: Repotted](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/06/first-person-repotted/) - Mom’s green thumb was legendary. In addition to a phalanx of houseplants, every April she started hundreds of vegetable seeds inside under grow lights in order to plant green sprouted seedlings. Plants in Northern Minnesota need a head start in the short, 135-day, Zone 4 growing season. As a farmer’s daughter, a farmer’s wife, and
- [Red Lake Nation Puts Humans First in Providing Human Services](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/05/red-lake-nation-puts-humans-first-in-providing-human-services/) - The Red Lake Nation has transformed its approach to human services, adapting the services to the people instead of the other way around. It’s making a difference. Red Lake Nation’s new human services program, Ombimindwaa Gidinawemaaganinaadog (“Uplifting Our Relatives”), is based on the Anishinaabe language, culture, traditions, beliefs and values. Intergenerational family wellness is the
- [Where to Go When You Need a Break](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/05/where-to-go-when-you-need-a-break/) - The Phoenix · Where to Go When You Need a Break (In Minnesota) Sometimes I just have to get away. I’ve lost my bearings. I find myself whining over the stupidest little things. I need a reset. Especially now, with the tug of spring exploding with new life all around me. “Up North” cabins and
- [Retreat Revisited](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/05/retreat-revisited/) - The Phoenix · Retreat Revisited Within you there is a stillness and sanctuary to which you can retreat at any time and be yourself. —Hermann Hesse I love retreat time. It renews my spirit, refreshes my mind, and relaxes my body. Haven’t the last two years felt like an emotional roller coaster? COVID, politics, war,
- [Letting Your Adult Children Walk All Over You](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/04/letting-your-adult-children-walk-all-over-you/) - Oh you just wouldn't believe all the heartache Bob and I have had over our daughter's wedding! We were shocked when our darling Debbie, who is 30, told us that she didn't want to have her dad walk her down the aisle, she didn't want any flowers to recognize special relatives including my mother who
- [Where Has All the Joy Gone?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/03/where-has-all-the-joy-gone/) - This might sound like a strange question to raise for consideration in a newspaper dedicated to recovery issues. It is a question, however, that I hear being asked by people as we speak about issues like the impact of COVID-19 and what lies ahead, the many unsettled and turbulent situations around the world, and concerns
- [Betting Without Boundaries Has a High Cost](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/03/sports-betting-has-a-high-cost/) - The Phoenix · Betting Without Boundaries Has a High Cost Bray Ash had a good family, a good life, and a good future. When online gambling took over his mind, he could have lost it all. Fortunately, he got help, but not before a small fortune ― even his student loan money ― was lost
- [The Invisible Trauma of Emotional Neglect in Childhood: What You Can’t See Can Hurt You](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/03/the-invisible-trauma-of-emotional-neglect-in-childhood/) - "Whoever is delighted in solitude is either a wild beast or a god." —Francis Bacon Solitude is not the same thing as loneliness. All of us need times when we are just alone with ourselves. Perhaps we use that time to reflect on ourselves or just get away from the noise of the world. We
- [Peer Support Specialists Play Vital Role in Problem Gambling Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/03/peer-support-specialists-play-vital-role-in-problem-gambling-recovery/) - There is great power in learning from someone who has “been there before.” People with similar lived experience may be able to listen and provide hope and guidance in a way that is uniquely received. So-called “mental health peer support” has existed for decades. Since the 1990s, the concept of “consumers as providers” has become
- [From MN DHS: As Sports Betting Goes Mainstream, So Must Problem Gambling Awareness](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/03/problem-gambling-awareness/) - If you watched football this past season, you’re likely aware of the growing presence of sports betting culture. Pre-game segments where the hosts give gambling tips. Point spreads displayed next to the score. Advertisements for online sportsbooks during every commercial break. Three years after the Supreme Court ruled that states could allow legal sports betting,
- [Minding the Mind](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/03/minding-the-mind/) - The Phoenix · Minding the Mind “Mindfulness allows you to live deeply every moment that is given to you to live.” Thich Nhat Hanh Zen Buddhist master, teacher, and writer Thich Nhat Hanh died in January of this year at the age of 95. He introduced many Westerners to the practice of mindfulness and the
- [You Mean There's More to Life than Work?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/03/theres-more-to-life-than-work/) - "All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy." —Egyptian proverb, 2400BC Life is a blur. There's never enough time. Myra and I work ten hour days at least five days a week. Sometimes weekends. She teaches middle school with larger and larger class sizes. I'm a software engineer who's expected to do the
- [Restoring Resilience](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/07/restoring-resilience/) - “Resilience is our essential nature, woven into our being as a natural capacity to restore and recover so that we can experience the joy and well being that are our birthright.” Dr. Henry Emmons, MD What is resilience? Is it strength, persistence, courage? Do you think about your resilience or another’s? Is resilience acquired or
- [Pathway to Anonymity: Setting Aside Everything We Think We Know](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/02/pathway-to-anonymity/) - Most of us have probably attended a significant number of meetings where we read How It Works. We often refer to The Twelve Traditions as “Why it works.” How a thing works and why it works are usually two different ideas. Here, let’s give some attention to the transformative power of the 12th tradition, especially
- [Making Character More Important than Achievement in Your Children](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/02/making-character-more-important-than-achievement-in-your-children/) - What does it profit a man to gain the whole world and suffer the loss of his soul? — Mark 8:36 If you're a parent, you've heard it all before. First it's the Mozart tapes you have to buy for your developing baby in the womb so your little Johnnie or Mary will be months
- [The Importance of Character and Why we are Blind to it](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/05/the-importance-of-character-and-why-we-are-blind-to-it/) - Good character is doing the right thing when nobody else is looking. When I first met Jamil I didn’t know what to think. He is a charming, funny and intelligent man from Somalia who is active in his community here in the States. He helps many of his own country persons to make it in
- [Duped in Love: When Your Spouse Mysteriously Turns Into Someone You Don’t Know](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/09/duped-in-love-when-your-spouse-mysteriously-turns-into-someone-you-dont-know/) - “The heart already knows what the mind has yet to perceive” — Antoine de Saint-Exupery Life is hard enough when we and our partners go through life changes. We change careers. We are faced by major health challenges. We age and cannot do what we used to do. All of these normal life stresses pale
- [Jump Sober](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/05/jump-sober/) - The author spoke of his earlier self, describing how he so desperately wanted to bring good things into his life to attract the wealth, health and happiness he had always craved. He eagerly and often lined his shelves with tons of books about all things spiritual. This fascinated me, here was someone writing about wanting
- [Choosing Gratitude Over Alienation](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/12/choosing-gratitude-over-alienation/) - "Our life begins to end the day we stop being grateful." -Anonymous It's that time of year when many of us gather with loved ones intending to give thanks. We experience tender moments with family or at least what we hope will be tender moments. Too often we've become disappointed as the actual closeness with
- [Rising Above After a Breakdown](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/05/rising-above-after-a-breakdown/) - “Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed and rearranged to relocate us to the place we are meant to be.” Life on Purpose – Mandy Hale When I had a nervous breakdown, I was in a bad way. The world I thought I knew had fallen apart. I was supposed to be
- [Casino Kids: How Gambling Addiction Affects Children](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/02/casino-kids-how-gambling-addiction-affects-children/) - Gambling is becoming a way of life, to the detriment of individual and family lives. Poker is becoming increasingly popular, now offered in neighborhood bars. Buses transport gamblers to casinos from convenient locations. Exposure on TV, video games and the Internet is increasing. Gambling is being considered as a means to increase revenue for the
- [Progress, Not Perfection](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/01/progress-not-perfection/) - We are well into the New Year now, and we’re either slogging through our resolutions and changes, or they’ve been tossed aside as old habits come creeping back. Whichever side of the coin you fall on, inspiration and motivation for better health isn’t hard to find. It seems everyone around you is on your side
- [First Person: Joseph's Story](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/01/first-person-josephs-story/) - My story is kind of long and complicated, but the best place to start is in Iowa City, around 2011/2012. I transferred there from Iowa State University, because of the famous Writer’s Workshop, and I had made the recent decision to pursue my passion as a writer. But that year at the University of Iowa
- [First Person: Brianna's Story](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/01/first-person-briannas-story/) - You’re never quite right again after feeling the life exit a person’s body, especially when it’s your younger sister. That’s when the road to disfunction and addiction began in my life. Being a young girl of only nine years old, the loss of my sister Debba Jean was crippling for me emotionally, mentally, even physically,
- [Letter From the Twin Cities Recovery Project on the Death of Marc Johnigan](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/12/letter-from-the-twin-cities-recovery-project-on-the-death-of-marc-johnigan/) - The Phoenix Spirit is posting this letter from interim Twin Cities Recovery Project (TCRP) President, George Lewis. Our condolences to the families of Marc Johnigan, Dwayne Jackson and Dwayne's sister Denise Anderson who were involved in this tragedy. An online fundraiser has been setup for Johnigan's family. It is with intense sadness that the Board
- [From Addict to Mentor: A Story of Hope](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/01/from-addict-to-mentor-a-story-of-hope/) - The Phoenix · From Addict to Mentor: A Story of Hope Despite his gregarious, nice-guy persona, Randy Anderson was a hard case. He didn’t want to live anymore after his wife left him, so he took to using more drugs and selling them, hoping that would do him in. Good at sales and determined to
- [Finding Hope by Being Close to Others](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/01/finding-hope-by-being-close-to-others/) - A real friend is the gift of a lifetime. It is special someone who is in your life in a significant way. Good friendship is a sacred two-sided connection with a person we have much in common with yet also respects differences with each other. A real friend knows our worst qualities and challenges us
- [Can You See Her? Hope After Abuse](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/01/can-you-see-her-hope-after-abuse/) - If you, or someone you know, is in an abusive relationship call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). Calls are confidential. I want to start by saying that not all addicts are abusers. And not all abusers are addicts. But in my case, he was. Both. Well, perhaps an “addict in denial,” but most definitely an abuser. Of course,
- [Letter From the Editor: Hope in the Darkness](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/01/letter-from-the-editor-hope-in-the-darkness/) - “Hope begins in the dark.” Anne Lamott Throughout my life, that little thing called hope has refused to go away. Even in some of my darkest moments, hope sat there, like a little flame in the darkness, quietly glowing and waiting for me to notice it again. Through blinding tears, I’ve seen it shimmer and
- [Threshold to 2022](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2022/01/threshold-to-2022/) - The Phoenix · Threshold to 2022 “Thresholds are dangerous places, neither here nor there, and walking across one is like stepping off the edge of a cliff in the naïve faith that you'll sprout wings halfway down. You can't hesitate, or doubt. You can't fear the in-between.” — Alix E. Harrow We are once again
- [From the Publisher](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/01/from-the-publisher-3/) - Hold onto your earmuffs, readers, for this issue of The Phoenix Spirit will appeal to a wide and colorful swath of tastes and interests. For the tree-huggers and otherwise environmentally minded, flip to the back cover and read how you, too, can ReWild yourself. 2017 may be the Year of Forest Ecotherapy for you and
- [Taking on Tobacco: Why People Keep Smoking](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/01/taking-on-tobacco-why-people-keep-smoking/) - This article was originally published in the August 2006 issue of The Phoenix Spirit. Some numbers and reports about smoking may have since changed. Stop me if you've heard this one before: Smoking is bad for you. For more than 55 years, we've known that tobacco is bad for our health — so bad that
- [Annual Conference Gives Faith Communities Knowledge and Tools to Respond to Addiction Crisis](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/09/annual-conference-gives-faith-communities-knowledge-and-tools-to-respond-to-addiction-crisis/) - If the religious organization where you grew up talked about addiction, would it tout fear, morality, punishment or “tough love?” Or would there simply be the sound of crickets? If so, Pastor Ed Treat wants to invite them to attend the Center of Addiction & Faith’s third Addiction & Faith Conference, October 7-9, 2021 in
- [How to Have an Authentic Relationship With Yourself](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/01/have-authentic-relationship-with-yourself/) - Too many of us today have almost no idea who we really are. Nor do we even know that we have no idea. We simply exist without a clue and hope for the best. If we ran into some sharp corner of ourselves we wouldn’t know how to round if off. Nor would we even
- [Staying Sharp: Q&A With Doctors Henry Emmons & David Alter](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/09/staying-sharp-qa-with-doctors-henry-emmons-david-alter/) - In their new book Staying Sharp, doctors Henry Emmons and David Alter have combined the latest neuroscience research with age-old wisdom about resilience, mindfulness, and stress reduction to show that vibrant aging is within reach. Together they demonstrate how to blend the best of modern science and Eastern holistic medicine to form a powerful drug-free
- [Taking Care of Yourself: Start With the Obvious](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/12/taking-care-of-yourself-start-with-the-obvious/) - Why do some people adapt easily to change while others become bogged down, overwhelmed and depressed? In the midst of difficult experiences, why do some people adopt an attitude of optimism and hope, while others become trapped in cycles of negative thinking? The adaptable folks are demonstrating resilience, or the ability to readily recover from
- [Faulty Beliefs of Good Parents Who Overdo it With Their Kids](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/12/faulty-beliefs-of-good-parents-who-overdo-it-with-their-kids/) - Unfortunately many good parents these days overdo it with their kids. They make their children their whole lives and neglect their own identities and marital well-being. It's as if they have no other identity other than being a parent. Their overzealousness and striving for perfection is somewhat understandable. The world is so threatening and complex
- [The Dead Among Us](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/11/the-dead-among-us/) - I'll never forget the day my friend Martin told me he just got diagnosed with cancer. As I sat sad and stupefied across from him over coffee I silently mused over the possibility that this charming old wise man may leave us way too soon. His erudition and idiosyncratic views of life are legendary. He
- [Making Choices and Accountability in Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/11/making-choices-and-accountability-in-recovery/) - There are many aspects that can be helpful in moving us from addictive thinking and behavior to recovery. In this article, I would like to focus on two aspects that have become important in my recovery journey as well as in those of a number of people I know. They are: making choices and being
- [Tiny Solutions Give Homes to the Homeless](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/11/tiny-solutions-give-homes-to-the-homeless/) - The Phoenix · Tiny Solutions Give Homes to the Homeless What does it take for people living on the streets to find a place to call home? The prevailing model in government and social service agencies for addressing homelessness is a “housing first” approach. Get the person out of the elements and into a safe
- [It's Only a Game. Or Is It?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/07/its-only-a-game-or-is-it/) - Gaming disorder, recently recognized by the World Health Organization as a disease, affects only a small proportion of people who engage in digital- or video-gaming activities. But for those affected, the addiction can be all-consuming, controlling the mind. Gaming addict Julian Struksheats tells his story in this interview with The Phoenix Spirit. The interview has
- [Relationships: Keeping Codependency in Check and Enjoying Peace](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/01/relationships-keeping-codependency-in-check-and-enjoying-peace/) - How to experience relationships, confidently and peacefully, has been at the core of my writing since my first book, Each Day a New Beginning: Daily Meditations for Women, was published in 1982. It makes sense when one considers my history: I was the third child in a family of four children with an angry, chronically
- [Books (Nov/Dec 2021)](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/11/books-nov-dec-2021/) - Here are our book recommendations from the November / December 2021 issue. Please let us know if you have any books you'd like us to include in future issues. [table id=36 /] We may earn a commission via some of the links on this page, at no cost to you. Thank you for helping to
- [Letter From the Editor: The Secret of Happiness](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/11/letter-from-the-editor-the-secret-of-happiness/) - We are approaching the traditional time of year when we give gratitude for what we have in our lives. Given the last couple of years, you might be forgiven for thinking, “What do I have to be grateful for? How can I be happy as the pandemic continues to rage?” In a chaotic, consumer-driven, unpredictable
- [Click](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/11/click/) - My first calls for help weren’t loud enough – given the deserted condo grounds three stories below. No tracks in the snow. Not even a bird or squirrel in the oak trees outside the screen. The sun was low, showing streaks on the sliding glass door that had closed with a solid, unmistakable click. I
- [This Holiday Season, Remember Help Is Just a Call (or Text) Away](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/11/this-holiday-season-remember-help-is-just-a-call-or-text-away/) - For many, the holiday season is a time of cheer, generosity and bonding with family. For some, it’s a series of triggers that can threaten their recovery and mental health. A recent study by the National Alliance on Mental Illness showed that for 64% of people with mental illness, the holidays make their conditions worse.
- [Move to Change: Using Dance to Ease Conflict](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/03/move-to-change-using-dance-to-ease-conflict/) - Throughout our lives, we learn contextually appropriate ways to maneuver our bodies in relationship to the world. Children, for instance, are often given more social permission to move about, jump, and play with fervor. However, the body-politic does not offer equal access or freedom to move for all; in some cultures certain forms of movement
- [When Someone You Know Is Living the Me-Me Life](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/11/when-someone-you-know-is-living-the-me-me-life/) - He who falls in love with himself will have no rivals. — Benjamin Franklin Please pardon me for talking about a very grim topic—the epidemic of narcissism in our culture. I’m doing this to give hope, validation and power to the partners of self-centered people and for all of us to work on this major
- [In Gratitude](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/10/in-gratitude/) - The Phoenix · In Gratitude “The root of joy is gratefulness...It is not joy that makes us grateful; it is gratitude that makes us joyful.” ― Brother David Steindl-Rast I enter this season of gratitude—starting with the Thanksgiving holiday followed by our various spiritual celebrations of hope—with much for which to be grateful. I recognize a cornucopia
- [The Art of Giving](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/11/the-art-of-giving/) - Potatoes; a pocket watch chain; a pair of decorative combs; a plastic crucifix. Are any of these on your gift list? We may turn up our collective nose and scoff at the quaintness, yet each in its own way could stand in for the grander definition of “gift”. The 14th century Persian Sufi master and
- [How Was Your Harvest?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/11/how-was-your-harvest/) - The law of harvest is to reap more than you sow. Sow an act, and you reap a habit. Sow a habit and you reap a character. Sow a character and you reap a destiny. —James Allen Late autumn has me in the garden bringing in the last of the vegetable harvest, clearing out the
- [Allowing Others to Define Who We Are](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/10/allowing-others-to-define-who-we-are/) - "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt, 'This Is My Story' 1937 My week was going great until I got my annual work review. I've worked at this therapeutic youth center for 20 years as a recreational therapist. I love my job, my peers respect me and I have great
- [Perilous Self-Deception: When We Have a Distorted View of How Much Others Care For Us](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/01/perilous-self-deception-when-we-have-a-distorted-view-of-how-much-others-care-for-us/) - Many of us fool ourselves into believing that other people care about us more than they really do. Or else we don’t grasp just how much some people have to offer us and push away real love. Too many of us are in a no-man’s land of self-deception when it comes to getting close to
- [Growing Up With Emotionally Detached Parents](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/03/growing-up-with-emotionally-detached-parents/) - I live with my girlfriend in what you might call a mutual arrangement. It’s about all we can handle. Neither one of us wants to be married. We’re both successful career people. It works for us. That is until recently. Last week my girlfriend said she would like to have a baby. I half facetiously
- [2118 NuWay Counseling Center Open for Business](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/08/2118-nuway-counseling-center-open-for-business/) - Located in the newly Renovated Historic Pillsbury Snyder Mansion in South Minneapolis, the 2118 NuWay Counseling Center Open for Business.Minneapolis—NuWay, a 50-year-old nonprofit organization that provides extended care treatment for substance abusers headquartered and founded in the heart of the recovery community, has opened an outpatient facility in the historic Pillsbury Snyder mansion at 2118
- [Stereotyping Men: How it Hurts Us All](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/10/stereotyping-men-how-it-hurts-us-all/) - It's been a year since I survived a near fatal car crash. Fell asleep at the wheel. It's a miracle that no one was killed. That wasn't the biggest miracle to come out of it. Let me explain. I'd always had a competitive and distant relationship with the men at the office. They reminded me
- [When You’re Haunted by Guilt for Hurting Your Children](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/10/when-youre-haunted-by-guilt-for-hurting-your-children/) - Nothing tugs at the heartstrings of parents more than knowing that our children are suffering from ways we've harmed them. Such awareness may feel unbearable for any of us to endure. Most of us would rather deny the full extent of how we've affected our children if we want to live with any sense of
- [Stay Connected to Your Teen: Out of Sight Need Not be Out of Mind](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/10/how-to-stay-connected-to-your-teen/) - Staying emotionally connected to your teen is essential both for you and for your adolescent. It may feel impossible at times but it is a crucial relationship task. A deep dark secret of adolescence is that being a teenager is often a lonely time, more than anyone cares to admit. The necessary loss of a
- [The Time is Now](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/02/the-time-is-now/) - The Phoenix · The Time is Now The eyes of the future are looking back at us, and they are praying for us to see beyond our own time. Terry Tempest Williams I write this as winter’s cold and ice extend across our country, shattering records unbroken for hundreds of years. Texas’ whole electric grid is failing,
- [The Art of the Urban Retreat](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/05/the-art-of-the-urban-retreat/) - The sauna meister artfully swirled a white towel over his head, sending waves of eucalyptus scented steam to envelope us. “Try to hang in there and breathe it in,” he urged those of us remaining in the room. A couple of people from the group of 22 had slipped out the door already, opting instead
- [Interventions: Don't Love Them to Death, Get Help](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/09/interventions-dont-love-them-to-death-get-help/) - The Phoenix · Don't Love Them to Death. Get Help. Intervention is a highly effective way to get someone into addiction treatment. When it’s led by a professional interventionist, that is. Plenty of people try on their own to convince the addicted person to stop using and go to treatment. They might even stage their
- [A Worldwide Recovery of Our Time](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/09/a-worldwide-recovery-of-our-time/) - “For there is always light, if only we’re brave enough to see it. If only we’re brave enough to be it.” —Excerpt from “The Hill We Climb," Inauguration poem by Amanda Gorman The world today is in on-going recovery. Why? you might ask. Think about the past eighteen months: A pandemic (which is not yet
- [Self-empowerment Through Peer Recovery Support](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/09/self-empowerment-through-peer-recovery-support/) - People in long-term recovery know the drill. They have been down. They got up. And they’re staying up. With some training and supervision, they can share their experience, understanding and reassurance with others who are recovering from substance use disorder. In fact, they may be able to help others become ready and willing to seek
- [Becoming a Better Version of Yourself](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/09/becoming-a-better-version-of-yourself/) - Most of us don’t think much about what type of person we are. We have a hard enough time attending to the practical details of daily living—staying virus-free, caring for children, paying the bills, having enough food in the house, and knowing what our next project is at home. Few of us would choose having
- [Pause](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/08/pause/) - The Phoenix · Pause Human freedom involves our capacity to pause, to choose the one response toward which we wish to throw our weight. —Rollo May Consider the pause. A delay in responding. A No to reaction. A time to assess. The pause is a place to evaluate options. Pause to stop automatic reactions. Pause to regard another perspective. Pause to mitigate
- [When Someone You Love Lacks Soul](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/08/when-someone-you-love-lacks-soul/) - "My life was going great until one day at the office this good looking guy, Sam, a computer consultant, came on our floor and I just couldn't keep my eyes off of him. Co-workers said, "Marty, he's a nerd. He's not your type. Leave him alone." Did I listen to them? No I didn't. As
- [Facing the Reality of Sex Addiction](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/08/facing-the-reality-of-sex-addiction/) - It might seem strange at first to think that sex can become an addiction. It’s a natural biological activity, not a chemical ingested into the system. But just as alcohol and drugs can become addictive, so can natural activities like eating and sex. These activities become problematic when they are used as a means of
- [Between Straight Lines](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/12/between-straight-lines/) - Elise abruptly stopped using her brown crayon to color the space between the lines of a puppy. She brushed her wispy blond bangs from her eyes and, with a dead-serious expression, blurted out, “I have to go potty.” My wife, our twin 5-year-old daughters and I walked to the steel door. The counselor unlocked it.
- [Indifference: How to Cope When Someone You Love Is Indifferent to Others](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/12/how-to-cope-with-indifferent-person/) - "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt, 'This Is My Story' 1937 My boyfriend Brad is to die for. When is visits me at work all the girls in the office go nuts over him. They tell me, "Girl, if you blow it with him, he's mine." Yes, Brad's dark
- [Channeling Your  Addictive Energies:  Enabling Possibilities](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/09/channeling-your-addictive-energies-enabling-possibilities/) - When we are immersed in recovery, our healing journey is a moment by moment experience. Over forty years ago, I was introduced to the Twelve Step program because I wanted my husband to quit drinking. It was evident his behavior was destructive. The Al-Anon program revealed that mine was crazy too. Unaware that my fears
- [Being Nice May Not Be Very Nice](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/08/being-nice-may-not-be-very-nice/) -  Geez! Some people just don't know how to be grateful. I told my ex-wife, Laurie, that I'd be over to light her furnace. Laurie's a klutz with mechanical things and I thought she'd be blow her whole house up if she did it herself. When I came out of the basement with soot all
- [Goodwill Easter Seals Offers No Cost Job Training](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/11/goodwill-easter-seals-offers-no-cost-job-training/) - Goodwill Easter Seals of Minnesota (GES) is offering free, job training and placement for individuals looking for careers in construction, automobile service, information technology and business. "Our classes run year-round," says Jacqueline Reding of Goodwill. "We start new classes approximately every 7-12 weeks, depending on the class." GES instructors will teach the technical skills needed
- [Get Up and Sing: Minnesota Adult and Teen Challenge Choir](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/07/get-up-and-sing-minnesota-adult-and-teen-challenge-choir/) - The Phoenix · Get Up and Sing: The Minnesota Adult and Teen Challenge Choir Sunday morning is not the time for sleeping off a bad night of boozing or shooting up. Nor is it time for making more broken promises to yourself that you know you’re going to break. At least that’s true for choir
- [The (Sober) Dating Game](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/07/the-sober-dating-game/) - In my first year of sobriety, I made a self-imposed purity pact. I planned to stay out of all relationships until I made it to my first sober birthday. No sex, no drugs, no drink. My best friend Stephanie also took this oath. Together we drank the virgin Kool-Aid that our recovery community suggested was
- [World History of Drugs (Part VI)](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/07/world-history-of-drugs-part-vi/) - The following is the final article in a six-part series from author, George Lewis. Opinions expressed in this article are not necessarily the views of The Phoenix Spirit. In “Part VI” of the World History of Drugs, you will meet the pawns in this deadly game of politics and drugs. You will learn how the
- [Our Villages and the Power of Affirmation](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/07/the-power-of-affirmation/) - In the past eighteen months, everyone has been through an incredibly complex time as our usual ways of doing life and relating to others have changed – very often, radically! As I thought about and lived through these events and experiences, I found myself thinking about two realities – first, our need for places to
- [If You’re Suspicious and You’re Sure That Others Are Secretly Against You](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/07/youre-sure-that-others-are-secretly-against-you/) - "I am me plus my context. If I cannot change my context, I cannot change me." — Ortega y Gasset, Prolific Spanish political theorist and philosopher (1883-1955) Suspicion and paranoia may not be fun to talk about. They have become alarmingly common these days and are at the heart of what leads to senseless gun
- [Summertime](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/07/summertime/) - The Phoenix · Summertime “In summer, the song sings itself.” — William Carlos Williams We are in the fullness of summer, the season of light, vitality, and rest. A few years ago, I visited Norway during their time of high sun. Long days stretched into midnight and began anew at 4:00 a.m. I recalled the
- [Go Away to Find Yourself](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/05/go-away-to-find-yourself/) - Could you use a break from your daily routine? Some time away for rest, reflection, and renewal? Maybe it’s time to go on a retreat. Whether you take a few hours, days, or months of downtime, going on retreat offers you a chance to unravel your thinking, be kind to your body, and revitalize your
- [Gambling Addiction: Finally Out of the Shadows](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/03/gambling-addiction-finally-out-of-the-shadows/) - Molly shares about gambling addiction and resources available to those still struggling or in recovery, in the state of Minnesota.
- [A Different Kind of Grief: Living With a Son's Overdose Death](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/07/living-with-a-sons-overdose-death/) - My oldest son Aaron died of a heroin overdose in May, 2007. He was 33 years old and had battled addiction for almost 20 years. After he died, I was encouraged by friends and family members to attend a grief group specifically for parents whose children had died. But, I was not ready to attend
- [Why Is It So Hard to Have a Close Friend?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/06/why-is-it-so-hard-to-have-a-close-friend/) - When all is said and done, it's the time we spend with friends that gives life meaning. —Abraham Lincoln Finding and keeping an authentic friend is hard for all of us. Sometimes a true friend may feel impossible to find. In fact there are no perfect friends out there for us to have. Some people
- [The Paradox of Scapegoating: What Seems to Make Us Safe Actually Diminishes Us](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/05/the-paradox-of-scapegoating/) - "If you knew the secret life of your enemies it would be enough to disarm all your hostilities." —Henry Wadsworth Longfellow We humans are something else. We're either putting other people on pedestals or else relishing their demise. We're the ultimate social creatures. We love to imitate each other or else thrive on beating the
- [Stop and Smell the Roses](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/05/stop-and-smell-the-roses/) - “I believe your reality is what you make it, what you choose to see, and what you choose to allow yourself to do. There are possibilities all around you - magic all around you - no matter what situation you're in.” Keke Palmer, Actress As we dig into the second year of the pandemic, a
- [As Sick As Your Secret](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/05/as-sick-as-your-secret/) - I take the subway from Central Park West down to Brooklyn. I’m headed to a party that some old friends from college are having. These are my chique, New York friends who unintentionally make me feel like a country bumpkin. My winter coat didn’t look so boxy, and my boots didn’t seem that scuffed, until
- [World History of Drugs (Part V)](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/05/world-history-of-drugs-part-v/) - The following is part five in a series by author, George Lewis. The 80s have arrived and the election of Reagan, drugs, and the Nicaraguan Civil War begins the evolution of the Iran-Contra Scandal, the betrayal of America in general and the betrayal of Black and Brown America specifically is about to take place. The
- [Hiking Tips for Successful Trails](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/05/hiking-tips-for-successful-trails/) - The benefits of time in the outdoors – physical and mental health – are two of the top reasons people head outside. As the Minnesota Ambassador for Women Who Hike, I’ve been privileged to watch women who seek out ways to get outside. I have a glimpse into the reasons they hike. Their concerns, worries
- [How COVID-19 Has Affected Mental Health and Addiction in Minnesota](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/05/how-covid-19-has-affected-mental-health-in-minnesota/) - The COVID-19 pandemic has had profound impacts on the mental health of people of all ages. In fact, many people who had never experienced mental health challenges have found themselves struggling for the first time. Never has it been more important to take care of ourselves, seek help when needed, and support our friends and
- [Receiving Grace From Your Higher Power](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/05/receiving-grace-from-your-higher-power/) - "God speaks to us every day only we don’t know how to listen".— Gandhi Unfortunately, too many of us don’t believe in a Higher Power, let alone actually listen to that voice within ourselves. It’s the guidance that summons us to bring out the better part of ourself and connect to others in ways that
- [Having Healthy Boundaries: A Necessary Way to Love](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/05/having-healthy-boundaries-a-necessary-way-to-love/) - The Phoenix · Having Healthy Boundaries: A Necessary Way to Love To know where you begin and I end is necessary for me to respect you, for me to be respected by you, and for me to respect myself. Without respect, there is no authentic love.  Every time I visit my family I come
- [A Retreat for Grieving](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/05/a-retreat-for-grieving/) - The Phoenix · A Retreat for Grieving “Give the sorrow words; the grief that does not speak knits up the o-er wrought heart and bids it break.” William Shakespeare, Macbeth Each year I look forward to writing a piece for our Retreat Issue. Often, I compose it on my way home from my annual retreat. However, this year
- [When You're In Your Head A Lot](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/04/when-youre-in-your-head-a-lot/) - I hang out quite a bit with a rather attractive blond at my fitness club. We discuss our workout routines and how to improve our times on the machines. We're always chatting. She has a very nice smile. Most of my friends at the club, knowing we are both single, are on me. They say,
- [With an Ally You Can Face Your Worst Fears](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/04/with-an-ally-you-can-face-your-worst-fears/) - All my life I wanted to learn how to scuba dive. It was just one of those things I felt I had to do, not just to explore the mystery of the deep seas, but more importantly to explore and conquer something inside myself. You see all my life I've needed to be in control
- [Living With Unidentified Trauma Symptoms](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/04/living-with-unidentified-trauma-symptoms/) - "One who returns to a place sees it with new eyes. Although the place may not have changed, the viewer inevitably has. For the first time things invisible before become suddenly visible. —Louis L'Amour  I've always felt there is something fundamentally wrong with me. Sometimes I get these anxiety spells out of the blue.
- [When Every Other Day is About Ought's and Should's](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/04/when-every-other-day-is-about-oughts-and-shoulds/) - "You don't really control anything." —Sheldon B. Kopp, Psychotherapist and Author All of us have times when we're obligated to carry out duties as part of normal life rituals. Having relatives visit us from out of town may prompt us to clean our houses ahead of time and get the guest rooms ready. Doing so
- [Creating as a Form of Meditation](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/03/creating-as-a-form-of-meditation/) - Those of us who live or have lived with the problem of addiction in a relative or friend know what it means to over-utilize the left side of the brain. You know, the side that controls thinking, logic, analyzing, keeping things in order and figuring things out. We come up with hundreds of “if only’s”
- [Where the Truth Lies (Why We Lie and How to Stop)](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/03/why-we-lie-and-how-to-stop/) - The Phoenix · Where the Truth Lies (Why We Lie and How to Stop) We all lie more than we’d like to think we do – to look good, to avoid trouble, to keep safe. But addicts lie as if their life depends on it. They say and do whatever is necessary to hide their
- [World History of Drugs (Part IV)](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/03/world-history-of-drugs-part-iv/) - The following is part four in a series by author, George Lewis. The year is 1980 and America is in upheaval at every level of society, distrust of government and the power structure is the norm. Jimmy Carter’s failed attempt at rescuing the Americans that were taken hostage at the American Embassy in Teheran on
- [Letter From the Editor: A Fantastical Wonderland of Virtual Realities](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/03/letter-from-the-editor-a-fantastical-wonderland-of-virtual-realities/) - “It was all very well to say, ‘Drink me,’ but the wise little Alice was not going to do that in a hurry. ‘No, I’ll look first,’ she said, ‘and see whether it’s marked ‘poison’ or not.’” Chapter 1, Down the Rabbit-Hole, Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland, Lewis Carroll Most of us are familiar with the
- [Learning How and When to Trust Others](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/03/learning-how-and-when-to-trust-others/) - Hold fast to dreams, For if dreams die, Life is a broken-winged bird That cannot fly. —Langston Hughes, 1902-1967, poet Let’s talk about trusting others. We live in an age of massive distrust. Political leaders are frequently seen today as self-serving and lacking integrity even when many are honorable. Yet the betrayals of public trust
- [The Devastating Consequences of an Addiction](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/11/the-devastating-consequences-of-an-addiction/) - It’s hard to imagine myself drinking or using again. It’s been so long since the last time I got drunk or high that it seems like an alternate life. The old me is a far away, distant memory. No more hangover headaches punishing me for the previous night. That past life of alcohol and drugs
- [Doing With Less: Is It Really All That Bad?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/09/doing-with-less/) - Let's face it. When you're about to lose your house to foreclosure or a job due to layoff doing with less is a bitter pill to swallow. The resulting heartache and worry may make us very reluctant to imagine any good coming from such setbacks. Yet most of us have a different type of tribulation.
- [Choosing Joy](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/11/choosing-joy/) - You ever have that day where everything is going great, you're excited for the day and then something comes up that just throws off everything?! A text, a call, something someone says to you... Lovely. Now my perfectly good day is ruined. All thanks to one person. One thing. You know what I'm talking about?
- [Managing Stress in an Impaired Culture](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/01/managing-stress-in-an-impaired-culture/) - “You are not entirely your circumstances. Work on your own life and happiness. Never give up. For starters, embrace the miracle of love, love strong enough to guide or drive one into the great estate of maturity, or, to put it another way, into the apprehension and acceptance of one’s own identity. Do this with
- [The Power of Humor](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/02/the-power-of-humor/) - “The human race has one really effective weapon, and that is laughter.” Mark Twain When my dad died recently, I never thought our first reaction would be to joke about it. Mom and the four of us grown kids were on the bed with him, holding him. The hospice chaplain had just joined us. After
- [What Does Nourishment Mean to You?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/02/what-does-nourishment-mean-to-you/) - I have always associated the word nourishment with food—and eating. The word nourish actually means to provide food or other substances necessary for growth, health, and good condition; to promote growth needed for nourishment (including spiritual nourishment); and to maintain/ support/strengthen. What is interesting about the definition is that it makes the distinction among the
- [Where Is Your Hope?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/01/where-is-your-hope/) - The Phoenix · Where Is Your Hope? Is your hope these days in a vaccine? A new political or economic vision? More public attention to ending racism or climate warming? Whatever we look to outside of ourselves is always transient. A more reliable basis for hope comes from within our own hearts and minds. What
- [Becoming Community](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/01/becoming-community/) - The Phoenix · Becoming Community “The most daring thing is to create stable communities in which the terrible disease of loneliness can be cured.” – Kurt Vonnegut I miss people. I miss little people, big people, happy people, crabby people. I miss the spontaneity that a safe environment supports. I miss hugging friends and rubbing
- [Acceptance](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/12/acceptance/) - I had on my brown Ecco shoes. They have rather large, funny heels anyway, but when I looked down just moments after the car accident, my right heel was moved over to one side. I put my right hand on the bottom of my thigh and my left hand on the top, and knew it
- [World History of Drugs (Part III)](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/01/world-history-of-drugs-part-iii/) - The following is part three in a series by author, George Lewis. The United States is a reluctant world power. All eyes are on Europe watching and waiting as Hitler rises to power. It is 1933 and America is still feeling the sting of its participation in World War I which it had just ended
- [Wishin' and Hopin'](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/01/wishin-and-hopin/) - I was in the middle of what I thought was a soulful, honest share when a voice bellowed from the back of the room. I turned to see a crusty old guy, holding an unlit cigar, who looked impatient for me to either finish baring my soul or move on to a different subject. “It’s
- [Our New Virtual World of Care](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/01/virtual-care-and-after-pandemic/) - This past spring, when the COVID-19 pandemic struck, people in need of behavioral health services were blindsided. While in-person treatment programs were considered essential services and continued, many people, especially those at higher risk, stayed away. Even more, outpatient services and other supportive services were unable to offer people the help that they needed. This
- [A Time to Heal: Let’s Embrace  the Better Angels of Our Nature](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/01/a-time-to-heal-lets-embrace-the-better-angels-of-our-nature/) - “We are not enemies, but friends. We must not be enemies. Though passion may have strained, it must not break our bonds of affection. The mystic chords of memory will swell when again touched, as surely they will be, by the better angels of our nature.” —From Abraham Lincoln's first Inaugural address March 4, 1861
- [Hope: Looking Forward to a Brighter Future](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2021/01/hope-for-new-year/) - “If there is hope in the future, there is literally power in the present.” Zig Ziglar Given the enormity of 2020, you can be forgiven, in part, for thinking that there is little hope left for the future. Millions of people lost their lives in 2020. The pandemic continues to rage. Black and minority voices
- [Happily Ever Now: Four Ways to Be in Love in the Present Moment](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/08/happily-ever-now-four-ways-to-be-in-love-in-the-present-moment-2/) - We all know that Happily Ever After doesn’t always pan out. Tinderella and Prince Match.com don’t always ride off into the sunset, and well, that doesn’t mean it was a complete failure after all. Many times people come into our lives for a moment of time to help us grow and expand; then their duty
- [Do I Really Need to Put Up With My Crazy Family](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/09/do-i-really-need-to-put-up-with-my-crazy-family/) - It never fails. About this time of year every year I start getting a pain in my gut and dread with no clear explanation why. Upon later reflection I realize why. It’s because I have to see my family — who are incredibly crazy... and the holidays are coming. I feel guilty thinking this way.
- [A Note on Gratitude](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/09/a-note-on-gratitude/) - I’m in treatment. Again. This time it’s my elbow. Fell on road bike, shattered the olecranon, a body part that apparently I don’t need anymore, so it was taken out during surgery. Surgery led to the question of opioids, for pain management. Codeine makes me sick. So does being in excruciating pain. This caused a
- [When You Are Parented With Shame](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/05/when-you-are-parented-with-shame/) - Shame definitely has a place in our lives when we’ve done something wrong or hurt someone else. But it has no place in our lives when all we are doing is simply being a human being or being different in some way we cannot help.
- [Memo From God](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/05/memo-from-god/) - I arrived at St. Paul of the Cross Retreat Center in Detroit, Michigan on a warm, sunny weekend in the late spring of 1991. My sponsor hinted strongly that I should attend the weekend gathering. Now that I was no longer suggestion-proof, I was discovering what he meant by going to any lengths. His timing
- [How to Keep Your Sanity During the Holidays](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/12/how-to-keep-your-sanity-during-the-holidays/) - I hate the holidays. I know that seems like a strong statement, but — even at nearly six years sober — I still find the holidays incredibly challenging. It’s a time loaded with expectations, increased tensions in relationships, competing priorities, stress, and good old family dynamics. As if that isn’t enough, we can start to
- [How to Find An Addiction Counselor That Can Help You Right Now](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/12/how-to-find-an-addiction-counselor-that-can-help-you-right-now/) - It is very important that you find an addiction counselor that can help you with your addictions and other anxiety related issues. Some people have a difficult time in finding the right counselor for them which can be very challenging. Here are some tips on how to find the best addiction counselor for your particular
- [Holding Yourself Together When the World Seems  to be Coming  Apart](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/11/holding-yourself-together/) - What is this world coming to?! Quarantining inside for months when I would just love to go out and see all my friends together. Not being allowed to visit my mother who is dying in a nursing home alone because of the threat of coronavirus. Being given some health information one day only to be
- [What 2020 Taught Me: Acceptance](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/12/2020-taught-me-acceptance/) - Every New Year, I take some time to reflect on the past year – looking at the challenges I have surmounted, the opportunities for growth that I navigated, and the areas in which I hope to continue growing and learning into the New Year. I will join the chorus of people singing the same sentiment:
- [Volunteering Is Good Medicine](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/11/volunteering-is-good-medicine/) - Volunteering is like a happiness pill. At least that’s true for Ruth, a recovering addict who lives at Knollwood Place, an apartment building for older adults in St. Louis Park. Ruth likes going to what she calls her “happy place” — helping others living in the building with recreational outings, special lunches, and other activities.
- [Two Eagles](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/11/two-eagles/) - My counselor recommended this clinic to me so that I could have a tooth pulled out. So, I was kind of disappointed to find out that you don’t do that here. I had to drive quite a way, with poor instructions from her. But that’s not your fault. And at least I got some information
- [Christmas Doors and Dinners](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/11/christmas-doors-and-dinners/) - It was Christmas Day. I was in my pretty little Connecticut condo, a gelatinous, grey fog enveloping, but not quite paralyzing me. No, I wouldn’t celebrate with friends. Or drive to be with family. The thought of merrymaking left me cold. Though swaddled in depression, I had planned ahead. I had checked out all three
- [World History of Drugs (Part II)](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/11/world-history-of-drugs-part-ii/) - The following is part two in a series by author, George Lewis. The United States needed money after the Revolutionary had been won to pay off its’ debt, the taxation of alcohol in 1791, was the solution, America learned quickly that using alcohol policy and later drug laws to control (Chinese) immigrants after they helped
- [The Gift of 2020: Finding Your Voice](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/11/the-gift-of-2020-finding-your-voice/) - “Speak up and speak clearly. I want to hear what you have to say because it matters. Let’s listen to each other and respect one another’s opinions.” — Felicia Johnson 2020 could easily be defined as a year of injustice. Or, to put a more positive spin on it: The year that injustice “found a
- [Coping With COVID-19](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/11/coping-with-covid-19/) - How are you doing? It’s an important question for just about everyone these days. I think it’s an especially important question for those in the recovery community. Way back in May — which seems like 100 years ago — National Institute on Drug Abuse Director Dr. Nora Volkow spoke about the need for social support.
- [Politics and Powerlessness: An Interview With Representative Jim Ramstad](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/11/politics-and-powerlessness-an-interview-with-representative-jim-ramstad/) - To honor the life and work of Representative Jim Ramstad, we are re-publishing the following article written by former editor and publisher, Julia Edelman in the summer of 1998. In 2008, Ramstad announced he would not seek re-election and left Congress in 2009. Ramstad was instrumental in the advancement of a law that would prohibit
- [What Does It Take to Make a Love Relationship Last?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/10/what-does-it-take-to-make-a-love-relationship-last/) - Many people have experienced falling in love, committing to another person, and then later discovering that the relationship just isn't working. Long-term relationships require time, energy and work. Some people don't do the work it takes. Others are so vastly different that their lives are spent trying to convince the other person they are wrong.
- [Losing Yourself in Another Person: What's Love Got to Do With It?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/10/losing-yourself-in-another-person-whats-love-got-to-do-with-it/) - All my friends know I just have this thing for women. They'll say, "Who are you with this week, Jerry?" or "Man if I only had your problem." Most of them think it's cute that I keep meeting one woman after another. I have a good job and stay in shape. I'm always real nice
- [Looking on the Brighter Side of Things: It’ll Likely Save Your Life](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/09/looking-on-the-brighter-side-of-things/) - “It’s not things but how we think of things that makes us happy.” — Epictetus (Greek Philosopher, 50-135 AD) Let’s suppose you are struggling with a significant life challenge. Perhaps you’re thinking about finishing your college degree and going back to school, are in the grips of an addiction and contemplating getting help for your
- [Minnesota Substance Use Disorder Telehealth Providers](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/09/minnesota-sud-telehealth-providers/) - The following list consists of substance use disorder programs/providers in Minnesota that list have listed their telehealth, telemedicine and virtual groups on Fast-Tracker (as of the end of August 2020). It's easy to find a list of those who offer telehealth by going to the SUD side search page at sud.fasttrackermn.org. Search using "telehealth" under
- [Virtual Treatment Gets the Job Done](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/09/virtual-treatment-gets-the-job-done/) - Time for your treatment group meeting? Plop down in your favorite spot at home, get on Zoom, and you’re there. Virtual counseling for people in non-residential addiction treatment is the current norm and will likely be commonplace even when COVID-19 is tamed. This at-home treatment option has plenty of benefits, according to both patients and
- [A Look at Peer Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/09/a-look-at-peer-recovery/) - Esteemed recovery historian, scholar and advocate William White notes that the concept and principles of peer recovery support has deep roots extending back to the original mutual self-help group Alcoholics Anonymous and spanning forward from that time to be a fundamental aspect of the substance use recovery movement. In 2019 Peer Recovery Support Services (PRSS)
- [My Step One Story](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/09/my-step-one-story/) - Frost lined the edges of the porch windows one morning in February, 1996. My daughter had left for school. As I put milk back in the refrigerator, I noticed ice had built up on the coils again. The refrigerator was an older model and needed to be defrosted the old-fashioned way. I’d just done that
- [What Do You Know About Dope?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/09/what-do-you-know-about-dope/) - The following is part one in a series from author, George Lewis. Opinions expressed in this article are not necessarily the views of The Phoenix Spirit. The country now called the United States of America was originally not a country but thirteen colonies, ruled by British law, policy and politics. The American Revolutionary War, which
- [Recovery Month in the Time of COVID-19](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/09/recovery-month-in-the-time-of-covid-19/) - September is National Recovery Month, a time for us at the Department of Human Services (DHS) to celebrate people’s journey to recovery from substance use disorder and mental illness. There’s a lot for us to celebrate. Most people who enter chemical dependency treatment complete it and show considerable improvement, according to the National Institute on
- [Maybe When You're Angry, You're Not Really Angry](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/08/maybe-when-youre-angry-youre-not-really-angry/) - Something very humbling happened to me this past week. It's really shaken me. Our son, Isaac, periodically has meltdowns at school that seem to come out of the blue. He swears and yells at other kids over innocuous things and can't calm down. As a result, he loses friends and is often on the outside
- [Recovering Artists Hit the Street](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/07/recovering-artists-hit-the-street/) - Two active artists in recent protests tell of mixing painting with addiction recovery. For years, Cybin was deep into heroin and coke. He felt all their effects. On a wintry day, he was on the verge of suicide. He imagined his body slamming onto the ice below the Lake Street bridge. Eventually Cybin got clean,
- [To Love Than be Loved](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/07/to-love-than-be-loved/) - When I was ten years old, my mother gave birth to my youngest sister. Afterwards, she was dead for about eight minutes until the doctors brought her back to life. I was there for my sister’s birth and there afterwards, through all the pain and frantic decisions my parents made following that day. When I
- [Songwriting for Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/07/songwriting-for-recovery-katy-vernon/) - Singer and songwriter, Katy Vernon of Minneapolis, shares about her songwriting process and recovery journey
- [Practicing the Pause: Writing and Publishing With Spiritual Intention](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/07/writing-and-publishing-with-spiritual-intention/) - Chances are, if you’re a writer with spiritual inclinations, you’ll recognize this quote from Thomas Merton’s New Seeds of Contemplation: “If you write for God you will reach many men and bring them joy. If you write for men—you may make some money and you may give someone a little joy and you may make
- [What Can We Learn From All This?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/07/what-can-we-learn-from-all-this/) - “Those who don’t learn from history are condemned to repeat it.” — Carlos Santayana (1863-1952) Like it or not, we’re living in a historic era with all its suffering and promise. And what an era we’re living in! Most of us have feelings of unreality, worry, sadness and disbelief about what is happening, and uncertainty
- [The Art of Feeling](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/07/the-art-of-feeling/) - “I found I could say things with color and shapes that I couldn’t say any other way–things I had no words for.” Georgia O’Keeffe How are you? How do you feel? How do I feel? I am not sure. I come from a long line of people who avoided feelings–or at least conversations about feelings. My grandfather would answer those questions
- [Helping You and Your Children Have Good Moral Character - Part 2](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/11/helping-you-and-your-children-have-good-moral-character-part-2/) - Editor’s note: In the last issue of The Phoenix Spirit, John Driggs lent his more than 40 years of experience working with individuals, couples and families, to the topic of how to help foster moral character in children. Driggs aptly acknowledged that parents and other caregivers are not wholly responsible on how kids turn out,
- [College Recovery Programs: Supporting Students Choice for Recovery and Academics](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/07/college-recovery-programs-supporting-students-choice-for-recovery-and-academics/) - School may still be out for students, but Patrice Salmeri, Director of Augsburg’s StepUP Program in Minneapolis is hard at work ensuring all is ready is for the start of another successful school year. Recently she took time out to answer questions about college recovery programs and Augsburg’s StepUp Program. Collegiate recovery programs (CRP’s) provide
- [Resilience: Needed More Than Ever Today](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/06/resilience-needed-today/) - As we live through these very challenging times, I can’t imagine anyone arguing about the need for developing resilience. This is especially true for those of us in recovery from addictions, whatever be our addiction or addictions. In this article, I’d like to suggest four practices that I have found helpful in developing resilience. The
- [Kindness Matters](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/08/kindness-matters/) - Unite4:Good (U4G) has created a global platform dedicated to inspire, innovate and drive grassroots kindness. Our goal is to build a community where we lay the foundation to empower individuals to perform acts of kindness as part of their day-to-day lives, because we believe that true happiness can be attained by practicing intentional kindness both
- [What You Should Know About Addiction](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/08/what-you-should-know-about-addiction/) - In 2008, an estimated 20.1 million Americans aged 12 or older used illicit drugs within a month prior to a survey done by The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Administration (SAMSHA). This estimate represents 8 percent of that population. During that same time an estimated 22.2 million persons (8.9 percent of the population aged 12
- [How Minnesota Treatment Providers and People in Recovery Have Been Impacted by COVID-19 (And How They Believe Things Will Be Different)](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/05/how-minnesota-treatment-providers-and-people-in-recovery-have-been-impacted-by-covid-19/) - We reached out to Minnesota substance disorder providers, treatment centers and mental health professions—as well as people in recovery to hear how COVID-19 has affected them and how it will affect them after the virus has passed. Below are their response with minor edits from our team. We want to thank them for their responses.
- [Corona Retreat](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/05/corona-retreat/) - “We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” — Parker Palmer Retreats. I usually schedule retreat dates with care, finding calendar space with little disruption to my life. I aim for a good chance of pleasant weather–Arizona in January,
- [Becoming: Growing Into Myself in Sobriety](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/05/becoming-growing-into-myself-in-sobriety/) - God having a plan for me is evidenced in reflection of the events throughout my life. As a child, I had struggles that I remember and can feel, but no longer identify with. The growth that comes with age, brain maturation, experiences and learning shape who we are at different times. I think of that
- [When You  Live Through Another Person](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/05/when-you-live-through-another-person/) - John Driggs, LICSW, writes about the dangers of living through another person and not living your true self.
- [Where the Heck Can I Go On Retreat This Year?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/05/where-the-heck-can-i-go-on-retreat-this-year/) - With virus-related restrictions in place, you may not have access to a resort or retreat center for a quiet time of self-reflection this year. But closer to home are some pristine, tucked-away woodlands that invite relaxation, gently adventurous discoveries, and communion with self and nature. Waking up in Crystal MAC Wildlife Management Area The northwest
- [Letter From the Editor: Retreat](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/05/letter-from-the-editor-retreat/) - Since I wrote my last Letter from the Editor, the world has changed in so many ways. Yet, in others it has not. If we cut out all the noise and chaos of the outside world for a moment, we are faced with the stark reality of ourselves. For many, confronted with this unscheduled time
- [A Tribute to Matt Talbot](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/05/a-tribute-to-matt-talbot/) - Matt Talbot was born in Dublin, Ireland. Matt left school at the age of twelve and went to work in a wine merchant’s store in order to help his family financially. He started sampling the wines at work and one-year later, at the age of 13, he was a hopeless alcoholic. For the next 15
- [Harboring Hope](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/03/harboring-hope/) - “Hope inspires the good to reveal itself.” Emily Dickenson If I were to create an image of hope I would picture it as the water wings children wear to keep afloat. I see young children swim across a pool with the aid of these inflatable arm bands. It is not the device that holds the
- [Why Do You Go?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/04/why-do-you-go/) - Grandpa was a difficult man. He was kind and loving on his own terms, but not at all forbearant with people, places, and things that he did not understand. My wife and her family didn't regard him as odd in the least—well, that's not true. They had simply grown accustomed to his idiosyncrasies and each
- [I’d Give Anything](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/07/id-give-anything/) - It was many years ago, but I have never forgotten what my friend Al said to me on a warm summer evening in June. Jan and the kids were out of town one night in the summer of 1990, and my friend Al Kirsh and I spent an evening together as I played my tenor
- [Women in Recovery Offer Connection](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/03/women-in-recovery-offer-connection/) - Their backgrounds are unique, their stories vary and their recovery programs may differ, but they are all women in recovery that come together to heal, transform and most importantly to connect. Women in Recovery (WIR) is a monthly speaker series held on the fourth Wednesday of the month at The Retreat in Wayzata. Their mission
- [The Legacy of Absence Book Review](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/03/the-legacy-of-absence-book-review/) - The Legacy of Absence: Resolving the Wounds From Uninvolved Fathers in Individuals, Families, and Society By Tim Olson Self-published / Bookbaby / Amazon Imagine a son or daughter who realizes dad has chosen work, sports, or other addictions instead of them. This is abandonment—and the consequences will leave a negative life-long legacy. But there is
- [The Next Step — Rediscovering the Whole Person](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/09/the-next-step-rediscovering-the-whole-person/) - The landscape for alcohol and substance abuse recovery has been dominated for 80 years by Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and its guiding principles The Twelve Steps which became the gold standard for recovery. While the program is credited with helping millions of people around the world, the gold is losing some of its luster. The National
- [Brass Rings & Bologna: Gamblers’ Delights, Delusions  & Legacies](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/03/brass-rings-bologna-gamblers-delights-delusions-legacies/) - Madeleine shares the story of her father who struggled with problem gambling.
- [Overcoming Grandiosity in Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/03/overcoming-grandiosity-in-recovery/) - Grandiosity can be a huge hurdle for those in recovery from addictions. John Driggs shares ways to lessen grandiosity in our lives.
- [Letter From the Editor: Gambling](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/03/letter-from-the-editor-gambling/) - Louise offers her perspective on problem gambling.
- [Welcome to Recovery From Codependency](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/03/welcome-to-recovery-from-codependency/) - Co-Dependents Anonymous member shares her story of recovery from codependency.
- [Parenting the Addict: 5 Key Strategies to Help Parents Thrive](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/11/parenting-the-addict-5-key-strategies-to-help-parents-thrive/) - Parents need support. An epidemic of drug addiction with our kids today is scarier then ever. Every day on national and local news, more and more stories keep pointing to the opiate epidemic, overdoses, and addiction of our young people. These kids have parents whose hearts are breaking and need ongoing support and strategies to
- [Co-Occurance of Gambling and Substance Abuse Ups the Anty for Successful Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/07/co-occurance-of-gambling-and-substance-abuse-ups-the-anty-for-successful-recovery/) - “John” was doing well in his recovery from alcohol addiction. He hadn’t had a drink in eight months, was regularly attending AA and individual counseling, and was well supported in his recovery by family and friends. Several of John’s college buddies were planning a trip to Las Vegas and asked him if he wanted to
- [One at a Time](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/02/one-at-a-time/) - “For fast acting relief, try slowing down.” Lily Tomlin Our yoga instructor asks us to come to a standing position “one vertebra at a time.” I am not that well acquainted with my vertebrae. How many are there? Do I take them in sequence? What if they aren’t interested in going alone? Yoga familiarizes me with the inner workings of
- [Why Do Older Married Couples Get Divorced? (And What You Can Do so It Won't Happen to You)](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/02/why-do-older-married-couples-get-divorced/) - Therapist John Driggs shares the reasons for divorce among older adults and ways to prevent divorce.
- [Found Any P-E-A-C-E Lately?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/11/found-any-p-e-a-c-e-lately/) - How peaceful are you feeling? After all, peace is the theme of the holiday season. And serenity is commonly championed in Twelve Step programs. Shouldn’t peace be showing up everywhere these days? If seasonal serenity is eluding you, I invite you to join me in taking a fresh look at the word peace. Let’s consider
- [Dating in Recovery: It’s Complicated](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/09/dating-in-recovery-its-complicated/) - Dating in recovery is a complex subject. We come into recovery as broken people; detached from ourselves, and from our feelings. We’re told, ‘the good news that you get your feelings back.’ One of those feelings is our sexual instinct. We’ve all been there at a meeting when an attractive person walks in. Come on,
- [Returning to the Basics After Traumatic Brain Injury](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/09/returning-to-the-basics-after-traumatic-brain-injury/) - “Traumatic Brain Injury is an important public health problem in the United States. Because the problems that result from Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI), such as those of thinking and memory, are often not visible, and because awareness about TBI among the general public is limited, it is frequently referred to as the ‘silent epidemic.’” Marilynn
- [I’m Going to Stop, I Mean It This Time](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/09/im-going-to-stop-i-mean-it-this-time/) - As a detox clinic nurse, Diane watched the revolving door of repeat drunks. Some she knew she’d see again, having failed at sobriety one more time. Others seemed so very promising. One patient, when ready to leave, so clearly talked the talk and walked the walk that she was sure this one would make it.
- [From the Publisher](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/11/from-the-publisher-4/) - Perception Sometimes from happiness I stop And look about me to take in the next delight The next raindrop That looks more full More pregnant than the last Raindrops and then Snow! Makes me giggle while it falls and mingles with its brethren each in its own playful pile. Sometimes from wonder I start To
- [On Hope](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/01/on-hope/) - Not my typical morning ruminations, but this morning I woke up wondering about people in cars in ditches. Here’s the context: I'm on a trans-continental road trip with my 22-year-old son, destination Los Angeles. We opted for the southern route versus the Rockies to avoid Bad Winter Weather, and somewhere around Faribault, MN we encountered
- [Creating Art Puts All the Pieces Together](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/03/creating-art-puts-all-the-pieces-together/) - Some of the most creative, resilient people in the Twin Cities live at Tower Apartments in South Minneapolis. In the spring of 2016, they spent many hours together in Tower’s lobby sharing their stories and shaping hundreds of ceramic and colored glass pieces into a stunning mosaic. The massive community creation now delights their eyes
- [Looking Both Ways in the New Year](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/01/looking-both-ways-in-the-new-year/) - Ah, the new year! Starting over, a clean slate, a fresh beginning wrapped up in our lists of resolutions to improve some aspect of our lives, to make the year ahead better. But better than what? The uptick in ads and commercials for fitness club memberships, diet plans and body sculpting would indicate a narrow
- [Have You Hugged Your Teddy Bear Today?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/03/have-you-hugged-your-teddy-bear-today/) - Her college-age daughter had died unexpectedly in an accident. In a state of shock and controlled focus, she and her husband had reached out to friends and family, made funeral arrangements, housed out-of-town family members, carried on conversations. Now the house was empty; guests were gone, her husband had returned to work, a neighbor would
- [Beyond The Imprint: A New Modality for Mental Health Practitioners and Those Seeking Their Help](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/11/beyond-the-imprint-a-new-modality-for-mental-health-practitioners-and-those-seeking-their-help/) - By Kate O’Connell This book is an introduction to the science of epigenetics and how our DNA and environment influence thoughts, feelings, and beliefs. O’Connell uses her own family tree to describe how she was influenced by familial behaviors and patterns. Mental health professionals may find value in this approach to understanding how individuals are
- [The Self-Love Experiment: Fifteen Principles for Becoming More Kind, Compassionate, and Accepting of Yourself](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/11/the-self-love-experiment-fifteen-principles-for-becoming-more-kind-compassionate-and-accepting-of-yourself/) - By Shannon Kaiser TarcherPerigee Kaiser offers readers 15 Self-Love Principles such as Be Who You Needed to Be When You Were Younger and Things Don’t Happen to You, They Happen for You. She shares her personal story of how she changed her relationship with her body and healed it. She gives loving advice to sufferers
- [Life Lessons: 125 Prayers and Meditations](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/11/life-lessons-125-prayers-and-meditations/) - By Julia Cameron TarcherPerigee Julia Cameron does it again. She is an accomplished artist and active in advocating the exploration and development of creativity. She encourages everyone to improve working on their spiritual path. Readers know her for writing The Artist’s Way and Finding Water. This book provides readers who want to improve their conscious
- [The Power of Love](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/11/the-power-of-love/) - By Osho St. Martin’s Press Osho is a spiritual teacher known for his contribution to the study of inner transformation. Regular readers of this publication may remember a previous review of Trust, another book in the OSHO Life Essentials series. He states in the introduction of this book, “My whole effort here is to release
- [What Are the Odds?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/07/what-are-the-odds/) - I sometimes get asked this question, usually in reference to drug addiction. “What are the odds that my son or daughter will become a drug addict when they grow up? My husband is a “normie” and I’m an recovering alcoholic,” the query begins. “It depends,” is the response, “on so many things. And even with
- [From the publisher](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/05/from-the-publisher/) - Life is circuitous, at least mine has been, and often I find myself scratching my mop, wondering how I got to this particular place in time — and why. While the journey has been filled with twists, hairpin turns, and I’ve stopped millimeters short of a precipice or two, it’s been pretty darn good. Challenging,
- [Dropping The Struggle: Seven Ways to Love the Life You Have](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/03/dropping-the-struggle-seven-ways-to-love-the-life-you-have/) - By Roger Housden New World Library Struggling with your life? Housden was until several years ago when he realized that he was making his life unnecessarily difficult. He uses stories and poems to tell how one’s internal mental struggle can be managed and help with letting go and surrendering to peacefulness. Readers will find techniques
- [Clearing Emotional Clutter: Mindfulness Practices for Letting Go of What’s Blocking Your Fulfillment and Transformation](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/03/clearing-emotional-clutter-mindfulness-practices-for-letting-go-of-whats-blocking-your-fulfillment-and-transformation/) - By Donald Altman New World Library Emotional clutter can appear in our personal and professional lives. Ongoing toxic habits can create patterns that impact the level of emotional clutter we experience. Altman is a psychotherapist, author, and former Buddhist monk. He proposes mindfulness activities to cut through the clutter and change the way we process
- [Sex in Recovery: A Meeting Between the Covers](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/03/sex-in-recovery-a-meeting-between-the-covers/) - By Jennifer Matesa Hazelden Publishing Are you in recovery? Are you struggling with how to have sexual relationships and still maintain your sobriety? This book looks at how addiction, recovery, and sexuality are related. Matesa interviewed over 30 people in recovery who were willing to discuss sex and sexuality with her. This book contains their
- [The Science of Shame and Its Treatment](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/07/the-science-of-shame-and-its-treatment/) - By Gerald Loren Fishkin, PhD Parkhurst Brothers Publishers Fishkin trained as a psychotherapist. He describes how he developed an interest in understanding how shame influences the choices people make. He provides real life stories to help readers who want to understand and change how shame adversely affects their lives. He explains the difference between guilt
- [The Mind Illuminated: A Complete Meditation Guide Integrating Buddhist Wisdom and Brain Science for Greater Mindfulness](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/07/the-mind-illuminated-a-complete-meditation-guide-integrating-buddhist-wisdom-and-brain-science-for-greater-mindfulness/) - By Culadasa (John Yates), and Matthew Immergut, with Jeremy Graves Dharma Treasure Press The authors believe that anyone can learn to meditate and improve their lives. They encourage the reader to use meditation to practice mindfulness and describe what the body and mind go through during the process. They provide the ten stages of meditation
- [Emotional Rescue: How to Work with Your Emotions to Transform Hurt and Confusion into Energy That Empowers You](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/07/emotional-rescue-how-to-work-with-your-emotions-to-transform-hurt-and-confusion-into-energy-that-empowers-you/) - By Dzogchen Ponlop Tarcher Perigee Do you use your emotions and harness their power or are you at their mercy? Rather than letting emotions control you, Ponlop, a Buddhist teacher, recommends that readers learn to relate to their emotions so they can benefit from that knowledge. He shares his own experiences as well as those
- [The Heart and Science of Yoga: Empowering Self-Care Program for a Happy, Healthy, Joyful Life](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/07/the-heart-and-science-of-yoga-empowering-self-care-program-for-a-happy-healthy-joyful-life/) - By Leonard T. Perlmutter with Jenness Cortez Perlmutter AMI Publishers In this revised and expanded edition, readers will find a well-documented introduction to Yoga Science and how it can benefit one physically and mentally as well as emotionally and spiritually. For example, it can help relieve stress, enhance the immune system, lower blood pressure and
- [Compassion is the Key to Everything: Find Your Own Path](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/08/compassion-is-the-key-to-everything-find-your-own-path/) - By Alexandra Chauran Llewellyn Chauran describes how she tried to live for one full year and “harm none.” This book is the results of a New Year’s resolution to do that. She describes her struggle to create her own personal code of ethics. For example, she refrains from reading blogs and accessing other media sources
- [The Wisdom of the Universe: Essential Truths from the Beloved Conversations with God Trilogy](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/08/the-wisdom-of-the-universe-essential-truths-from-the-beloved-conversations-with-god-trilogy/) - By Neale Donald Walsch Tarcher Perigee Walsch is well known for his previous books on “contemporary spirituality and its practical application in everyday life.” With full-color photographs and quotes from Walsch’s Conversations with God Trilogy, this book is a wonderful example of how combining short essays and beautiful photos can help a reader explore and
- [Overcoming Your Difficult Family: 8 Skills for Thriving in Any Family Situation](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/08/overcoming-your-difficult-family-8-skills-for-thriving-in-any-family-situation/) - By Eric Maisel, PhD New World Library Maisel is an author and retired family therapist. In the first part of the book he provides eight strategies to deal successfully with family life and “survive difficult family life and sometimes even improve it for everyone involved.” He describes how to focus on being smart, strong, calm,
- [Reclaiming Your Body: Healing from Trauma and Awakening to Your Body’s Wisdom](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/08/reclaiming-your-body-healing-from-trauma-and-awakening-to-your-bodys-wisdom/) - By Suzanne Scurlock-Durana New World Library Scurlock-Durana has over three decades of experience teaching and using Cranio- Sacral Therapy and other bodywork modalities to help people heal from trauma by physical and emotional disease. In this book, she provides clear instructions to help readers understand how to reconnect with the wisdom of their body. She
- [The Brand, Spanking New!](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/05/the-brand-spanking-new/) - Finding Resilience to Live in the Moment AgainI like new things. I like them so much that I seek after them all the time. Well . . . I’ll be honest—I lust after new things.Things like new cars. I love new cars. That new car smell is the best. Even the new, used-car is fairly
- ["I See You"](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/05/i-see-you/) - A SHORT FILM BY KOVERT.“If we lose those quiet spaces, or fill them up with content, we will sacrifice something important not only in ourselves, but in our cultures.”— Nicholas Carr
- [Guide Your Recovery with Wellness](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/01/guide-your-recovery-with-wellness/) - Exuberant Life! The road to recovery is difficult for everyone whether you’re at the beginning or well into your journey. Incorporating wellness practices like good nutrition, exercise and improved sleep habits into your routine make your recovery easier and more successful. Easier? You might think that sounds like extra effort when you’re already working so
- [Super Performing at Work and at Home:](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/03/super-performing-at-work-and-at-home/) - The Athleticism of Surgery and Life By Robert James Cerfolio, MD, MBA River Grove Books Are you a star performer but want to be a super performer? Cerfolio states that paying attention to the tiny details separates the average performer from the super performer. And he knows—he has been a well-respected cardiothoracic surgeon for 25
- [Wild: Life Lessons from the Wilderness](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/03/wild-life-lessons-from-the-wilderness/) - An Interview with Cheryl Strayed, the author of Wild: Life Lessons from the WildernessCheryl Strayed is a Minnesota native, and the author of Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail. Wild is the journey of Strayed’s 1,100 mile, three month solo hike on the Pacific Crest Trail and the personal struggles that
- [Resentments:  the Hydrochloric Acid of the Soul](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/03/resentments-the-hydrochloric-acid-of-the-soul/) - “It is plain that a life which includes deep resentment leads only to futility and unhappiness. To the precise extent that we permit these, do we squander the hours that might have been worthwhile? But with the alcoholic, whose hope is the maintenance and growth of a spiritual experience, this business of harboring resentment is
- [NuWay's 49th Anniversary Celebration](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/05/nuways-49th-anniversary-celebration/) - NuWay's 49th Anniversary Celebration & PicnicSunday, September 13, 2015. 3:00 - 6:00 p.m.
- [Real Places:  The Retreat](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/05/real-places-the-retreat/) - As I pulled into the driveway at The Retreat in Wayzata on a rainy, weekday morning, I quickly discovered every parking spot was taken. As I squeezed my not-so-compact car into a not-so-legitimate parking space, my curiosity grew. “Who are all these people here? Why is it so busy? What exactly does this this place
- [Health Beyond the Numbers](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/01/health-beyond-the-numbers/) - Mahatma Gandhi said: “It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.” He was voicing ancient wisdom that goes as far back as the first century BC when the Roman poet, Virgil, wrote: “The greatest wealth is health.” Today we say, “If you’ve got your health, you’ve got everything.” We
- [Ante Up! All In For Life’s Games](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/07/ante-up-all-in-for-lifes-games/) - “You know horses are smarter than people. You never heard of a horse going broke betting on people.” ~ Will RogersGambling. What comes to mind? An iconic movie scene? Maybe Daniel Craig’s James Bond staring unflinchingly across the poker table at the villain before Bond’s straight flush wins him $115 million. Perhaps the roulette table
- [From Illinois to the Caribbean - Treatment Centers Evolve](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/09/from-illinois-to-the-caribbean-treatment-centers-evolve/) - 1879. Dr. Leslie Keeley, who had studied alcoholic soldiers while serving as a Union Army surgeon, founded the Keeley Institute in a small wood frame building in Dwight, Illinois. He claimed his new discovery, Double Chloride of Gold Remedies, to be administered by four daily injections, would cure “inebriety, tobaccoism and neurasthenia.”Many cures were promoted
- [Good Health.  If it’s so easy, why is it so hard?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/01/good-health-if-its-so-easy-why-is-it-so-hard/) - “Whether you believe you can or believe you can’t, you’re right.” ~ Henry FordIn 2009 Rip Esselstyn published The Engine 2 Diet – The Texas Firefighter’s 28-day Save-Your-Life Plan that Lowers Cholesterol and Burns Away the Pounds. He had followed a plant-based diet most of his life and credits it with giving him the necessary
- [From the publisher:  2014 was odd...](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/01/from-the-publisher-2014-was-odd/) - 2014 was odd, I’m just sayin’. It was a year filled with surprises, big and small, tangible and intangible, some deeply felt and other scarcely noticed. My husband was laid off from his job at the beginning of the year, we launched our eldest off to college, and I continued to slog and plod my
- [From the Publisher](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/03/from-the-publisher-6/) - A few years ago a friend smiled wistfully as she listened to me stumble through an beginner’s sonata on our ancient Wurlitzer upright — the same piano I sat at for half-an-ungodly-hour day after day while growing up.“I’m so impressed that you can read music,” my friend lamented and I was shocked. She plays at
- [From the Publisher:  to Dolores](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/05/from-the-publisher-to-dolores/) - This issue of The Phoenix Spirit is about retreats. This is when I usually blather on about retreats being my favorite topic of the year and that there exists a retreat to fit every budget, temperament, and shoe size. But this year is different. While all of the above is true, I’ve ventured, rather involuntarily,
- [From the Publisher:  Uber Proactive](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/11/from-the-publisher-uber-proactive/) - We’ve gotten uber proactive in our culture. Kids learn about sex and drugs at earlier and earlier ages . This is good, I thought, until my son’s seventh grade sex-ed assignment was to go to Walgreens and buy a condom. This wasn’t so good.We teach them at school, at church, and synagogue about the hazards
- [A Good-bye and Thank You](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/09/a-good-bye-and-thank-you/) - Julia Edelman says good-bye after years with The Phoenix Spirit
- [On Creating Balance](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/01/on-creating-balance/) - Finding balance in our daily lives can be difficult in today’s fast-paced, smartphone- driven society. Five days a week, my smartphone leaves me feeling as though I am a critical- care neurosurgeon; on-call and always accessible. Without real private time, or privacy. Whether it’s work or family needs, all too often we are encouraged to
- [If you live in America today...](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/01/if-you-live-in-america-today/) - ......a large part of it at least, you live in a place designed to make you overweight and unhealthy. It was not designed this way on purpose; nonetheless, that’s the effect. Sidewalk-less suburban cul-de-sacs keep you from walking. If you do walk, you face having to cross a four-lane highway to get to a store.
- [Life is a Gift - A Book for Thankful Hearts](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/01/life-is-a-gift-a-book-for-thankful-hearts/) - By Paraclete Press Paraclete Press incorporated in 1983. They state, “Although Benedictine spirituality is at the heart of all we do, we are an ecumenical publisher.” Readers that enjoy Christian writing, ancient and contemporary, will find enjoyment in this small book. There are quotes from Meister Eckhart and Albert Einstein, and poems by William Shakespeare.
- [Creativity is a Spiritual Practice](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/03/creativity-is-a-spiritual-practice/) - It was the fall our eldest started college. Once we had heard the parent pep talk and were summarily dismissed, I could hardly tear myself away – the excitement of choosing classes from endless possibilities, the beauty of the autumn campus, the opportunity to form fast friendships. I came right home and registered for The
- [Entering Silence](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/05/entering-silence/) - “Nowhere can man find a quieter or more untroubled retreat than in his own soul.” Marcus Aurelius Where do you go when life gets to be too much? When your days overflow with tasks and decisions? When resentments simmer and bubble while violins sing woeful laments? Where do you go?Life ebbs and flows. As tasks
- [Cultivating Compassion](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/07/cultivating-compassion/) - I recently visited Louisville, Kentucky, on the wide and muddy Ohio River, six miles from where slaves once swam to the free state of Ohio. The river’s navigation was interrupted here by the Falls of the Ohio, forcing early travelers to portage and offering creative entrepreneurs a site for budding commerce. Gradually a small settlement
- [Virtue Revisited](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/03/virtue-revisited/) - “Freedom works only in a culture already committed to virtue; it cannot work otherwise.” AristotleFreedom is a word we Americans like to bandy about. Freedom to carry guns, to practice our faith, to speak, to assemble, to pursue happiness. Our freedoms are many; any attempts to limit them are met with strong resistance. While we
- [On Finding Forgiveness](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/09/on-finding-forgiveness/) - “When you forgive, you in no way change the past - but you sure do change the future.” Bernard MeltzerWhy is it so hard to forgive? We can carry our hurts and injuries like precious gems in a velvet pouch, admiring their many facets, their high cost, how they refract the light of what once
- [A Long Life. Living in The Blue Zone Has Its Rewards](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/01/a-long-life-living-in-the-blue-zone-has-its-rewards/) - A long healthy life is no accident. It begins with good genes, but it also depends on good habits.” — Dan Beuttner A favorite aunt of mine turns 100 in February. She was born in 1917– the same year the U.S. entered World War I, women suffragettes fought for the vote and a first class
- [The Mystery of Systemic Family Constellations: A New Method for Healing Transgenerational Trauma](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/03/the-mystery-of-systemic-family-constellations-a-new-method-for-healing-transgenerational-trauma/) - I’ve been a member of 12 step programs for a number of decades. I credit one of them with saving my life. However, about three years ago, I found myself confronting body pain that, upon closer inspection, seemed emotionally generated: my back seized up and I couldn’t walk. This was an acute representation of physical
- [Take Good Care](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/05/take-good-care/) - According to the 2015 report by the National Alliance for Caregiving and AARP, nearly 44 million adults in this country provide personal assistance for family members with disabilities or other care needs. As Cynthia Orange points out in her latest book, Take Good Care: Finding Your Joy in Compassionate Caregiving, when you add to this
- [On Retreat: Waiting for the Summer Lightning](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/05/on-retreat-waiting-for-the-summer-lightning/) - Whether you create your own mini-retreat or take part in a retreat gathering with several hundred people, the intent is to truly retreat – pull back, get away from the usual, disengage, create downtime for all levels of your being – mental, physical, spiritual, emotional. In today’s fast-paced, always on, tech-connected culture, idleness or downtime
- [Retreat: Regaining Perspective](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/05/retreat-regaining-perspective/) - When I visit the Minneapolis Institute of Art I always stroll through the Impressionism Gallery. I love the spontaneity and movement of impressionist art. It piques my curiosity as to how it is put together. What is the magical technique? I pick a composition and view it from various angles. First I look from the
- [I Can’t Go On. I’ll Go On.](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/07/i-cant-go-on-ill-go-on/) - Coiled. Mortal. The only thing I knew was that it was bright and I could hear the sounds of clattering wheels rolling over a tiled floor and people talking. Johnnie had his arm around me, holding me up while I walked. The usual feeling of realizing you’re dreaming or arriving back into reality after a
- [Sobriety Travel Plan: Don’t Leave Home Without It](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/03/sobriety-travel-plan-dont-leave-home-without-it/) - As I prepared for my first Spring get-away since becoming a recovering alcoholic, I accepted that I can’t do the things I did before or stay in the type of places that appealed to me when I was drinking. Regardless of where I was going I had to build my sobriety into my travel plans;
- [Sometimes, Ya Just Gotta Laugh](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/09/sometimes-ya-just-gotta-laugh/) - I’ve come to the conclusion that God put me on this planet to make people in sobriety and recovery laugh. This is the story of my journey to sobriety/ recovery. I was the attention-starved middle child of a typical middle-class family. Dad was in sales so we moved a lot. I learned how to make
- [Gratitude: Focusing on the Bright Side](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/11/gratitude-focusing-on-the-bright-side/) - If you count all your assets, you always show a profit. ~Robert Quillen I can get so frustrated with my life some days that I allow my thoughts to make me feel as though nothing is going my way and nothing ever will. While I was doing the dishes this afternoon I made a mental
- [Love, Joy, Peace and Hope - Give it Away](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/11/love-joy-peace-and-hope-give-it-away/) - “You give but little when you give of your possessions. It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.” ~ Kahlil Gibran It is better to give than receive. We hear it all the time—especially this time of year. But sometimes I wonder if we really believe it. We say the phrase as
- [“We Hold These Truths..."](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/11/from-the-publisher-we-hold-these-truths/) - “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of Happiness.” Between the time I write this and when The Phoenix goes to press, millions of Americans over 18 will have
- [Rewild Yourself!](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/01/rewild-yourself/) - We modern, industrialized humans live a tamed existence that is overly mechanized, gadgetized, sterilized, and—for the most part—segregated from the natural world. We are hungry for rich engagement with life that is ancient to our mind, heart, body, and spirit. We feel restless in our heads, hearts, and bones for reunion with our selves and
- [Lighten Up With Step Six](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/01/lighten-up-with-step-six/) - “Lighten up” is my mantra for 2017. I tend to take life – and myself – pretty seriously. These days, though, I’m finding myself pretty amused by my imperfections, also known as character defects, thanks to engaging in Step 6. I’m especially humored by how many activities I thought required my involvement which seem to
- [Color Your Dreams: 100 Inspiring Words, Captivating Coloring Images & Uplifting Activities](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/01/color-your-dreams-100-inspiring-words-captivating-coloring-images-uplifting-activities/) - By Juliet Madison Sourcebooks, Inc. Do you love to color? Many are finding this pastime to be soothing and relaxing. Want to add a meditative component to this practice? A self-taught artist, Madison created the drawings for this adult coloring book. They are meant to encourage meditation and reflection while the colorer is focused on
- [Expectation Hangover: Free Yourself from Your Past, Change Your Present and Get What You Really Want](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/01/expectation-hangover-free-yourself-from-your-past-change-your-present-and-get-what-you-really-want/) - By Christine Hassler New World Library Have you ever had things not turn out the way you though, planned, or wanted them to? We suffer when our reality doesn’t match the expectations we are attached to. Hassler states, “Expectation hangovers are doorways to tremendous opportunities to heal issues from our past, change how we are
- [From Stressed to Centered: A Practical Guide to a Healthier and Happier You](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/01/from-stressed-to-centered-a-practical-guide-to-a-healthier-and-happier-you/) - By Dana A. Gionta, Ph.D. and Dan Guerra, Psy.D. Sea Hill Press, Inc. Both authors are psychologists who share their personal stories and experiences. They describe their paths to self-care, whether it was initiated as a stress reducer or a coping mechanism for dealing with trauma. Gionta and Guerra provide a step-by-step guide to help
- [Soul Courage](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/01/soul-courage/) - By Tara-Jenelle Walsch Rainbow Ridge Books Do you believe that everything you desire to know is already inside of you, in your soul? Walsch does and she wants readers to “live through the magnificence of your Soul Courage.” Soul courage is defined as daring to be and own all of you without shame, judgment, or
- [Op-ed](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/01/op-ed/) - By Brittney Smith Recently considering the often used phrase, “Your health is your wealth,” I was forced to ask myself some tough questions: If wealth can’t buy happiness can it buy health? Can you be healthy and flat-ass broke? How is it remotely possible that we link ‘health’ and ‘wealth’ together when they are more
- [Horse Sense](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/01/horse-sense/) - The snow swirled around the eight figures. They stood, shaking their heads, arms crossed, and shoulders hunched against the cold. They’d been standing there about ten minutes, staring at the PVC pipe that was raised a foot off the ground and at the herd of horses that seemed unconcerned. The predominating sense amongst the group
- [Bookshelves](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/08/bookshelves/) - “If you have a garden and a library, you have everything you need.” Cicero I resist joining the e-book fascination. I like my page turners with real pages, my underlines with real pencils and my coffee spills with real stains. I like the touch, the heft, the physicality of a book. Besides, books aren’t just
- [Seeking Treatment:  Where Do We Go When We Are Finally Ready?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/09/seeking-treatment-where-do-we-go-when-we-are-finally-ready/) - Fill in the blanks: Where do/does ________ I/my partner/child/friend/relative go for help with _______ my/his/ her __________ addiction/mental health needs/co-occurring disorder? The options are ____________confusing/mind boggling/ daunting. A first step toward getting recovery and mental health services often begins with a phone call. From there, an intervention may be appropriate. Or a meeting with a
- [Enkindling Kindness](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/11/enkindling-kindness/) - “Be kind. Everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” Plato I have started tracking kindness – noticing her as she gently touches the ordinary of my day. I see her at the bus stop as the first grade big sister greets the eager-to-have-her-home little brother. I see kindness in the neighbor who mows two
- [The Path to Wellness is Not Always Straight](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/11/the-path-to-wellness-is-not-always-straight/) - It was the summer after my freshman year at the University of Wisconsin-Madison—a year of small successes and setbacks, ongoing struggles with anxiety and depression, and a budding addiction that I wouldn’t admit, much less address, for another two years. Substance use hadn’t consumed my life yet, but things were moving in that direction. I
- [Living With No Ending](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/03/living-with-no-ending/) - The ending began in the fall of 2016. I went to an appointment and this ignited a series of steps. After a second x-ray and an ultra sound, an indication of a mass in my breast was determined. Mass — what a mediocre word for the ugly word tumor. The radiologist in the small clinic
- [A Homemade Retreat is Delicious](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/05/a-homemade-retreat-is-delicious/) - Some years ago, a friend offered me her cabin “up north” for a week and said I could include friends. Overjoyed, I quickly called the two women whom I met with weekly for mutual spiritual support. “How about creating a week of silent retreat together?” I suggested. Both responded with a rousing “Yes!” Quiet, undistracted
- [Retreat into Deep and Meaningful Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/05/retreat-into-deep-and-meaningful-recovery/) - When I think of the word retreat, it conjures up an image of sitting a log cabin, dressed in a white robe, sipping a steaming mug of hot tea. My woes have melted away on the massage table and I’m transported into a state of bliss and contentment. I can see an expanse of water
- [Keep on Learning](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/07/keep-on-learning/) - “We are by nature observers, and thereby learners. That is our permanent state.” —Ralph Waldo Emerson Fall is heralded as the season of new learning–time to put on the mantle of student for the return to school. While I love taking classes, trying new things and enhancing my skills, I am not limited to the
- [When the Game is Up](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/07/when-the-game-is-up/) - Christine's Story When I was asked to share my story, I didn’t hesitate. I think it’s so important for people to see that everyday, regular people can have a gambling addiction. And by telling my story I hope I can help others and reduce the shame of compulsive gambling. Looking back on it, I guess
- [Voyageur Outward Bound: Helping Students Find True Grit](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/07/voyageur-outward-bound-helping-students-find-true-grit/) - With the best of intentions, many 21st century parents have worked hard to shield their children from pain, discomfort and struggle. In part, with the advent of 24/7 news programs like CNN, parents are bombarded by the risks and perils facing their precious offspring and have reacted by creating organized sports and group activities, filling
- [The New New Year](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/02/the-new-new-year/) - “Do not wait until the conditions are perfect to begin. Beginning makes the conditions perfect.” – Alan Cohen The cold of January hardly feels like a new beginning. The symbolic child heralding the new year looks more vulnerable than strong. Yet this lull between the holidays and spring’s new buds is a great time to
- [Minding Your Questions](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/02/minding-your-questions/) - Questions that are asked with genuine curiosity, with a sincere desire to gain information, are valuable tools. Questions asked rhetorically, often with the intention of insult, can be quite damaging.Too often we ask questions rhetorically to make a point. There is nothing wrong with that, is there? Well, of course not. That is, of course,
- [Ticket to Ride](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/02/ticket-to-ride/) - I have a blue paper ticket that I carry in my money clip. Every time I pull it out to withdraw another dollar bill to spend, I see it. It’s the very same kind of ticket that we have all seen a million times before. The kind of ticket that you get at any bakery—it’s
- [Twelve Steps for Slouches](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/02/twelve-steps-for-slouches/) - The first thing I want you to know is that I do resistance training. I use resistance bands, weights, and such. OK, that’s on a good day. Truth be told, I probably do more resisting than I do exercising. I’m more inclined to be a slouch on the couch, thinking “maybe later” when it comes
- [Sanity in the Age of Facebook, Google, Amazon, and Apple: Reclaiming Our Lives](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/02/sanity-in-the-age-of-facebook-google-amazon-and-apple-reclaiming-our-lives/) - The traditional objective of yoga is union — to connect the mind to body, and the self to soul. That’s what the yogi masters say in the ancient scriptures — connect to your higher self, realize that we are all connected, and transcend the ego. In the modern age, sometimes many of us feel like
- [Mental Illness Gets a Hearing](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/03/mental-illness-gets-a-hearing/) - “I’m a veteran of mental illness combat,” declares a gray-haired man with years of untrimmed beard from the History Theatre stage in downtown St. Paul. David Beebee is reading from his personal writings to a crowd of friends and supporters of Vail Place, a clubhouse in Uptown for people with severe mental illness where David
- [Wandering the Wild](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/05/wandering-the-wild/) - The earth is a living thing. Mountains speak, trees sing, lakes can think, pebbles have a soul, rocks have power. Henry Crow Dog I awaken anew each spring. The earth comes alive and so do I. A variety of body memories accompany spring’s sensual feast: the melodious calls of red wing blackbirds, a quick shiver
- [Minneapolis Mayor Jacob Frey Visited 3R’s NUWAY Counseling Center at it's New Space on May 11th](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/05/minneapolis-mayor-frey-visits-3rs-nuway-counseling-center/) - Minneapolis Mayor Jacob Frey Visited 3R’s NUWAY Counseling Center at it's new space on May 11th.
- [The Power of Love](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/07/the-power-of-love-2/) - “We must discover the power of love, the redemptive power of love. And when we do that, we will make of this old world a new world, for love is the only way.” — Martin Luther King Did you attend the wedding? The May wedding in England…that moment of love that brushed politics, rancor and
- [Venturing into Vulnerability](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/11/venturing-into-vulnerability/) - I have had to slow down recently for health reasons. It’s not as easy as it sounds. Everything and everyone around me still whirls at a 21st century tempo and my body heals at a 16th century pace. Slowly. Step by step. Day by day. I am having a timeout, initiated by my body. Just
- [Show the World All the Love in Your Heart](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/11/show-the-world-all-the-love-in-your-heart/) - A recent night on the town found me next to the bars of yesteryear, at the Orpheum Theatre’s staging of Beautiful, a “jukebox musical” highlighting Carole King’s prolific songwriting and singing career. Before long, I was transported to the green shag rug and purple and blue stereo of my junior high school days, and the
- [Forgiveness: The Far Side of Anger](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/02/forgiveness-the-far-side-of-anger/) - Anger acts as thief. It steals away serenity, ability to focus, and the ability for self-awareness. After 9/11 Fred Maples, like most of us, felt angry about what happened. But then he did something that may perplex (or perhaps anger) many seeking a just revenge on these terrorists who caused such suffering: he began to
- [The Insufficiency of Real Love](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/03/the-insufficiency-of-real-love/) - Most of us are aware of those sublime experiences of life we call love. We may feel uplifted in being more than we already are through the continued tenderness of a loved one. It’s as good as it gets. We may also have magnificent moments when we have transported a dear one to be a
- [Why Good Marriages Go Bad](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/10/why-good-marriages-go-bad/) - Success in marriage takes vision, focus, and letting go. Good marriages go bad not out of intent, but from misguided actions. These actions unknowingly undermine trust, respect, honesty, and appreciation. Over time, patience is replaced by impatience, excitement by apathy and pleasure by frustration. To prevent this from happening to your marriage learn how to
- [Fast-Tracker Connects People Directly to Treatment (Update)](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/01/fast-tracker-connects-people-directly-to-treatment-update/) - Former Commissioner Emily Piper told Phoenix Spirit readers in August 2018 about Fast-Tracker, a new online service to help connect people to substance use disorder and mental health treatment services. Now, a little over a year later, how has Fast-Tracker been working, and what’s next? First a bit about Fast-Tracker: It is an online, searchable
- [Letter From the Editor: Finding Hope](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/01/letter-from-the-editor-finding-hope/) - Hope is often found in the unlikeliest of places or presents itself at the unlikeliest of moments. It doesn’t usually come with a fanfare or grand entrance, shouting “I am here! All is not lost! Make way, make way…” It is more likely to make its appearance when we truly believe we have nowhere else
- [Lessening Divisiveness – Polarization, Prejudice and Hatred – in Ourselves](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/01/lessening-divisiveness-polarization-prejudice-and-hatred-in-ourselves/) - A house divided against itself cannot stand. —Abraham Lincoln We live in the most divisive of times. Political parties hardly talk to each other. Sports teams are divided between the winners and losers. People can lose entire careers for an incorrect political opinion. Too many of us are alienated from each other: Rich and poor,
- [NUWAY Adds Four New Vice President Positions](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/01/nuway-adds-four-new-vice-president-positions/) - Non-profit, addiction and co-occurring health treatment provider, NUWAY®, announced Wednesday they have added four new vice president positions to help further its mission and "evolve its vision for behavioral healthcare innovation." Denise McAlpin is the new Vice President of Residential Services supporting existing and new residential programs including NUWAY Alliance management of Cochran Recovery Services.
- [A Hopeful Gaze Into 2020](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/01/a-hopeful-gaze-into-2020/) - “Hope is passion for what is possible”. Søren Kierkegaard I am looking into the New Year with a hopeful gaze. As a glass-half-full person, I grab for ribbons of hope rather than entangle myself in webs of despair. Moving into a new year and a new decade I ask myself, what gives me hope? Greta Thunburg,
- [The State of Recovery Meets the State of Hockey](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2020/01/the-state-of-recovery-meets-the-state-of-hockey/) - The news that Minnesota will host the 2021 Bridgestone NHL Winter Classic is a brass-ring opportunity to celebrate all things State of Hockey, from pond and muni-rink pickup games to high school and college rivalries, to pro-level playoff runs. This “big tent” is part of hockey’s great appeal. And with nicknames like Gump, Rocket, Moose
- [The Scourge of Electronic Living: Losing Your Identity](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/12/the-scourge-of-electronic-living-losing-your-identity/) - "Be careful of how you use your tools as you can become the tools of your tools." Henry David Thoreau *** My boss told me I need to do a presentation next week at our company sales rep meeting, on my personal philosophy on closing sales. Geeze, just because I was the leading salesperson for
- [Materialism and Family Life: Good Intentions Gone Bad](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/12/materialism-and-family-life-good-intentions-gone-bad/) - "Wealth is the number of things we can do without." Leo Tolstoy If you're one of the many people who are going overboard this holiday season, this article may not be for you. On the other hand, it may be perfect for you. So many of us express our love for others by buying things
- [The Gift of Self-Forgiveness](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/11/the-gift-of-self-forgiveness/) - “If I had to live my life again, I’d make all the same mistakes—only sooner.” — Tallulah Bankhead (1902-1968) One of the most hidden and powerful aspects of human identity is how many of us have shame and harsh judgments towards ourselves. Some of us are barely aware of our self-contempt; others are drowning in
- [Winter Blues: Finding Light During the Dark Days](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/12/winter-blues-finding-light-during-the-dark-days/) - "Every mile is two in winter." George Herbert The cold, dark days of the winter months can be a breeding ground for despair in some of us. I've battled a recurring low grade depression for many years. I never know when it will reappear but it often shows up in the fall when the days
- [6 Tips for Staying Healthy Over the Holidays](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/11/tips-for-staying-healthy-over-the-holidays/) - Nutrition expert from Ball State University shares six tips for staying healthy during the holidays
- [Spiritually Speaking](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/11/spiritually-speaking/) - I was reflecting on community the other day and thinking back on all the people who have flowed through my life since I joined the community of recovery. There are those that have only come in and out with a face at some meeting or a chance greeting during and after in the halls. There
- [Letter From the Editor: A Season For For-giving](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/11/letter-from-the-editor-a-season-for-for-giving/) - The Holiday season is traditionally a season of giving. But what greater gift than giving could there be but for-giving? One of the definitions of the word forgive in Webster’s New World College Dictionary is “To give up resentment against or the desire to punish; stop being angry with; pardon.” Yet, if someone has “wronged”
- [Prayer Primer](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/11/prayer-primer/) - "Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God…." Step 11 What is prayer? Prayer is conversation with an inner voice, a higher power, a felt presence. Many call this conversation partner God. Some use other names: YHWH (Jehovah), Allah, Gaia, Spirit. Whatever the name we give it, we seek contact through
- [Overdoing It With Kids: Is It Really All That Harmful?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/10/overdoing-it-with-kids-is-it-really-all-that-harmful/) - Our children will not go to hell in a hand basket if we occasionally spoil them. All of us could use a little pampering and a day off work from time to time. Children who are given excess attention and protection are at least getting the message that they're loved. Unfortunately that's only half the
- [Sesame Street Uses Muppet to Support Children Affected by Parental Addiction](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/10/sesame-street-uses-muppet-to-support-children-affected-by-parental-addiction/) - Sesame Workshop, the nonprofit educational organization behind Sesame Street, is announcing an initiative to support children and families affected by parental addiction. The initiative features Karli, a 6 ½-year-old Sesame Street Muppet whose mom is dealing with addiction. In new videos and other content, favorite Sesame Street characters like Elmo and Abby Cadabby learn what
- [12 Steps to Humility: Seek Progress Not Perfection](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/10/12-steps-to-humility-seek-progress-not-perfection/) - It's all very simple. You set a goal for yourself; you determine how you'll meet that goal, and then you follow some tried-and-true strategies that will help you reach it. Will power! That's all you need. Determination. Discipline. Ah, if the road to recovery were only that easy. Anyone reading this article, anyone recovering from
- [Identity and Parenting: Role With It](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/09/identity-and-parenting-role-with-it/) - I recently attended a workshop where the speaker asked participants to list ten items that define them. My silent reaction: Ah, I hate this kind of stuff. But I began to write. It was actually fairly easy. I had six items before I ran out of time. Number six was a little cheesy: "citizen of
- [After Treatment, Then What?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/09/after-treatment-then-what/) - Treatment for addiction is only the beginning of recovery. Here are four stories of recovering addicts and how they meet their daily challenges while staying sober after treatment.
- [Three Stories of Hope](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/09/three-stories-of-hope/) - The following testimonials are from Minnesota Adult & Teen Challenge in Minneapolis. Some edits have been made for length. Tiffany's story I struggled with a 15-year addiction to meth, opiates and alcohol prior to coming into Minnesota Adult & Teen Challenge (MnTC). My physical health was in shambles and my mental health was unstable. I
- [Social Phobia: When You're Too Scared to Show Your Inner Life to Others](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/09/social-phobia/) - I hate being in a group of people I don’t know. If I can find a way to get out of such gatherings I will. My mind gets nuts with anxiety. I fear that I will be seen as abnormal—that people can see my flaws. My voice usually cracks, sweat pours off my forehead, and
- [Good Grief](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/08/good-grief/) - “Life is growth in the art of loss.”- John O'Donohue I live forward and backward. In, then out of the present moment. Time unbound. The past is present and the present is lost. The future is behind a veil through which I cannot see. My sister died. My youngest sister. Too soon and too fast.
- [Do the 12 Steps Lead a Person to a Specific Religion?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/01/do-the-12-steps-lead-a-person-to-a-specific-religion/) - The 12 steps are a spiritual program developed through Bill W and others’ experiences of being in the grip of alcoholism.
- [Cultural Myths That Undermine Our Happiness and Well-being](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/07/cultural-myths-that-undermine-our-happiness-and-well-being/) - Myths are metaphoric stories that can inspire or demean us. Believing in magical elves in forests may make our imaginations soar; thinking that people with dark skin are inferior to us only devalues us. The most destructive myths are those that operate in our lives while remaining unexamined. They do bad things to us without
- [Video Gaming: The Next 12-Step Frontier](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/07/video-gaming-the-next-12-step-frontier/) - She’s anxious at work because she worries that her boss will catch her playing solitaire again. He’s up at 2 a.m. completing a task in the epic multiplayer game while his wife sleeps. She’s distracted watching her kids at the pool because it’s hard to put down the phone. He’s obsessed with rank and makes
- [Gardening Lessons](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/07/gardening-lessons/) - “My garden is my most beautiful masterpiece.” Claude Monet I greet my overflowing garden each morning with amazement and humility. My garden is a miniature paradise, the closest I get to being an artist. In the garden I partner with the natural world, giving me a palette to experiment with wonder and delight, failure and recovery. I learn
- [Think About It: The Power of Positive Thought](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/07/think-about-it-the-power-of-positive-thought/) - I can't help but wonder what in the world was I thinking when I reflect on some of the major decisions I made in my young adulthood. I can only presume that I wasn't thinking at all. My concept of contemplation was to deal with any consequences of my decisions "Later." Such cognitive carelessness led
- [When a Friend Has Faith](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/06/when-a-friend-has-faith/) - I told my friend I thought my life was a waste. She shook her head no. Through my endless use of profanities, and despite my angry outbursts toward her she still believed in me. She kept calling me back to her side. She never abandoned me. Still, my spirit was raging with fear that my
- [Tending and Mending a Wounded Heart](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/06/tending-and-mending-a-wounded-heart/) - Many years ago on February 13, a first year representative to the New York state assembly received an urgent telegram at his Albany, N.Y., office containing a single three-word sentence: Come home now! The day before, his wife had given birth to a baby girl. Now, as the train made the five-hour trip back to
- [Coping with Anger - Twelve Steps to Getting a Grip](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/06/coping-with-anger/) - Anger is probably the most poorly handled emotion in our society. From time to time we all experience this very powerful feeling. Some of the common causes of anger include frustration, hurt, annoyance, disappointment, harassment and threats. It is helpful to realize that anger can be our friend or foe, depending on how we express
- [Trust: It Don't Come Easy](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/06/trust-doesnt-come-easy/) - "A man who doesn't trust himself can never really trust anyone else" Cardinal De Retz My desire and ability to trust someone seemed unattainable for many years. When I first got into recovery I didn't trust a soul, including myself, with the possible exceptions being my two young children. The two people I had been
- [Parenting Younger Children: Making a Difficult Job More Rewarding](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/05/parenting-younger-children-making-a-difficult-job-more-rewarding/) - Raising little kids is hard. After a grueling day it's mommy this and daddy that. And I don't like macaroni and cheese any more. And why can't I jump on the couch?! Then it's scream, scream and tears because my tummy hurts. Besides I don't want to go to bed tonight. And by the way,
- [Too Much To Do](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/05/too-much-to-do/) - I am relaxed when I stop at the library, having dissolved a truckload of tension on a massage table. The library, not far from the spa, seems like a good place to kill some time before my next appointment. Good chance to pick up a novel and maybe a movie. Oh, here’s a good movie.
- [As Good As It Gets](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/05/as-good-as-it-gets/) - There are times that feel bigger than life itself. When these times happen, we may be filled with immeasurable inspiration as we escape the usual routines of ordinary living. Many of the tensions of daily stress and world turmoil disappear in the abundance of such special moments. Some magic moments we never forget — the
- [Social Integration Will Add Years to Your Life](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/05/social-integration-will-add-years-to-your-life/) - Smile and say hello to a random stranger today — social integration and personal relationships lead to longevity. Face-to-face connection releases a whole cascade of neurotransmitters that reduces stress, including dopamine, a neurotransmitter that helps give you a natural high and may relieve pain. It’s been found through various long-term studies that the top two
- [The Retreat: Not Just for Weekends Anymore](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/05/the-retreat-not-just-for-weekends-anymore/) - When I first got married, my wife and I moved to a tiny hamlet in eastern Montana. It was her hometown and she had a job at a local community college teaching public speaking. My job was at a rinky-dink bank playing customer service rep and twiddling my thumbs in the back room pretending to
- [Sounds of Silence](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/05/sounds-of-silence/) - “I've begun to realize that you can listen to silence and learn from it. It has a quality and a dimension all its own.” Chaim Potok, The Chosen I retreated to Tucson in January for my annual days of silence. It was luxurious to leave Minnesota in the depths of winter. The low desert sun warmed my stay. I
- [Sometimes It's Better to Be Sorry Than Safe](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/05/sometimes-its-better-to-be-sorry-than-safe/) - At some point or another most of us have been told, "Play it safe" or "Better safe than sorry." Perhaps it was wiser for us to not take a given risk and stay with familiar ways of doing things. The caution we felt from a loved one may have really saved us. However, what if
- [Emotions Anonymous: Do You Have a Thinking Problem?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/04/emotions-anonymous-do-you-have-a-thinking-problem/) - On July 25, it will be two years since I've kissed an old, old boyfriend. He is a modern man, with a hyphenated last name. His first name is Johnny and his last name is Walker-Red. I chose my sponsor because she was beautiful, poised, brilliant, a mother (a prerequisite as I have three children)and,
- [Healing From the Inside Out: Blame, Shame and the Mind-body Connection](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/04/healing-from-the-inside-out-blame-shame-and-the-mind-body-connection/) - Q: I've read in books and heard from holistic practitioners that our state of mind contributes to our state of health. In dealing with my own health issues, this leaves me feeling like I just can't win. When I feel the worst physically and out of control of my body, I have to also look
- [Adult Children of Sexual Dysfunction - Coping, Changing, Growing](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/04/adult-children-of-sexual-dysfunction-coping-changing-growing/) - Adult Children of Sexual Dysfunction (ACSD) is a 12 Step group of women and men attempting to overcome the effects of growing up in a sexually dysfunctional family. Their common goal is to become sexually, spiritually and emotionally healthy. Below, two members of ACSD share their stories in the hope that others will read it
- [Are Sports Conducive to Recovery? [Opinion]](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/03/are-sports-conducive-to-recovery-opinion/) - Does competition and recovery from addiction have a place in our journey?
- [The Road to Resilience](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/03/the-road-to-resilience/) - Whether an episode of depression remains manageable or takes any or all of these unhappy routes depend on a set of variables that can be summed up under the term "resilience".
- [Basket Making 101](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/03/basket-making-101/) - About this time last year I ventured to the North House Folk School in Grand Marais, MN, for three days of basket weaving. Yep, Basket Weaving 101. Ostensibly, the adventure was to create and take home our very own, personalized, Birch Bark Berry Basket. In reality, the trip was much more profound. None of us
- [Let's Just Have Fun and Make Stuff Up](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/03/lets-just-have-fun-and-make-stuff-up/) - "Some of the funniest people I’ve ever met have been at recovery meetings.” This high praise comes from someone who is in the business of being funny. John Gebretatose, who left alcohol behind 15 years ago, performs and teaches Improv theater. He also mentors others to do the same. At HUGE Theater in Minneapolis, a
- [The Ability to Identify as an Artist First](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/03/the-ability-to-identify-as-an-artist-first/) - How People Incorporated’s Artability Program Challenges Mental Health Stigma For people living with a persistent mental illness ­— stigma, debilitating symptoms and a lack of self-esteem — can create a misconception that they are unable to choose who they want to be in life. They may feel defined by their mental illness. Daily struggles, confusing
- [Art Heals](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/03/art-heals/) - “Art is a wound turned into light.” ~ Georges Braque, 20th Century French Artist I am not surprised that healing and art are connected. I know the calm I feel as I play piano or focus on a favorite painting or indulge in a luscious piece of poetry. Art is an oasis in the hurry
- [Finding Happiness](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/03/finding-happiness/) - "Happiness is nothing more than good health and a bad memory." Albert Schweitzer I am happy to report that after much searching I have at long last found the key to happiness. Well at least I've unlocked my personal definition of contentment and I'm happy to share it. It wasn't long ago I believed happiness
- [Shame on You! Understanding the Shame-Rage Connection](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/02/shame-on-you-understanding-the-shame-rage-connection/) - This article first appeared in our April 2007 issue of The Phoenix Spirit. Many people believe that punishing and explosive anger is a sign of power, confidence and "being on top of your game." In face, this is not the case at all. Disrespectful anger and even all out rage actually come out of a
- [Fast-Tracker Connects People Directly to Treatment](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/09/fast-tracker-connects-people-directly-to-treatment/) - To mark Recovery Month in Minnesota, I want to tell you about substance use disorder treatment reform, a website, and a mother from southern Minnesota. Let’s start with a hypothetical mother from southern Minnesota. Two years ago after much discussion, she finally gets her son, a heroin user, to agree to treatment. The mother, who
- [Nuway Hires Former State DHS Official as Public Policy Director](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/02/nuway-hires-former-state-dhs-official-as-public-policy-director/) - Former Minnesota Department of Human Services official, Amy Dellwo, will assume primary responsibility for short- and long-term public policy goals as NUWAY's Director of Public Policy. “We are thrilled to have Amy join the NUWAY team,” said Monique Bourgeois, NUWAY’s Chief Community Relations Officer. “Her depth and breadth of public policy experience will be an
- [Who Am I to Be Homeless?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/02/who-am-i-to-be-homeless/) - The following was first published in our January 2008 issue of The Phoenix Spirit. Year round, Moxie gets up with the sun. "It's really the only way to go," explains the 40-something woman in a grey sweatshirt dappled with gold paint. "I have a lot of stuff to do in the morning, and I just
- [Do You Play a Role?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/02/do-you-play-a-role/) - Take a look below at some examples of life scripts that angry people play out in their lives. You may recognize yourself in these or you might see others you know in them. Even if they don't seem to fit, think about the script and the roles that you may be playing out and try
- [Healing the Invisible Harm of Emotional Cruelty](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/01/healing-the-invisible-harm-of-emotional-cruelty/) - All my life I've felt there's something terribly wrong with me--something I can't put into words, something that makes me different from everybody else. People say, "Sheila, you are a good person" but I know they don't really like me. Sometimes I really hate myself. I know you'll think this is stupid. For the longest
- [Laura's Story](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/01/lauras-story/) - I grew up in a house with both parents and my older brother. Overall, I was a happy kid who liked school. But there was an undercurrent of pain, a secret I kept: I was abused as a young child. I never told anyone. I learned to hold onto that secret. I was introduced to
- [My Story: Getting Clean Young](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/01/my-story-getting-clean-young/) - I’m a person in long-term recovery from addiction. What that means to me, is that I haven’t picked up an alcoholic drink or drug since October 1981. I know to some of you that seems like eons. But to me, it still feels like yesterday. The pain of the end of my use was so
- [Being Our Brother's Keeper: A Road to Hope](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/01/being-our-brothers-keeper-a-road-to-hope/) - These days many of us are having a hard time finding hope. Some of us are overwhelmed by serious personal problems. Others of us live with a foreboding sense of an uncertain future for ourselves and our children. Looming climate change, increasing inequity between rich and poor, and massive dysfunction in our government all add
- [Mindfulness and Equanimity: A Way to Stay Steady in Hope](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/01/mindfulness-and-equanimity-a-way-to-stay-steady-in-hope/) - We know we can’t save anyone from their pain and suffering. We know trying to rescue or change someone in the throes of addiction drains us to the point of depletion; it becomes a never-ending cycle of feeling hopeless and helpless. We desperately want to maintain hope and feel guilty if we give up. The
- [Facing Fear](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/01/facing-fear/) - Fear stalks our world, brazen and shameless. I expect fear to occasionally sneak in and out of alleys, but to see it parade through public streets as though a welcome visitor is…..frightening! There are public and private fears; they embolden each other. Like bullies on the playground, they compete for space and power. Who will
- [With a Little Help from a Friend](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/01/with-a-little-help-from-a-friend/) - It was the last day of a graduate class I was teaching on the Spirituality of the Twelve Steps. I asked the class what was most striking to them from the lectures and conversations we'd had. As though she had been given the question earlier, a woman immediately shot her hand up. "I learned again and
- [Managing Money Before it Manages You](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2019/01/managing-money-before-it-manages-you/) - "Wealth is the number of things we can do without." Leo Tolstoy More and more people aren't managing their money well. Often their money is managing them if not completely overwhelming them and their families. Besides work, money is the leading stressor in the richest country in the world-America. Things are getting worse with our
- [When You Want Somebody Else to Change](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/12/when-you-want-somebody-else-to-change/) - When we want somebody else to change we often make mistakes. We either get too passive and expect change to happen without any effort on our part. Out of fear of rocking the boat we may excuse another’s behavior by saying “Well that’s just the way the other person is.” Alternatively we may try to
- [Broadsided: Dealing with Life's Unexpected Setbacks](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/12/broadsided-dealing-with-lifes-unexpected-setbacks/) - Recently I had some catch up time with a supportive person at our regular meeting spot. While chatting she told me that she and her husband were out driving recently and unexpectedly another driver broadsided them. This incident has since caused them inconvenience due to having to take time for car repair as well as
- [Is 50 the New 35? It Depends](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/12/is-50-the-new-35-it-depends/) - Baby Boomers, the generation that is 77 million strong, born between 1946 and 1964, have always assumed that they would live longer and healthier than their parents' generation. The promise of ongoing youth, health and vitality was the accepted belief. However, there are some rocky obstacles on this road to healthy aging that have roots
- [First Responders Need Help Coping With Stress](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/11/first-responders-need-help-coping-with-stress/) - For most of us, our first responders-police officers, firefighters, emergency medical technicians, paramedics-are part of our local fabric. We may nod to the cop on the beat, wave to a crew of firefighters as they pass by or pull over obediently when an ambulance races by us. But, we generally take these men and women
- [Free at Last: A Local Chef Breaks the Chains of Addiction](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/11/free-at-last-a-local-chef-breaks-the-chains-of-addiction/) - My life was ruining my life. The things I once loved had begun to consume all my time, all my relationships and all of me. From an outsider’s perspective, I looked as though I was at the peak of my profession. I’d traveled, met some amazing culinarians both here and abroad, been in magazines and
- [The Benefits of Giving Unconditionally](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/11/the-benefits-of-giving-unconditionally/) - “We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.” Winston Churchill Some might say that giving unconditionally is the path of true abundance. Stepping beyond our self-interest and thinking of others is a gift in and of itself, especially for those in recovery. It is not only
- [Helping You and Your Children to  Have Good Moral Character - Part 1](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/09/helping-you-and-your-children-to-have-good-moral-character-part-1/) - Most of us parents know how we would like our kids to turn out. They would care about others, generally have a warm heart, be socially accepted by peers, contribute to the greater good of others, treat siblings and family with compassion, be able to forgive, have a backbone and generally be a pleasure to
- [Recovery from Sex Addiction](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/11/recovery-from-sex-addiction/) - People who struggle with sex addiction face a challenge unlike recovery from drugs or alcohol. With chemical addictions, recovery is hard but at least sobriety is straightforward: recovery means complete abstinence from the substance. Sex addiction is more complicated. We will always be sexual people, and most addicts will engage in sexual activity throughout their
- [Can I Leave My Partner After Years of An Unfulfilling Relationship?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/11/can-i-leave-my-partner-after-years-of-an-unfulfilling-relationship/) - Our greatest life decisions are always made on the basis of incomplete information. ~Sheldon Kopp, psychoanalyst and author Probably the most difficult decision we’ll ever make in our lifetime is deciding to stay or leave a life partner when the relationship has been continually unfulfilling. Certainly the right decision is generally unclear to us. Most
- [Developing a Forgiving Attitude Sets You Free](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/10/developing-a-forgiving-attitude-sets-you-free/) - David Richo, in his book, The Five Things We Cannot Change, claims that we must accept certain realities. Among these are: All things change and end. Things do not always go according to plan. People are not loving and loyal all the time. Pain and suffering are a part of life. Life is not fair.
- [Meister Eckhart’s Book of the Heart: Meditations for the Restful Soul](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/03/meister-eckharts-book-of-the-heart-meditations-for-the-restful-soul/) - By Jon M. Sweeney and Mark S. Burrows Hampton Roads Publishing Meister Eckhart was a 14th century German mystic and philosopher who thought the search for God was a search for the self. He has been credited with influencing spiritual teachers from Erich Fromm to Rudolf Steiner. Sweeney and Burrows took a collection of Eckhart’s
- [A Course in Mysticism and Miracles: Begin Your Spiritual Adventure](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/03/a-course-in-mysticism-and-miracles-begin-your-spiritual-adventure/) - By Jon Mundy, PhD Weiser Books Drawing on the teachings of A Course in Miracles, Mundy explores mysticism and how it fits in today’s world. He is also the author of Living a Course in Miracles. In this book, he describes what mysticism is, and what it isn’t. He explains how mysticism has affected various
- [Beating Bitterness](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/10/beating-bitterness/) - Recently a convicted felon wrote columnist “Dear Abby” lamenting he was “on a one-way trip down a road that leads nowhere.” The man said he felt hopeless about his future behind bars and signed his name “Inmate on a Dead End.” A few weeks later, another reader of the column wrote to say: “I want
- [Resting on Our Laurels](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/09/resting-on-our-laurels/) - She sat next to the bed. I hadn’t touched her in months. She didn’t seem to notice - she didn’t say a word. I felt guilty. I felt ashamed. I felt like I had been unfaithful. There had been so many excuses. “I’m too busy. I’m too tired. I’ve got more important things to do.”
- [It’s Not a Game - Eating and Substance Abuse Disorders](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/09/eating-and-substance-abuse-disorders/) - Eating disorders don’t discriminate. But people with a history of substance use disorder are at a higher risk for developing a potentially life threatening eating disorder. Clients may get sober only to use eating disorder symptoms — bingeing, restricting/dieting, and/or purging — instead of their drug of choice to cope with challenging emotions. This is
- [Fall Into Winter: What’s a Body to Do?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/08/fall-into-winter-whats-a-body-to-do/) - Many Minnesotans absolutely love the change of seasons. A break from the hot, humid summer months with our windows shut and the air conditioner continually running. We welcome the crisp fall air, cozy sweatshirts, open windows, and a fire on the patio. All too often, the fall season is a brief transition, with much of
- [Jim’s Story](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/07/jims-story/) - I grew up in your average Minnesota small town. We were neither rich nor poor, just like most everyone growing up in that area. My father was sporadically employed as an accountant. However, he was also a big gambler and a big drinker. His addictions affected our family in ways that have taken me a
- [The Push of Pain, The Pull of Hope - A Gambler's Story](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/07/the-push-of-pain-the-pull-of-hope-a-gamblers-story/) - I grew up with alcoholics. There were aunts and uncles that gave me boozy hugs, a godmother that called and picked fights after a few cocktails, and a dad that died of cirrhosis. As a result, I have a favorite quote, “If you can’t be a good example, at least be a horrible warning.” My
- [6 Tips to Beat Stress](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/07/6-tips-to-beat-stress/) - Stress affects everyone, damaging our health and relationships. Here are a few easy-to-consider tips for reducing stress in your life. Plan ahead and be flexible about your expectations. Think about your plans for vacations and family gatherings. Everyone else has expectations and sometimes they won’t match yours. Plan for spontaneity. If you allow the plans
- [In Al-Anon...](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/07/in-al-anon/) - There was a period in my life where I spent most of my time doing one of two things: I was either worrying to extremes, or praying about what I was worrying about. My prayers were desperate. I often prayed, “Please let him come home safely.” Sometimes I prayed for something to change. At other
- [A Woman's Way Through the Twelve Steps](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/05/a-womans-way-through-the-twelve-steps/) - By Stephanie S. Covington Hazelden Publishing Although written over 20 years ago, this book still provides a valid message to readers today. Covington is nationally recognized for her work with women in private treatment and correctional institutions. Using the 12-Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, she provides a “gender-responsive approach” to addiction and recovery, relationships, sexuality, and
- [How to Survive Your Childhood Now That You're an Adult](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/05/how-to-survive-your-childhood-now-that-youre-an-adult/) - By Ira Israel Skyhorse Publishing, Inc. Israel acknowledges that he wrote this book as a way to share what he learned from studying psychology, philosophy, sociology and spirituality. As a psychotherapist, he teaches his clients how to learn to be present and embrace every moment of life. He describes how to be authentic and live
- [Forty Things I Wish I’d Told My Kids](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/05/forty-things-i-wish-id-told-my-kids/) - By John Allcock Morgan James Publishing Allcock says, “Ninety percent of your worries are wrong.” He maintains, “What we do is not as important as how we are.” And he thinks that most of what we fear is imaginary. These are some of the topics in emails he sent to his daughters, who are now
- [Break the Chain: Go to a Retreat](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/05/break-the-chain-go-to-a-retreat/) - Let’s face it, we live in a crazy world with crazy demands on us. Always on, always on the go, always more money to make, more bills to pay. Family, friends, obligations. It’s no surprise sometimes we need a break from the grind to find some peace of mind. So let’s not underestimate the power
- [Stress: How Mental Distress is Your Signal to Make a Change in Your Life](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/03/stress-how-mental-distress-is-your-signal-to-make-a-change-in-your-life/) - Physical or mental distress can be challenging at times. We certainly don’t go out of our way to acquire it, and we generally try hard to prevent it, but like Murphy’s Law if something can becoming challenging and distressful it will, and probably at the most undesired time. Just the idea of distress is frequently
- [The Avivo ArtWorks Collective Artists Thriving in Community](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/03/the-avivo-artworks-collective-artists-thriving-in-community/) - Housed in a basement art studio in Avivo’s Minneapolis Community Support Program, we organize together as the Avivo Artworks Collective. If you ask us who we are, we would say we are artists – first and foremost. What brings us together is the goal to create community so that we can support one another. Our
- [Adult Coloring](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/05/adult-coloring/) - by Jess Volinski Fox Chapel Publishing Do you remember how comforting and relaxing it was to pull out the crayon box and open the book to a brand new, unused page? Well, now adults can do it again. Coloring Books Watercolors, colored pencils, markers, crayons, and gel pens will all look stunning on high-quality, extra-thick
- [The Path to Wealth: Seven Spiritual Steps for Financial Abundance](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/07/the-path-to-wealth-seven-spiritual-steps-for-financial-abundance/) - By May McCarthy Hierophant Publishing What others might call God, Universal Spirit, or their Higher Power, McCarthy calls her Chief Spiritual Officer or CSO. She meets with her CSO on a regular basis, as part of her daily 30 minute practice to financial abundance. She outlines a seven step process: read something uplifting; write gratitude
- [The Self-Discipline Handbook: Simple Ways to Cultivate Self-Discipline, Build Confidence, and Obtain Your Goals](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/03/the-self-discipline-handbook-simple-ways-to-cultivate-self-discipline-build-confidence-and-obtain-your-goals/) - By Natalie Wise Skyhorse Publishing, Inc. Wise explains the art and science of self-discipline. She describes boundaries and the influence of internal and external stumbling blocks. She even explains why she thinks persistence is a virtue and self-improvement is exhausting. However, to maximize progress and minimize confusion, Wise affirms, “Small positive choices set us up
- [Waking Up in Winter: In Search of What Really Matters at Midlife](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/03/waking-up-in-winter-in-search-of-what-really-matters-at-midlife/) - By Cheryl Richardson HarperOne As a best-selling author and professional life coach, Richardson is known for having answers. Then she experienced events that made her reevaluate and reexamine her life and what really mattered. She shares her journal entries and candid thoughts about age, marriage, work, friendships and priorities in life. Richardson says, “I want
- [NUWAY Moves 3R's Counseling Center](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/03/nuway-moves-3rs-counseling-center/) - This week NUWAY moved its 3R’s Counseling Center to 1404 Central Ave. N.E., Minneapolis 55413 to better serve clients with substance use and mental health disorders. The center was previously located at 2220 Central Ave. NE. The phone number remains 612-789-8030. The new center will serve up to 200 clients per day. “The move allows
- [Bliss More: How to Succeed in Meditation Without Really Trying](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/02/bliss-more-how-to-succeed-in-meditation-without-really-trying/) - By Light Watkins Ballantine Books This is Watkins’ “how-to guide” for a successful meditation practice. It includes his experiences and struggles with practicing and teaching meditation since 1998. Because of those experiences, he developed E.A.S.Y. (Embrace, Accept, Surrender, Yield), a technique everyone who wants to have a meditation practice will find valuable. Watkins explains how
- [Attitudes of Gratitude: How to Give and Receive Joy Every Day of Your Life](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/02/attitudes-of-gratitude-how-to-give-and-receive-joy-every-day-of-your-life/) - By M. J. Ryan Conari Press Ryan states, “Research has confirmed the emotional and physical benefits of giving thanks.” When we are thankful, fear and anger disappear. Additionally, she believes that more gifts come to us when we are grateful; it is a powerful change agent. She provides 60 essays to help readers identify and
- [Mastering the Addicted Brain: Building a Sane and Meaningful Life to Stay Clean](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2018/02/mastering-the-addicted-brain-building-a-sane-and-meaningful-life-to-stay-clean/) - By Walter Ling, MD New World Library How the brain gets and stays addicted is described by Ling, a neuropsychiatrist with 30 years of clinical practice and a pioneer in research. He begins by describing how the brain works and how addiction is a brain disease. Ling also provides information on detoxification and explains what
- [Carpe Diem, Seizing the Day in a Distracted World](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/05/carpe-diem-seizing-the-day-in-a-distracted-world/) - By Roman Krznaric TarcherPerigee Krznaric is a social philosopher. He encourages readers to look at the history of the phrase “Carpe Diem” and how it is applicable in today’s world. He explores the underlying message to“live each day as if it were your last.” Readers will learn how, over the years, the phrase has been
- [Illuminating Wisdom: Words of Wisdom, Works of Art](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/05/illuminating-wisdom-words-of-wisdom-works-of-art/) - By Deirdre Hassed and Craig Hassed Exisle Publishing The Hasseds bring art and wise sayings together. This beautifully illustrated book connects inspiring philosophical and spiritual quotes to beautiful calligraphy while explaining the meaning or background of the text or its author. Their essays and art address science, artists, literary figures, Vedic traditions and Buddhism. Artists
- [The Call of the Day](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/05/the-call-of-the-day/) - By Jodi Hershey Hershey encourages readers to always ask, “Am I coming from love or fear?” She helps readers connect through self-reflection with who they really are and how to move forward in their lives. The most important practice, in Hershey’s mind, is connecting daily with Universal Source. This can be done by meditation and
- [Trust, Living Spontaneously and Embracing Life](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2017/05/trust-living-spontaneously-and-embracing-life/) - By Osho St. Martin’s Press Osho, deceased since 1990, was a philosopher and writer known for his provocative and inspiring spiritual teachings. This is the 11th volume in the Insights for a New Way of Living series. In this text, Osho discusses the history of trust and re-evaluates the idea of trust. He encourages the
- [Ordinary Goodness: The Surprisingly Effortless Path to Creating a Life of Meaning and Beauty](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/11/ordinary-goodness-the-surprisingly-effortless-path-to-creating-a-life-of-meaning-and-beauty/) - Ordinary Goodness: The Surprisingly Effortless Path to Creating a Life of Meaning and Beauty By Edward Viljoen TarcherPerigee Do you think that wherever you are, you can create meaning and beauty in your life and the world? Viljoen does. He shares personal, heartfelt stories from folks who have done just that. He’s a New Thought
- [Dharma Parenting: Understanding Your Child’s Brilliant Brain for Greater Happiness, Health, Success, and Fulfillment](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/11/dharma-parenting-understanding-your-childs-brilliant-brain-for-greater-happiness-health-success-and-fulfillment/) - Dharma Parenting: Understanding Your Child’s Brilliant Brain for Greater Happiness, Health, Success, and Fulfillment By Robert Keith Wallace, PhD and Frederick Travis, PhD TarcherPerigee Would any parent turn down groundbreaking scientific research that could help their child develop to their true potential? Wallace and Travis are researchers and neuroscientists who recommend parents use Ayurveda to
- [Stop Being Lonely: Three Simple Steps to Developing Close Friendships and Deep Relationships](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/11/stop-being-lonely-three-simple-steps-to-developing-close-friendships-and-deep-relationships/) - Stop Being Lonely: Three Simple Steps to Developing Close Friendships and Deep Relationships By Kira Asatryan New World Library Wanting to feel close to someone is a universal goal. Not everyone achieves it easily as social media, technology, and myths may actually make it harder to do. The first step is to understand what closeness
- [I Am Here Now: A Creative Mindfulness Guide and Journal](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/11/i-am-here-now-a-creative-mindfulness-guide-and-journal/) - By The Mindfulness Project TarcherPerigee Readers may recognize The Mindfulness Project, a platform for teaching and spreading health and happiness through mindfulness exercises. They do this through a variety of workshops and online programs. In this easy to carry book, The Mindfulness Project wants readers to learn that they have the potential to be creative
- [The Joy of Half a Cookie: Using Mindfulness to Lose Weight and End the Struggle with Food](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/09/the-joy-of-half-a-cookie-using-mindfulness-to-lose-weight-and-end-the-struggle-with-food/) - By Jean Kristeller with Alisa Bowman Perigee Based upon many years of experience and research, Kristeller identifies the myths of dieting. Using mindfulness practices specifically targeting eating, she helps readers understand why they overeat and how to change their relationship with food. To do that, she suggests letting go of calorie anxiety and incorporate mindfulness
- [Choosing a Good Life: Lessons from People Who Have Found Their Place in the World](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/09/choosing-a-good-life-lessons-from-people-who-have-found-their-place-in-the-world/) - By Ali Berman Hazelden PublishingBerman interviewed ten people from diverse backgrounds to discover the key to balance and fulfilment. She learned how they achieved harmony despite unimaginable hardships, illness, and loss. She shares their stories here.When asked how they handled stress, some stated that they asked themselves, “Can I do something about it or can’t
- [The Tao of Happiness: Stories from Chuang Tzu for Your Spiritual Journey](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/09/the-tao-of-happiness-stories-from-chuang-tzu-for-your-spiritual-journey/) - By Derek Lin Tarcher PenguinLin reviews parables from Tzu, a Taoist philosopher who lived twenty-four hundred years ago and influenced Chinese culture through stories. He incorporates these translated teachings into today’s Western world. For example, “The end of one’s life marks the completion of one’s work.” Therefore, instead of mourning the death of a loved
- [Finding the Blue Sky: A Mindful Approach to Choosing Happiness Here and Now](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/09/finding-the-blue-sky-a-mindful-approach-to-choosing-happiness-here-and-now/) - By Joseph Emet TarcherPerigeePositive Psychology is the scientific study of what actually makes people happy and what makes life most worth living. Emet trained with Thich Nhat Hanh and shares how Positive Psychology compliments Buddhism.Each chapter has three sections: a story, a meditation or reflection, and a practice section with exercises to help the reader
- [What’s the Trick to Fulfillment?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/09/whats-the-trick-to-fulfillment/) - By William Schiemann, Ph.D Are there real tricks to becoming fulfilled in life? You bet. Research suggests that there are key streetsmart actions that those who are most fulfilled use every day in their professional and personal lives. I interviewed over 100 successful people — some who were fulfilled and others who were not —
- [Slogans:  YOU’RE LOOKING AT THE PROBLEM (To be placed on mirror)](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/09/slogans-youre-looking-at-the-problem-to-be-placed-on-mirror/) - There’s no doubt in my mind that the numerous slogans I’ve heard repeatedly over the years in the rooms of A.A. have impacted my psyche one degree to another. Perhaps the most familiar commonsense catchphrase “One day at a Time” has definitely helped carry me through countless rough and tumble days in my sobriety.The famous
- [If You Leave Me, Can I Come With You? Daily Meditations for Codependents and Al-Anons…with a Sense of Humor](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/07/if-you-leave-me-can-i-come-with-you-daily-meditations-for-codependents-and-al-anonswith-a-sense-of-humor/) - By Misti B.Beginning with New Year’s Day, readers will enjoy Misti B’s honest and humorous reflections on her experience as a codependent person who attends Al- Anon, a Twelve Step recovery program for individuals affected by the disease of alcoholism.She offers a year’s worth of daily meditations in a lighthearted manner. They are inspiring and
- [Calm](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/07/calm/) - By Michael Acton SmithA 2005 study found people who regularly practiced mindfulness meditation physically change their brains. Smith states, “A calm practice, incorporating meditation and mindfulness, can be as effective in treating the symptoms of depression and anxiety as drug-based treatments.” Are you ready to change your brain?This is a beautiful book filled with colorful,
- [Not as Prescribed: Recognizing and Facing Alcohol and Drug Misuse in Older Adults](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/07/not-as-prescribed-recognizing-and-facing-alcohol-and-drug-misuse-in-older-adults/) - By Harry Haroutunian, MDDrug misuse and addiction is one of the fastest growing and unrecognized health problems in the United States in older adults, which is defined as age fifty and older. AARP coordinated efforts with the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation to provide important information about substance misuse and addiction. Knowing the difference between normal
- [Holiday Poems](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/11/holiday-poems/) - Poetry by P.A. Trebnick and Mary CowetteCrossing the BridgeMy Bridge of worry, fear and fret, I need courage to beget, To cross that Bridge that seems so far away, Yet, here I cross it every day.Early each morning, nature beckons me. The birds, the city still awakening, I strap up looking forward to another roll.Sunlight
- [Learning Spaces](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/07/learning-spaces/) - “The roots of education are bitter, the fruit is sweet.” – AristotleHow could a 15-year-old girl be considered a threat to the Taliban? On October 9, 2012, in the Swat valley of northwestern Pakistan, a gunman stepped onto a bus in which Malala Yousafzai was returning home from school and shot her in the head.
- [Reader’s Write: Dealing with Depression in Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/07/readers-write-dealing-with-depression-in-recovery/) - The worst part of having clinical depression is the crash that generally occurs after experiencing a ray of hope. Or, if I dare admit, after feeling “happy” for the better part of a day or two.However, there are times when I feel so low, that it takes unimaginable effort just to get out bed. These
- [The Miracle Power of Your Mind: The Joseph Murphy Treasury](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/05/the-miracle-power-of-your-mind-the-joseph-murphy-treasury/) - By Joseph Murphy Readers familiar with Dr. Joseph Murphy’s name will be excited to learn that Tarcher Penguin published his collection in their recent Success Classics series. There they will find everything written—all 24 books from 1954-1963 and multiple pamphlets— by Murphy, the pioneer of success thinking. All collected in one very large volume. Murphy’s
- [The Write Prescription: Telling Your Story to Live With and Beyond Illness](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/05/the-write-prescription-telling-your-story-to-live-with-and-beyond-illness/) - By Judith HannanPractical instructions are provided in three parts: first, a series of writing prompts; second, suggestions to change observations into story narration; and third, encouragement for individuals to write about their experience of illness and treatment.Included is information on clinical trials about the Medical Narrative and the therapeutic value to patients’ recovering from illness
- [Why Can’t I Meditate? How to Get Your Mindfulness Practice on Track](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/05/why-cant-i-meditate-how-to-get-your-mindfulness-practice-on-track/) - By Nigel WellingsLooking for an in-depth analysis of the practice of mindfulness and practical advice on how to incorporate meditation into your daily routine? Wellings, a practicing meditator himself, provides both. According to Wellings, mindfulness is, “Being consciously aware of what is happening inside of us and around us in the present moment, accepting what
- [Dear David: Dealing with My Son’s Addiction One Letter at a Time](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/05/dear-david-dealing-with-my-sons-addiction-one-letter-at-a-time/) - By Martha Wegner After seven weeks of in-patient treatment, David walked away from treatment for the third time. He was homeless due to his addiction, again. Wegner dealt with the pain of his disappearance by writing letters to him (all ending with Love, Mom). She describes the pain of having a loved one living on
- [Behind the Wall: The True Story of Mental Illness as Told by Parents](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/03/behind-the-wall-the-true-story-of-mental-illness-as-told-by-parents/) - By Mary Widdifield and Elin WiddifieldLangdon Street Press This collection includes candid stories from parents who have loved and lived with a family member who has a mental illness. They report their experiences with heartbreaking honesty and provide important information and resources for other families in similar circumstances.The book is divided into three parts so readers
- [Living Long, Living Passionately, 75 (and Counting) Ways to Bring Peace and Purpose to Your Life](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/03/living-long-living-passionately-75-and-counting-ways-to-bring-peace-and-purpose-to-your-life/) - By Karen CaseyConari Press Casey reveals she’s “been on the planet writing books and facilitating workshops for nearly half of my seventy- five years.” She is recognized as a long-time recovery expert and shares her personal story and experience of recovery in a 12 Step program.She provides meditative essays and insights with follow-up questions for
- [Swimming Upstream: Parenting Girls for Resilience in a Toxic Culture](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/03/swimming-upstream-parenting-girls-for-resilience-in-a-toxic-culture/) - By Laura H. ChoateOxford University PressReaders will appreciate this guidebook of encouragement and useful information. Choate’s decades of experience as a counselor educator and licensed professional counselor is evident in this resource of research on popular culture and the pressures facing our young girls and their parents.The first part of the book provides an explanation
- [Healing From Abuse:  Light Encourages Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/05/healing-from-abuse-light-encourages-recovery/) - In 2015 as the Children’s Theatre Company (CTC) in Minneapolis was hosting festive events to celebrate its 50th anniversary, a smaller, quieter happening began to ripple through the CTC alumni community. No fanfare, no hype, but to those involved, of greater celebratory significance. Thirty-one years had passed since the 1984 arrest of John Clark Donahue,
- [Is it Time to Retreat?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/05/is-it-time-to-retreat/) - Retreat. Withdraw. Pull back. When armies retreat they fall back, de-escalate, leave the frontline for a place of safety and rest. Me, too. I go on retreat to regroup, refresh, rejuvenate. Our frenetic lives leave us fewer and fewer quiet places to retreat into. Electronic devices have marched into every room of the house. They
- [Stepping into Life](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/05/stepping-into-life/) - When I hear the word retreat, I tend not to think of meditation, cedar scented cabins, or even a prettily situated lakeside bench. I think of troops of traumatized and malnourished shoulders slogging through mud to get back from the front lines, I think of standing in the doorway of a party and seeing some
- [Food for Early Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/05/food-for-early-recovery/) - Introducing the concept of nutrition into a treatment program is not an easy task. Many addicts in early recovery are not ready for health behavioral change, since most are simply trying to get past the immediate crisis of addiction and the associated life adjustments of abstinence. In fact, sobriety can magnify pre-existing dysfunctional eating behavior.
- [Your Darkest Moment Could be the Beginning of Change](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/05/your-darkest-moment-could-be-the-beginning-of-change/) - Crash. Bang. Reality. As I woke up, a dark misty haze was swirling around my mind. The moment that I recognized that I was in a hospital bed, the events of the past 24 hours came flooding through my mind. I had tried to take my own life. At the age of 26 years old,
- [Change Your Mind and Your Life Will Follow](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/03/change-your-mind-and-your-life-will-follow/) - By Karen CaseyThe long-awaited paperback edition from a beloved pioneer of the recovery movement. "This book is a must-read for anyone who cares about the quality of his thoughts and how being aware of them can bring positive change." Mary Porter, Science of MindOrganized around 12 very simple steps, Change Your Mind and Your Life Will
- [Happily Ever Now: Four Ways To Be In Love In The Present Moment](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/03/happily-ever-now-four-ways-to-be-in-love-in-the-present-moment/) - We all know that Happily Ever After doesn’t always pan out. Tinderella and Prince Match.com don’t always ride off into the sunset, and well, that doesn’t mean it was a complete failure after all.Many times people come into our lives for a moment of time to help us grow and expand; then their duty is
- [Art Exercises Help Boost Self-Esteem](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/03/art-exercises-help-boost-self-esteem/) - Every day, we’re bombarded with so many ideas about who we should be and how to look and act that we often lose sight of who we truly are. We all struggle with self-acceptance every once in a while, and need to remind ourselves to love who we’ve become. Creative Arts Therapist Mallory Denison says
- [From Mozart to Motown Music Reignites Memory](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/03/from-mozart-to-motown-music-reignites-memory/) - “Music is my sanctuary. Music kept me alive.” Sir Elton John, in a recent CBS News profile, could have been speaking for all of us. But most of us are more likely to take music for granted because, well, it’s just always there.Natalie Angier, in a February 8, 2016 New York Times article, wrote, “We
- [Dry in the High Desert](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/03/dry-in-the-high-desert/) - At the age of 55 one should be running out of “re-boots,” the do-overs, the “new starts,” the major moves should be done with, and instead one should be beginning to observe what one has made of one’s life, using amassed experience in a new way, approaching what’s called “wisdom.”Then there’s the economy. It’s the
- [Art Therapy – Top 10 Benefits](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/03/art-therapy-top-10-benefits/) - by Joan French In my therapy practice I treat clients of all ages who enter treatment for a number of different reasons. I consider my general approach to be Experiential, employing a broad range of interventions. As part of my offerings – I include art therapy. Many clients I encounter haven’t heard of it, and
- [Art Therapy can benefit anxiety and stress at work](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/03/art-therapy-can-benefit-anxiety-and-stress-at-work/) - Our nation seems like it’s always in the grips of a stress epidemic. Stress and anxiety are disorders that affect more people than ever before, with research suggesting that work related stress costs the American economy $300 billion each year as a result of related health care costs and missed days at work. According to
- [Straight Talk from Claudia Black: What Recovering Parents Should Tell Their Kids about Drugs and Alcohol](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/01/straight-talk-from-claudia-black-what-recovering-parents-should-tell-their-kids-about-drugs-and-alcohol/) - By Claudia Black, Ph.D.Hazelden PublishingBefore you begin a discussion with your children on addiction, it may be helpful to clarify your motives and expectations, especially if you are talking about your drug/alcohol history and subsequent recovery.Black is known for her work with family systems and addictive disorders. She uses five recovering parents and their different
- [The Gratitude Element: A New Look at the Serenity Prayer](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/01/the-gratitude-element-a-new-look-at-the-serenity-prayer/) - By Mark T. ScannellGasscann PublishersAlthough Scannell is no longer a Catholic priest, his interest in spirituality is clear. He describes the history and evolution of The Serenity Prayer, a prayer of petition, which has been used for years by religious and Twelve Step groups. He identifies the prayer’s different versions and the authors attributed to
- [Living with Intent: My Somewhat Messy Journey to Purpose, Peace, and Joy](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/01/living-with-intent-my-somewhat-messy-journey-to-purpose-peace-and-joy/) - By Mallika ChopraHarmony BooksAre you ready to move from thought to action to outcome? Mallika Chopra tells her journey of a year spent “living with intent” and shares her hope and wisdom. As the busy founder of INTENT.com (a website and app), author, mother and wife, she learned firsthand how overwhelming stress can be. And
- [Synchronicity: Empower Your Life with the Gift of Coincidence](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/01/synchronicity-empower-your-life-with-the-gift-of-coincidence/) - By Chris MackeyWatkins PublishingA clinical psychologist with 35 years’ experience, Mackey includes personal and clinical experiences of coincidences and synchronicity. These include case studies and anecdotal reports from people who stated that they were “in synch” with life and Gallup poll results of people who self-identify as “spiritual but not religious.” He discusses the brain
- [Like Dolphins Made of Silver Light](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/02/like-dolphins-made-of-silver-light/) - This weekend I was scrolling through the video playlist on a field biology site I like to visit when I came upon a warning, “Elephant Calf Eaten Alive by Lions: Not For Sensitive Viewers.” I make myself watch these videos for two reasons: First, I have the irrational need to convince myself that it is
- [Sobriety Resolutions for 2016](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/01/sobriety-resolutions-for-2016/) - Doing the right thing and expecting the same results is the principle behind my Sobriety Resolutions for 2016. I closed out the year sober and realized I needed to take steps to help ensure I will end this year clean. My thinking is that if I do what worked to stay clean I will get
- [Winter is the time to give your kidneys some love](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/01/winter-is-the-time-to-give-your-kidneys-some-love/) - In the healing philosophy of the Far East the energy flow in our environment is reflected in our bodies. In the system of the Five Elements, it is the Water Element that corresponds to the night-time in the daily cycle and the winter in the yearly cycle. The organs associated with water and thus winter
- [Change? Me?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/01/change-me/) - “If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are going.” Lao Tzu“Everybody wants it to be different but nobody wants to change.” The pastor referenced the tension in the congregation. Few were happy; most could name someone or something that needed to change. Status quo held tight. Many years later I
- [Confessions of an addict](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2016/01/confessions-of-an-addict/) - by anonymousIm sick when Im soberMy wife doesnt understand how far Ive fallen,She hates me drunkShe loves the sex after Ive smoked weedShe doesnt know why Im so distant on adderallShes happiest when Im on opiatesShe says my soul is a good one, but I dont believe itI never lie if she asks, but she
- [Homeless for the Holidays](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/11/homeless-for-the-holidays/) - On a cold December evening in 1962, I was walking home along Nicollet Avenue enjoying the elaborate holiday displays when I saw a man leaning against a store window. His wellworn wool coat was fully buttoned against the cold air and one boot was slit open to accommodate a bandaged foot. He held pencils in
- [A Sober Mom’s Guide to Recovery: Taking Care of Yourself to Take Care of Your Kids](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/11/a-sober-moms-guide-to-recovery-taking-care-of-yourself-to-take-care-of-your-kids/) - By Rosemary O’ConnorHazelden Publishing O’Connor describes the many challenges of recovering from addiction while upholding the responsibilities of motherhood. She describes her own and others’ stories of use and abuse, and the guilt it brought. This is a guidebook for recovering women who have struggled with balancing their recovery and parenting.Included at the end of
- [The Crossroads of Should and Must: Find and Follow Your Passion](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/11/the-crossroads-of-should-and-must-find-and-follow-your-passion/) - By Elle LunaWorkman PublishingIn this colorful book, Luna describes the process she went through to get to her must, which is painting. Accented by her drawings and sketches, Luna provides her personal journey. This book is intended for artists; fortunately, all of us have an artist within.She describes the differences between should, what we feel
- [The Little Book of Love: Heart and Soul and The Little Book of Mindfulness: Focus. Slow Down. De-stress.](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/11/the-little-book-of-love-heart-and-soul-and-the-little-book-of-mindfulness-focus-slow-down-de-stress/) - By Tiddy RowanQuadrilleThese are really tiny books of knowledge, full of interesting thoughts and quotes. Both of these small books would make wonderful gifts for oneself or someone else.The Little Book of Mindfulness is a collection of over 150 mindful techniques and exercises to help one achieve calmness, joy, and happiness. Rowan suggests, “Be non-judgmental
- [The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/11/the-gifts-of-imperfection-let-go-of-who-you-think-youre-supposed-to-be-and-embrace-who-you-are/) - By Brene Brown Hazelden PublishingAlthough this book was published several years ago, it is still valuable today. Brown shares stories from her own life as well as from the more than 10,000 stories she has collected over the years. She states, “I’m basically a story teller.” And a researcher. And a professor. And a mother
- [One Home, Many Hearts*](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/11/one-home-many-hearts/) - by Elaine TaylorA few years ago, I was whining to my daughter about my imminent crossing of that dreaded Rubicon: the Big Five-O. “The best of my life is behind me. I’m entering the period of throat wattles and colonoscopies every five years … and uselessness. Irrelevance.”Being both blunt and wise she said, “Ya know
- [It’s Never Too Late for Treatment](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/11/its-never-too-late-for-treatment/) - “Too bad you didn’t get treatment for alcoholism earlier in your life,” said a young man in the discussion group after hearing my addiction story. “Let’s face it,” he continued, “your best years are behind you.” A big guy with a voice that didn’t match his 6’1”, nearly 300-pound frame, this opiate addict had a
- [Gratitude? Yes, Please](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/11/gratitude-yes-please/) - “Enough is a feast.” — Buddhist ProverbOne rainy afternoon while I sat reading in the den of my home with a warm mug of coffee to one side, and a purring cat on the other, I came across a little gem of a story. It spoke to me about resiliency — the ability people have
- [Living in the Wake of Addiction: Lessons for Courageous Caregivers](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/11/living-in-the-wake-of-addiction-lessons-for-courageous-caregivers/) - Many people in recovery from a substance use disorder (SUD) say that being restless, irritable, and discontent began long before they ever tried to medicate those feelings with their first drink or drug. Until they experience recovery, these emotions can sometimes make the person feel like everyone else but them has received a different instruction
- [WORDS from readers and writers](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/11/words-from-readers-and-writers/) - Poems by Francisco Narvaez and Mike A JacksonTouched by changesImpasse after impasse Cars drift by billowing smoke in the night sky Poison! Poison! We yell as we laugh inhaling the sick gas The piff pass as I sit back Demons dastardly convince me im not cashed Ask God why and Allah Jehovah puts his arm
- [Tell Me A Story](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/11/tell-me-a-story-2/) - A young mother in residential treatment uses her words to share her story with her 3-year-old sonI am Michelle O., a 23-year-old recovering alcoholic, and mother of a three-year-old little boy named Cooper. During my time in residential, my counselor gave me one last treatment assignment: He asked me to write a book explaining my
- [The Holly- Frazzled Parade](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/11/the-holly-frazzled-parade/) - It’s that time of year already — the gatherings, the food, the family — and, what I’m personally looking forward to most of all. The resentments. Gathering over the Thanksgiving table, around the Menorah, the Christmas Tree, the Harvest Spruce, whatever, is the perfect time to take out all those unresolved little wounds and give
- [When in Doubt Say Something Bizarre](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/11/when-in-doubt-say-something-bizarre/) - No matter what progress we may have made in taking better care of ourselves in our day to day lives, we are in danger of leaving that progress behind when we pack for our holiday trips — whether the trip is cross country or just across town. Consider the strange phenomenon of instant age regression
- [Enough is Enough!](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/11/enough-is-enough/) - “He who knows that enough is enough will always have enough.” Lao TzuI am bracing myself for the onslaught of excess and scarcity. It is so easy to move from a sense of wonder at autumn’s abundant and bountiful harvest to feelings of inadequacy and deprivation. I speak of the advertising barrage that begins before
- [Interview with Your Self: Be Inner-Wise, Resolve Life’s Problems](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/09/interview-with-your-self-be-inner-wise-resolve-lifes-problems/) - By Mercedes Tur EscrivaBalboa PressTur Escriva asks, “Why are we creating this reality?” and then she helps the reader to “get clear on what is an illusion and what is real.” She describes the three different levels of looking at the same situation: the level of the body (material); the mind (logical process); and the
- [Fly-Fishing – The Sacred Art: Casting a Fly as a Spiritual Practice](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/09/fly-fishing-the-sacred-art-casting-a-fly-as-a-spiritual-practice/) - By Rabbi Eric Eisenkramer and Rev. Michael Attas, MDSkyLight Paths PublishingThe book provide paired essays from Rabbi Eric: Stream and Spirit and Reverend Mike: Fishing into the Mystery, which reflect the authors’ diverse backgrounds; one is a Rabbi and the other is an Episcopal priest and physician.Their common ground is identified in the topics they
- [Unwelcome Inheritance: Break Your Family’s Cycle of Addictive Behaviors](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/09/unwelcome-inheritance-break-your-familys-cycle-of-addictive-behaviors/) - By Lisa Sue Woititz and Dr. Janet G. WoititzHazelden PublishingReaders may recognize Dr. Janet Woititz’s name. She is the author of Adult Children of Alcoholics, a book written in the 1980’s, which started the ACoA recovery movement. Although she passed away in 1994, her daughter Lisa, using her mother’s previous and unpublished work including lecture
- [Awakening Leadership: Embracing Mindfulness, Your Life’s Purpose, and the Leader You Were Born to Be](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/09/awakening-leadership-embracing-mindfulness-your-lifes-purpose-and-the-leader-you-were-born-to-be/) - By Christine HornerIn The Garden PublishingAre you a leader? Not just in your home or with friends and family, but in the work place? Horner believes that everyone has an “essential role to play in leading humanity toward a new era of true equality and prosperity.”She introduces readers to the New Leadership Blueprint which is
- [Letter to the Editor:  Searching for relevance in the wake of Cecil’s death](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/09/searching-for-relevance-in-the-wake-of-cecils-death/) - Mr. Goodwell Nzou garnered much attention from his New York Times opinion piece, In Zimbabwe, We Don’t Cry for Lions (August 4, 2015). He presented a condescending response to those who roared with anger or grief at the reported illegal slaying of an African lion who became much more famous in death than during his
- [Experiencing Spirituality: Finding Meaning Through Storytelling](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/07/experiencing-spirituality-finding-meaning-through-storytelling/) - By Ernest Kurtz and Katherine Ketcham Jeremy P. Tarcher Penguin The authors of the book The Spirituality of Imperfection continue their exploration of spirituality using storytelling of everyday life and experience. They want readers to learn that spirituality can be fun. They say that they do this “by living fully humanly.” They discuss the art of storytelling
- [Help Your Child to Thrive: Making the Best of a Struggling Public Education System](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/07/help-your-child-to-thrive-making-the-best-of-a-struggling-public-education-system/) - By Liane Brouillette Balboa Press Brouillette is an educator and actively involved in providing families of students with the resources to make informed decisions. She states her goal is to “provide parents with simple, effective ways to help children succeed in and out of school without spending all their evenings tutoring.” She thinks that parents can better
- [Unplugged: How to Live Mindfully in a Digital World](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/07/4015/) - By Orianna Fielding Carlton Books What would you discover if you were unplugged for a week? We all know and appreciate the pros and cons of almost instantaneous, around the clock, connectivity due to digital technology and social media. Being “on” all the time can wear on a person, mentally, physically, and emotionally. Included is a 12
- [Rock the Boat](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/05/rock-the-boat/) - Rock the Boat: How to Use Conflict to Heal and Deepen Your Relationship By Resmaa Menakem Hazelden Publishing Menakem writes, “We look to our partner for harmony and safety and familiarity. A long relationship provides these some of the time. But it also provides friction. Friction-not harmony or safety-is an engine of growth.” Drawing on his
- [Warrior Goddess Training](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/05/warrior-goddess-training/) - Warrior Goddess Training: Become the Woman You Are Meant To Be By Heather Ash Amara Hierophant Publishing Amara states that women were “trained to seek our wholeness and value and to find love through others.” She was trained in Toltec wisdom and shamanism. Now she wants to share her wisdom and help woman be so much
- [Simply Open](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/05/simply-open/) - Simply Open: A Guide to Experiencing God in the Everyday By Greg Paul Nelson Books In his newest book, Paul states, “Prayerfully read this book and ask God to open your eyes, open your ears, open your nostrils, open your mouth, open your hands, open your mind, and open your heart.” He describes using the five
- [My Dearest One](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/05/my-dearest-one/) - My Dearest One By Monisha Vasa, M.D. Balboa Press Bedtime stories are sharing times between the reader, whether they are a parent, grandparent, or other caregiver, and the child. They allow room for new words, discussion of the story and new concepts which may be presented by the story. They provide a dedicated space of time
- [Better Than Before: Mastering the Habits of Our Everyday Lives](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/05/2944/) - Better Than Before: Mastering the Habits of Our Everyday Lives By Gretchen Rubin Crown Publishers Habits. We all have some that we think are good and some we think are bad. In this book, readers are taught to evaluate their habits and use that knowledge to affect change.What’s the best way to successfully change a habit?
- [EGO Reduction: The change nobody wants to make (least of all me)](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/09/ego-reduction-the-change-nobody-wants-to-make-least-of-all-me/) - Recently a good friend posted a great video on my Facebook wall. It showed a concept of a personal aircraft and it was soooo cool.Here’s the deal: I’m pretty sure I’d kill myself in such a machine, regardless of any high-tech safety features it might afford (and it’s doubtful that I could even afford to
- [Tell Me A Story](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/09/tell-me-a-story/) - “The story – from Rumplestiltskin to War and Peace – is one of the basic tools invented by the human mind for the purpose of understanding. There have been great societies that did not use the wheel, but there have been no societies that did not tell stories.” - — Ursula K. Le GuinI have
- [Treatment Programs](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/09/treatment-programs/) - Fill in the blanks: Where do/does ________ I/my partner/child/friend/relative go for help with _______ my/his/ her __________ addiction/mental health needs/co-occurring disorder? The options are ____________confusing/mind boggling/ daunting.A first step toward getting recovery and mental health services often begins with a phone call. From there, an intervention may be appropriate. Or a meeting with a chemical
- [The White House Honors Pioneer in Addiction Treatment & Rehabilitation Advocacy](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/09/the-white-house-honors-pioneer-in-addiction-treatment-rehabilitation-advocacy/) - Founder of Beit T'Shuvah, Harriet Rossetto, is recognized as a national leader for her work treating addictionA ceremony on May 20, 2015 at the White House honored Harriet Rossetto, founder of Beit T’Shuvah (Bate-t’shoo-vah), as an “Advocate for Action.” Rossetto was selected as a national role model for the unique approach to addiction prevention, rehabilitation
- [What’s in a Word](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/09/whats-in-a-word/) - The past-tense word recovered is used in several places in the beginning of the book of Alcoholics Anonymous. This was pointed out to me in early sobriety, and in my mind, indicated that if I worked the 12-steps with a sponsor, and service work became a part of my life, that I too will be
- [One Excruciating Minute at a Time](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/09/one-excruciating-minute-at-a-time/) - “Pain is mandatory--suffering optional” goes one of the many folksy sayings woven through the 12-Step fabric. This has some basis in literal fact. Neurologists have long known that the sensation of pain and our experience of that sensation as something awful are generated in different structures of the forebrain. However, since being alive requires that
- [Finding Purpose in Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/07/finding-purpose-in-recovery/) - For an addict, the prospect of no longer using whatever it is that gets them through each day is daunting. There’s a comfort in knowing what life is going to look like even if all it entails is dragging yourself out of bed, taking a drink, smoke, or hit of crystal meth, and going on
- [The Game of Catch](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/07/the-game-of-catch/) - I want you to imagine something. I want you to imagine what your perfect day would look like to you. How late would you sleep in? Drawing the curtains open and looking out a window, what would the weather look like outside? Take a deep breath through your nose. What does this day smell like?
- [After Switching Therapists](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/07/after-switching-therapists/) - Breathless,lunch-less,my quaking bog bodyspills what it can,fills the room with fear.Arthur says,“You fear what you don’t know.Once you know itit will no longer besomething to fear.”He listens again and says,“I could be wrong,but I think this is aboutanger and power.”I exhale, smile.I can breath again.Imagine, all this crazy, scary shitwhittled downto two common nouns.from Excavation,
- [The Impact of Making an Impact](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/07/the-impact-of-making-an-impact/) - We hit bottom. Then we hit bottom again. Then we wake up and we are 30-years-old and wonder, “where did I go?” How did I arrive to waking up in the gray damp squalor of a jail cell when last I was paddling an orange We•no•nah canoe to the far, far end of the lake.
- [Sentimental Education: In the Rooms](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/07/sentimental-education-in-the-rooms/) - It’s an old crack, but when I heard it for the first time, it was the first time I’d heard it: “You don’t need rehabilitation, you need habilitation.” It was true, until I had to get sober I had neglected to learn almost all of the things that most people my age were already doing
- [Don't Just Stand There - Do Nothing!](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/05/dont-just-stand-there-do-nothing/) - “He does not seem to me to be a free man who does not sometimes do nothing.” — Marcus Tullius Cicero, Roman lawyer and statesman; 1st century BCThe letter confirming the August 1986 10-day retreat in California’s high-Mojave Desert contained the usual details about weather, suitable clothing, facility, housing, and this: “During the conference, there
- [Encourage Attitude of Gratitude in Children](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/05/encourage-attitude-of-gratitude-in-children/) - What does it mean to feel gratitude? More than just being thankful, a feeling of gratitude can help you connect with the people in your life and the world that surrounds you. Learning to practice gratitude as an adult is often deliberate action, but if we can show a child how to feel gratitude, they
- [My Retreat](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/05/my-retreat/) - I am not a woman naturally drawn to serenity or stillness. I am often tangled in the trees and quite unable to detect the shape of the forest. I do not tend to meditate, or exercise with the kind of disciplined regularity required to make up a healthy habit. There is however, a place I
- [create art! make music! explore!](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/03/create-art-make-music-explore/) - create art! make music! explore!It was the holiday season, my day off, and I was up to my eyeballs with things to do. So when my daughter phoned inviting me to make baked dough ornaments, I thought I just don’t have the time. But I really wanted to spend time with her so I happily
- [Finding Your Voice](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/03/finding-your-voice/) - A lot of people claim that they can’t sing. Maybe at some point in their life, someone told them they couldn’t carry a tune. Maybe they were told that they were being too loud or obnoxious. Maybe they started thinking that singing wasn’t cool, or that it was only acceptable in a karaoke bar under
- [Thanks for the Words of Encouragement](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/03/thanks-for-the-words-of-encouragement/) - From an early age I had low self-esteem partly as a result of being criticized unrealistically by my mother. I was a perfectionist and struggled with anger, frustration and tension. Besides that I felt like my parents were smothering me with over protection. College graduation coincided with a break up with my boyfriend, dashing marriage
- [Accepting Reality](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/03/quotes/) - I see myself on the high-speed motorbike with skin-tight leather jeans and long shiny hair and the looks of an angel. I see myself acting in a movie. The movie wins an Oscar, and I have all that I need and cherish as an actor and author. I see myself being a great leader whose
- [Welcome Spring with Health, Fitness, and Cooking apps](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/03/welcome-spring-with-health-fitness-and-cooking-apps/) - With the weather finally heating up (goodbye snowpocalypse!) it's that time of year again when we layer down and show some skin. For those of you who didn't exactly get that body you've been hoping for during this year's hellish winter... don't stress.From running to biking to cooking, here are some apps that will get
- [Getting unstuck from depression](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/03/getting-unstuck-from-depression/) - On the bus recently I overheard a woman on her cellphone. “I’m so depressed,” she told the person on the receiving end. Later that day, I was on the receiving end as I listened to a friend from across the country explain that it’s been hard to get out of bed in the mornings. I
- [A Brief Taxonomy of Addiction](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/03/a-brief-taxonomy-of-addiction/) - “Think you’re different”? read the tagline on the poster my first C.D. counselor would point to the second a new patient entered his office. The words, printed in a cheerfully comic balloon-lettered font scrolled over a depiction of thousands of densely massed European lady bugs, bright red with big black polka dots. “I’d relate better”
- [Letter to the Editor](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/03/letter-to-the-editor-3/) - Dear Reader,I can well appreciate your response to my article on parents who are abandoned by their children. Certainly people who were abused in childhood ought not be judged or pressured to reunite with their parents unless they are internally lead to do so. Some abused people actually may lessen their damage by trying to
- [When Did You Die?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/03/when-did-you-die/) - 8 Steps to Stop Dying Every Day and Start Waking Up By Temple Hayes Health Communications, Inc. Hayes shares with the readers that she is amazed to be alive. She grew up in a violent and neglectful home. She admits she’s been in many automobile accidents and many times she drank enough alcohol to kill
- [Imagine the Life You’d Love to Live, Then Live It:](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/03/imagine-the-life-youd-love-to-live-then-live-it/) - 52 Inspired Habits and Playful PromptsBy Peg ConleyViva Editions How are you living the life you want to live? Conley describes her creative journey and provides 52 chapters of common sense advice to inspire new habits and disciplines. This book has useful tips from an artist and owner of a successful greeting card and stationery
- [Faith: Essays from Believers, Agnostics, and Atheists](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/03/faith-essays-from-believers-agnostics-and-atheists/) - By Victoria ZackheimBeyond Words Publishing Zackheim was well into her sixties when she began to explore what she believed, and in turn, asked others about their beliefs. She asked, “What do you believe?” Their responses and how they came to their beliefs are included in this anthology.This collection of thought-provoking essays was written by 23
- [Kids’ Power-Healing Games for Children of Alcoholics](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/01/kids-power-healing-games-for-children-of-alcoholics/) - By Jerry Moe and Don Pohlman Imagin Works Puppet play for the younger children and a crossword puzzle for older kids — these games and more are available to assist adults who interact with children who have been affected by the disease of alcoholism or drug addiction. For 15 years, Moe and Pohlman have been
- [Choices and Illusions: How Did I Get to Where I Am, and How Do I Get Where I Want to Be?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/01/choices-and-illusions-how-did-i-get-to-where-i-am-and-how-do-i-get-where-i-want-to-be/) - By Eldon Taylor Hay House This revised edition of a New York Times bestseller is based on 30 years of research and includes 5 new chapters. All of these years later, Taylor still recommends, “Don’t be manipulated by others.” He suggests instead, “Understand your own mind and be your own person.” Taylor uses case studies
- [Blamestorming: Why Conversations Go Wrong and How to Fix Them](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/01/blamestorming-why-conversations-go-wrong-and-how-to-fix-them/) - By Rob Kendall Watkins Publishing This is a guide to survive challenging conversations and avoid the pitfalls that can sabotage them. Kendall says it is, “How to stop conversations becoming destructive arguments.” He provides strategies to deal with the four fundamental situations: the tangle, the big argument, the bad place, and the lock down. The
- [Letter to the Editor](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/01/letter-to-the-editor/) - Dear Editor: Though I regularly find useful and supportive advice and information in The Phoenix Spirit, I was shocked by the tone of John Driggs’ latest column, which, in defending parents, came across as very blaming and shaming of (adult) children. Here are a couple quotes that were especially troubling: "… no matter how problematic
- [Applying the Wisdom of Recovery to Your Finances](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/01/applying-the-wisdom-of-recovery-to-your-finances/) - We seek to live whole lives in recovery and wellness, but it is so easy to find parts of our lives that get compartmentalized or ceded away from recovery principles. Personal finance is one of those areas where the wisdom and tools of recovery could help, but many people get overwhelmed, and doubly so when
- [New Year? What New Year?](https://thephoenixspirit.com/2015/01/new-year-what-new-year/) - Why it’s so Hard for us to Keep our ResolutionsWith another New Year under our belts, up to half (48 percent) of us made New Year’s resolutions. Only eight percent of us actually achieve the goals we set for ourselves. So why is it so hard for us to keep our commitment to our self-made

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- [Hope for Parents Al-Anon Group](https://thephoenixspirit.com/resource/hope-for-parents-al-anon-group/) - In-person Meeting: Tuesdays 7:30-9:00pm. Calvary Lutheran Church7520 Golden Valley RoadGolden Valley, Mn 554272nd Floor, room 203. Park in back Zoom Meeting: Tuesdays 7:30-9:00pm. Please log into zoom 5-10 minutes early and mute yourself. Join Zoom Meetinghttps://us06web.zoom.us/j/89618866549?pwd=RFpFN3d0V21STkQwanM4Qmh0Nkk0Zz09 Meeting ID: 896 1886 6549Password / Passcode: 797393
- [Nicotine Anonymous (Minneapolis)](https://thephoenixspirit.com/resource/nicotine-anonymous-minneapolis/) - Nicotine Anonymous meets on Thursdays at 7PM, downstairs at 3520 W 43rd St in Minneapolis.
- [Pathfinder Care](https://thephoenixspirit.com/resource/pathfinder-care/) - Pathfinder Care is an Intensive Outpatient Program providing substance use and mental health treatment services in Saint Paul. Our 12 hours of weekly programming is offered Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, and Friday from 9:00 a.m. to 12:00 p.m. Pathfinder Care also offers a Community Assessment Program, providing substance use assessments to help individuals access the appropriate
- [Loosid](https://thephoenixspirit.com/resource/loosid/) - Loosid is the #1 sobriety app for a clean and sober lifestyle. Track your sobriety, connect with a community of sober people, meet sober singles, and get AI-powered support through SAM. Free to join on iOS and Android.
- [Soberlink](https://thephoenixspirit.com/resource/soberlink/) - Rebuilding trust is one of the hardest parts of recovery. Soberlink's real-time alcohol monitoring lets you share verified sobriety results with family, counselors, or courts, giving you the proof and confidence to own your journey.
- [MARCO](https://thephoenixspirit.com/resource/marco/) - MARCO (Minnesota Alliance of Recovery Community Organizations) is a statewide Recovery Community Organization (RCO) working to build an ecosystem of recovery. We believe that long-term system change starts in our communities and that RCOs are essential partners in building a recovery-oriented society.
- [12 Step Caregivers Group](https://thephoenixspirit.com/resource/12-step-caregivers-group/) - We are a group of caregivers who share their experience, strength and hope with one another. We read out of the book Self-care for Caregivers, a Twelve Step Approach by author Pat Samples. If you are a caregiver for a loved one or in any capacity, come join us for additional support and solutions to
- [Adult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families (MN)](https://thephoenixspirit.com/resource/adult-children-of-alcoholics-dysfunctional-families-mn/) - Fridley, MN ACAD - Adult Children of Alcoholis & Disfunctional Families. Saturday 10:00 AM in Room 1 Enter through Door 3 or Door 11 and proceed to meeting in Room 1. (Room 1 is on the opposite side of the church from Door 3 and Next to Door 11). Watch for signs and maps.
- [Augsburg StepUP](https://thephoenixspirit.com/resource/augsburg-stepup/) - StepUP is an innovative residential Collegiate Recovery Community for students furthering their education while in recovery from substance use disorders. Our Give to the Max Link is in our linktr.ee/stepupprogram below.
- [Co-dependents Anonymous (Minnesota)](https://thephoenixspirit.com/resource/coda-mn/) - Co-dependents Anonymous (CoDA): Tuesdays 6:30pm-8:00pm, Beautiful Savior Lutheran, 5005 Northwest Blvd. Plymouth 55442. Open to men and women.
- [Narcotics Anonymous (Minnesota)](https://thephoenixspirit.com/resource/narcotics-anonymous-minnesota/) - Narcotics Anonymous is a nonprofit fellowship or society of men and women for whom drugs had become a major problem. We are recovering addicts who meet regularly to help each other stay clean. We have found through our group experience that the therapeutic value of one addict helping another is without parallel.
- [Transformation House](https://thephoenixspirit.com/resource/transformation-house/) - Transformation House is a behavioral health care provider, specializing in substance use disorders (SUD) and mental health treatment services. Located in the Twin Cities’ North Metro, with two residential facilities, outpatient programs, a psych clinic, and sober living we offer superior quality treatment and exceptional support for families, social workers, criminal justice case managers, and
- [Gam-Anon](https://thephoenixspirit.com/resource/gam-anon/) - Purposes of Gam-Anon 1. To welcome and give assistance and comfort to those affected by someone else's gambling problem. 2. To communicate Gam-Anon's understanding of compulsive gambling and its impact on our lives. 3. To share our experience, strength, and hope in coping with the gambling problem. 4. To use the Steps and Tools of
- [Al-Anon / Alateen](https://thephoenixspirit.com/resource/al-anon/) - Al‑Anon is a mutual support program for people whose lives have been affected by someone else’s drinking. By sharing common experiences and applying the Al-Anon principles, families and friends of alcoholics can bring positive changes to their individual situations, whether or not the alcoholic admits the existence of a drinking problem or seeks help. Alateen,
- [RockBridge Treatment & Recovery](https://thephoenixspirit.com/resource/rockbridge-treatment-recovery/) - At RockBridge, we address your whole person, body, mind, and spirit. Our accommodations are surrounded by a natural setting full of serenity and peace to begin healing your body. Our focus on mental health and continuing outpatient programs will begin to heal your mind. Our chapels and opportunities to pray and talk to chaplains will
- [Greater Minneapolis Intergroup Alcoholics Anonymous](https://thephoenixspirit.com/resource/greater-minneapolis-intergroup-alcoholics-anonymous/) - Intergroup is a local service office dedicated to helping newcomers who are seeking Alcoholics Anonymous. • Phones answered 24 hours a day• Maintains online A.A. Meeting Directory• 12-Step calls• A.A. Literature – English, Spanish, non English languages• A.A. Grapevine publications• A.A. Orientation Meetings• MIRUS monthly newsletter (Minneapolis Intergroup Recovery Unity and Service)• Public information• Publication
- [Lakeside Academy](https://thephoenixspirit.com/resource/lakeside-academy/) - Lakeside Academy is a faith-based residential treatment center for boys aged 14-18 years, who are struggling with substance use, anger management, and other behavioral issues. Set on 48 acres in the Buffalo, MN area, Lakeside Academy offers licensed treatment, mental health and other counseling services, and onsite education including conventional, online, and project based learning
- [Minnesota Hope Dealerz](https://thephoenixspirit.com/resource/minnesota-hope-dealerz/) - We’re committed to investing our expertise and resources in order to further achieve our cause. Since 2019, we’ve been supporting our community members in a variety of ways and measuring our success not by monetary size, but by qualitative measurements such as the scale and effectiveness of our efforts. Just imagine what we can achieve
- [Missions, Inc.](https://thephoenixspirit.com/resource/missions-inc/) - Missions Inc. is a nonprofit organization with a proud history of more than a century of service. We are located at three sites in Plymouth, St. Paul and Columbia Heights, MN, providing chemical health, domestic violence and long-term care services through seven programs, serving over 3,000 people each year.
- [Vinland National Center](https://thephoenixspirit.com/resource/vinland-national-center/) - Vinland provides drug and alcohol treatment for adults with cognitive impairments. Staff members strive to make all possible accommodations for cognitive deficits and adaptations for individual learning styles.
- [Minnesota Adult & Teen Challenge](https://thephoenixspirit.com/resource/minnesota-adult-teen-challenge/) - Our mission is to assist men, women and teens in gaining freedom from chemical addictions and other life-controlling problems by addressing their physical, emotional and spiritual needs.

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